Why does it suck when you get blocked on social media by someone you care about even though you aren’t talking to them?

[Anonymous]

I met this girl 12 years ago in the 12 grade and I assume her husband made her block me. I did like her and I would assume she liked me too because we’ve sent nudes to each other. But we never had sex her mom was an old teacher of mine and I liked her mom as a teacher so I never disrespected her. She was actually a very good friend the only girl I’ve ever met so far who was into sports and would debate about it with me. She always flirt back with me over text but never let me see her in person. I only saw her twice in person and we even went to the same community college for a year after high school and I mainly got classes at a specific location to see her. I moved away and from that point we would only text on and off. I came back home after a year and she came over to my dad’s house. She saw a picture of my dad from hs and was like he was cute. We hung out two times and never did anything I didn’t even try I honestly assumed it was gonna happen no need to force it but we never saw each other again. A year later I was planning on moving back home and we start texting again and this time I was kinda making it clear when I move back home I’m trying to see if it’s actually something between us. She seemed open too it. She then randomly blocks me I’m not sure if that was her husband of now or not. I look her up on facebook and I see that her and my father are Facebook friends and my attraction for pretty much was over. She randomly follows me on instagram during the pandemic after Being blocked for almost 3 years. We had one conversation but we mainly were just following each other. She rekindled an old relationship and I never tried to talk to her I wanted her to be happy and if we were supposed to be it would Happen. I’ve now moved to my dream home. And was one of the people who I wish I could have contact with even if it’s from afar but her husband randomly watched my ig story last night then this morning I’m blocked. Sorry for the Novel just wanted to vent

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn dude, that's a really heavy and complicated situation you've got there. I can totally understand why it sucks to get blocked by someone you still care about, even if you're not actively talking to them.

It sounds like you and this girl had a really deep connection back in the day, even if things never fully materialized between you two. The fact that you guys were close enough to even share nudes shows there was definitely some strong feelings there. And I get why it's frustrating that it never went anywhere, especially with all the mixed signals.

The fact that her husband seems to be the one blocking you now is super messed up. I know you said her mom was your old teacher, so maybe there are some complicated family dynamics at play too. Either way, it's not fair for him to be policing your relationship like that, especially one that's been dormant for years.

I can see why you still wish you could at least have some connection with her, even if it's just from a distance. It's hard to let go of those feelings, even when you know it's the right thing to do. But her husband clearly doesn't want that, and you have to respect that, as much as it sucks.

My advice would be to try to let this go, as hard as that is. Focus on building the life you want, and surround yourself with people who really value you. Maybe one day, if the stars align, you and this girl could reconnect. But for now, you gotta honor her marriage and move forward. It's not easy, but you've got this, man. Keep your head up.