Why did my girlfriend suddenly ghosts me and then break up out of nowhere?

[Alxve]

So, one day me and my girlfriend were chatting but suddenly she ghosted me mid convo. I dont understand the reason why but then I didn't message her anything for 2 days. Nor she said anything for 2 days. I thought she needed space or its an emergency..
Then out of no where, when I wake up the first thing I see is her message and she said "Lets stop dating" and just blocked me?
Like what? Does she always want me to initiate the conversation?

[Finchie40]

Because she probably met someone else that caught her interest, unfortunately that’s what a lot of girls’ do , I can’t speak for every girl, but most of them do this. they look for the next best opportunity while stringing you along , because a lot of girls’ are selfish people , that have the grass is greener syndrome inside themselves. Most girls’ date a guy for status , and what she can gain from him. Girls’ are all about gossip as well , so she wants to be with a guy that she can brag about and speak highly about. If you don’t measure up to her expectations, she will leave you or cheat on you with someone else that she thinks is better than you that she can brag about to her friends’ so when a girl drops you immediately, it more than likely means the other guy she had her eyes set on , wants her as well. So she traded you in for another guy that she thinks is better than you. Do yourself a favor and just accept it and move on and don’t look back , because she already spread her legs to that other guy , without a doubt. so move on and take your chance with another girl , that hopefully doesn’t do what your ex did to you. unfortunately in today’s’ world, it’s hard to find loyal good girls , because most of them are selfish people that only want what she feels is best for herself , if you don’t line up wit her fairy tale imagination , she will drop you in a heart beat. So to find an actual good girl that loves you and stands by your side , is unfortunately a lot harder to come by these days , why so many guys’ today do not want relationship s or marriages with girls’ because most of them are whores , that keep their options open for the next best thing. You can be an amazing guy to a girl , treat her like gold and love her and take care of her , but the second you fail to do so , she won’t say No to another guy that she feels is better than you are. A guy needs to be good looking , and make good money and have a nice size cock for her to stay by his side otherwise , it’s just your turn until the next one come along. I have witnessed and experienced this with girls’ tons of times. Why I no longer rush into relationships with girls’ because
Most of them are selfish people

[Alxve]

Woah man thank you for the big letter you spent time on writing man.
I am sorry about your situation though I do truly hope you find someone better.
Tbh, I personally dont care that she left like the most immature way possible. Since dating a immature girlfriend is just same as holding an armed time bomb

[NicholasofAustralia]

"most of them are selfish people" : this should be on God's daily Diary 🙏 📚📖 engraved. @Finchie40 please copyright that ©️

[OneViewpoint]

You're 19. I assume she's in the same age range. You're both clueless. This is gonna go on until at least your mid to late 20's.

• She's immature.
• She got offended by something you said that you don't even know was offensive.
• She's insecure and wants to see if you'll chase or grovel for her.
• She found a hotter guy to validate her.
• Her friends trashed you.
• She read a Cosmo article.
• She watched a YouTube video now all men are shit.
• God damn it, you're supposed to read her mind. She shouldn't have to explain herself.

Get used to it. Move on to the next one. There are plenty more.

[Screenwriter]

This isn't about initiating a conversation. She didn't ghost you. She said, "Let's stop dating." That indicates she has ended whatever relationship you were having. That's closure.

Though she hasn't given you the closure you'd LIKE to hear, she's dished it out.

How long were you dating? Had you recently been arguing? If you weren't together for. long (less than two years) or there had been conflict, seems like she'd reached her level of tolerance for reasons only she precisely knows.

Sad to say, one-sided endings aren't satisfying, but often, they are all someone gets because the person exiting doesn't want confrontation or to talk it out. They're done.

. See a therapist to work through your disappointment, loss, confusion and grief. She's moved on, and after you work through your heartbreak, you will be able to too.

[MusicTokuXX]

Man you sound like an asshole. I doubt your friends come to you for comfort cuz they would just get more upset

[Screenwriter]

@MusicTokuXX You know I can only go on the facts presented. I don't want to date you anymore is a giant fact. And the girlfriend didn't offer to have a talk, did she? So someone a person CAN go to to come to an acceptance of a dissatisfying situation would be a professional counselor.

This asker is not a close personal friend who I would handle differently and who I would obviously know more information about , and about the situation and have a stake in emotionally supporting.

Since I know little about this person, I try to take a rational tact. He sounds confused and stymied, so I present a scanario or two that might explain the OTHER person's sudden cutoff.

Anyone who makes a statement such as, I don't want to date anymore, and offers nothing else has closed the door. They don't want to see you, nor talk to you. It is up to the person closing the door to offer to talk or not offer. She's made no such offer. So my conclusion is, she doesn't want to.

Some people might say, ask her if you could talk to her. That's not my style and with such a cut and dried statement from the woman, I wouldn't pursue anything else. And with no offer from her to talk things out, it appears to me that's also not a road she wants to walk down.

The asker MAY choose to do something different. My opinion is my own and comes from life experience of my own. If the asker doesn't feel comfortable with what I've said, as an adult he is free to ignore what I've said and do something different.

An asshole would say, "Fuck her!" I am trying to weigh what came from her side and from his. Her answer wouldn't satisfy me either, but it's also a hard fact. I think she came across like a rock. Unmovable. And that is what I based my answer on and the little knowledge of the two people.

Not a swami but not an asshole. Cheers.

[Amy10223]

Is it maybe something in the conversation you had, that made her want to stop dating you? You can always ask why. If you can't get through to her, maybe write a short note asking her you would like to know the reason for her request, so you can at least know what happened.

[Alxve]

They said everything was alright but still broke up w me.
Now I can't read minds right if she doesn't say her issue, I can't go anywhere with it.

[AviatorTom]

She no longer wants to date you. Oh well, there are others you can date.

You are young, haven't yet learned that some can be fickle and change their minds. She is obviously it for you. Find someone else to date.

[Master_Debator]

Bro... it's because she's getting dicked down by another guy. Probably was before you got ghosted. Take the red pill already.

It happened to all of us on this red side of the fence and we feel sorry for the men on the blue side of the fence, but at the same time... don't make excuses for her just to stay there. It's time to realize women are not angels that are better than men in any way whatsoever... and may in fact be worse. Maybe not in violent crime-wise, but those criminals had mothers didn't they?

Welcome to the real world... as bleek as it is. I'm sorry... but God was going to teach you this lesson no matter how long you avoided it.

[Master_Debator]

WARNING: She's going to come back if it doesn't work out with him. If that happens, you can choose to be a cuck and deal with it further or move on.

I think it's better if you just move on.

[love_conquers_lust]

What the f***, man. Is this a joke? She breaks up with you out of the blue and your first thought is "why does she always want me to initiate the conversation?" That's your concern? Not that you just lost your girlfriend? You should be more concerned with why you guys broke up. If you do this often, I can see why she broke up with you. It was a shitty way for her to break up with you, however, I say all of this conditionally because there may be, and probably is, some key details you have left out.

[Alxve]

Honestly I tried asking whats the issue but she said everything is fine.
I can't read someones mind yk

[ProbablyClueless]

When stuff like that happens, there was usually a long simmering issue that reached the boiling point. Maybe she was seeing someone else behind your back and decided to pursue something official with him. Maybe she just has a mental problem and doesn’t know how to communicate in a healthy fashion.


The main thing is that you probably shouldn’t see her ghosting as a reflection of your behavior. Unless you have a history of violence or overtly behavior, her ghosting is a statement about her.

[Unycorn]

Are you sure she was your girlfriend?

In my meaning - you date until you are in a relationship. When you are in a relationship ypu don't date. You spend time together with your partner.

Don't worry. It is not worth it. It is poor not to say but to write and block.

by the way. I would ask if it is so quiet. Not thinking she could need space - I would ask and not interpretate.

But I am older than you. Maybe I would not ask when I would be younger...

[Alxve]

I tried asking but she just didn't said anything.
Its like I got to guess her issues.
I even said "Sorry If i Upset you or did anything wrong"
But I can't do more than that yk if the other person is immature.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Would tell you if she made any sense, you dodged a bullet.

[Alxve]

Thank you!
Its odd why I always have to initate a convo while she just randomly vanished mid convo.

[Ms_Facesitter]

You know where she lives, I think the only way is to confront her in person face to face. For closure. But ending a relationship like that is very childish so I hope you're not too hurt by this. You shouldn't tolerate such behavior from anyone.

[Alxve]

Thank you, well she had weird issues tho like asking for money and I deny it probably she is a gold digger and only looking for cash.
I am not sad or affected by this but I am just confused like what in the world just happend all of a sudden.
I also knew this was coming so I already prepared myself emotionally.

[Friendlybro79]

I'm sorry that this happened to you but no one here will be able to know her reasons but her. If you can't talk to her then it's worth trying to go through the motions of what you're feeling, which I'm sure stinks, and move on. That's a crappy thing to do to someone, but at your age, not everyone, men or women, have the emotional intelligence to handle a break up.

Again, I'm sorry to this happened. Have a good night.

[Anonymous]

Most of the time, that happens when they meet someone else. The moment that person said they were open to dating, your girlfriend left you to be with the person they really wanted. And that sucks. But it's better for that to happen sooner than later after you've become invested.

I'm sorry that happened to you. But you'll meet someone better that appreciates you.

[Dargil]

You didn't measure up to her 666 standards. 6' plus, 6 figure income. 6" plus penis. They measure nothing else. Better to stay home and save money and self worth.

[Bricealan]

@Alxve I just love all of the Contemporary internet-current-savy people that latch onto the latest, contemporary terms like "ghosting". Try straightforward English to describe your dilemma

[beenherebefore]

She's clearly not mature enough to be in a relationship. This is childish behavior.

[sage2021]

That's very strange behavior for a guy's 'girlfriend.'
The red flags are going up and all around her!
She sounds like a weirdo!! 🤪🤪

[Alxve]

Yahh, so suddenly I didn't expect it.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Now let's talk about all the signs you missed, prior to this event?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I hate to tell you this, but it was only out of nowhere for you

[whosnumber_1]

Sounds like she probably had broken up with you in her mind a while ago

[worldscolide]

It means she's fucking someone else. You're better off without a piece of shit like her.

[msc545]

She met somebody else that she's more attracted to. Be. Glad that this happened in a way because actually you dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

Dont worry, hun, she found someone better equipped

[oldman26]

And knows how

[firenine909]

Is that how you swing?

[AcidMan]

It is nevet out of nowhere. You never saw the signs she was giving you.

[Anonymous]

Undiagnosed bipolar or other. ? Maybe she needs to see someone.

[Opinion Owner]

Like a shrink, a doctor. A therapist

[Miristheiss]

See has another guy.

[Anonymous]

Something changed her mind and it's done.

[Anonymous]

Tyrone looked in her direction so she joined the BNWO.

[Emmabrow]

Don't bother chasing this type

[LiamJHayden]

She replaced you.

[robocop666]

she met someone new. simple