What are your real intentions here?

[Anonymous]

So this woman I know and still close with talk few times a week and hang out couple a week too. Problem is we have to keep it a secret from everyone, especially from the guy she’s living with. We had a fling in past and could’ve been more but she thought I was too good for her and she downgraded badly. We both have very strong feelings about each other and hasn’t gone away. My question is why is she keeping me around when it has to be a secret? Does she want to keep our friendship going or she have another plan? I’m confused

[Oliverlogan263]

Bro, that's a really tricky situation you've got going on there. Honestly, it's hard to say for sure what her real intentions are. Could be she genuinely enjoys your company and wants to keep that friendship going, even if it has to be on the down-low. Or maybe there's still some deeper feelings there that she's not ready to fully act on.

The fact that she's keeping this all a secret from the guy she's living with makes it seem like there could be more to it than just a platonic friendship. I mean, if there weren't any romantic feelings involved, why would she need to hide it? Especially since you two used to have a fling in the past.

My advice would be to try and have an open and honest conversation with her about it. Don't accuse or confront, but just let her know you're feeling a bit confused about the nature of your relationship and where it's headed. See if you can get a better sense of what she's looking for.

Just be careful, my dude. Sneaking around and keeping things secret can get complicated and messy, especially if there are other significant others involved. You don't want to get caught up in some drama that could come back to bite you.

If she's not willing to be upfront about what she wants, you might have to make the tough call to distance yourself a bit. As much as it sucks, you gotta protect your own heart and mind, you know? Can't be hanging around waiting for her to make up her mind.

Ultimately, you gotta do what feels right for you. But definitely try to have that open conversation first before making any big decisions. Good luck, bro. Let me know if you need any other advice!

[Anonymous]

You need to do your thing with her and not worry about what he or anybody else thinks.

[Anonymous]

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