Do you ever feel judged?

Question

I told someone on here something very personal and they promised not to judge me. I told them and the person said they no longer had interests in talking to me. But also said that they didn’t judge it. Does this make sense?

Blunky · Accepted Answer

I judge myself. A lot. It's how I keep myself in check. It's good to take a breath every now and then to reflect on things and I take judgements from people who actually know me into consideration. I've been judged by enough people who don't know a thing about about me to the point where they're just background noise now.

Understand that there is no such thing as being non-judgemental. Talk to AI if you want that, they're great for validation. Even therapists recommend it, the ones who aren't worried about losing their jobs to it. Humans are constantly assessing each other consciously or unconsciously. The people who judge in silence instead of communicating are the ones I don't want in my life.

Lowly_Grumper · Accepted Answer

I report any comment that judges my lifestyle:

thegreenyogi · Accepted Answer

Depends how you look at it. I have been judged often throughout my life and I think we all have been judged at some point. I guess you need to stop caring and do whatever makes you happy regardless of what people think. In your specific situation it could be that although this person doesn't judge you they made it clear that whatever you told them makes them understand you're not a person they'd want to talk to. They're two very different things.

CruelParadise · Accepted Answer

Maybe they were shocked. I’ve felt and been judged. Now I just feel tired lol

Zack-Bann · Answer

If what you told them was
“i like kids”
You probably deserved it
(Or anything of that magnitude)

That’s why I never set false expectations for people when they open up to me

When I’m giving advice I will be critical and try to get results. That only happens if some judgement is involved

However I am not quick to pass that judgement and do try to remain indifferent in the face of most behaviors as humans are more complicated than we make them out to be

It’s a mixed bag

As for being judged myself.
Happens all the time, I pay it no mind.
Because my own self image is the only thing I care about.
Does it make me self centered? Yes
But it never makes me a liar

Kayla45 · Answer

Sometimes it feels like everyone’s eyes are on you, analyzing every little thing from how you dress to how you speak or even how you just exist. It’s like no matter what you do, someone’s always ready to have an opinion about it. You could be totally yourself and still feel like you’re not measuring up to some invisible standard.

People can be super judgmental of others without even considering their own shortcomings, simply because they’re typically arrogant and childish.

NathanDavis · Answer

judging is about the most natural things for humanity...  we all do it, and for some good reasons too... prejudice and misjudging, very different things though...

denzooo9 · Answer

whenever i’ve been judged, it was for the right reasons. like few days ago had green cotton balls stuck all over under my shoe and i was sleepingg with those shoes facing everyonee 😭 byee i deserve to get judged for thatt.

i’m sorry about what happened to you tho. seems like people sometimes say they won't judge as a joke😭🫶

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Answer

Well, obviously they judge on some things and something you said must have triggered them in a bad way. I would just chalk it up to a bad experience and move on.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

it's how our minds work... that's why the institution of friends is so important in our lives... those people know us well enough not to be judgmental and are open to us enough to really hear us...

Anonymous · Answer

You learn pretty quickly on this site if you even remotely think you might be judged, without a doubt you will. And this is why if there is EVER a question to it. You ask it anonymously. This not only protects you. But protects you from later retaliation. Because I guarantee you that happens religiously as well.

Abbycado · Answer

Judging by the number of people that have me blocked on this question, I will have to say I do. XD

Mon1to · Answer

If someone judges you, they don’t need to be part of your life—they better stay away:D  Do I feel judged? Yeah, most of the time. Honestly, it’s mostly because of my social anxiety.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I get judged and I judge others.. it really doesn't matter.. You must have said something strange for someone from here not to want to talk to you lol

sage2021 · Answer

Some people will tell you anything to get your guard down and wait for you to spill your guts out to them and then they use it against you. Ever heard of a liar before?

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

İLEYes, I was judged, but that's okay, you should feel good too, don't let talking to a stupid person bring your mood down.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

How to hold such a promise anyway?

It sounds more idealistic than realistic, psychologically, to assume that we're going to remain detached in front of something we have no idea about in the first place

Uglygaypoorcoward94 · Answer

Bro, I live in condemnation. Anytime im out in public someone always has a insult to throw at me, sniff at me or laugh at me

Professor-college · Answer

Yeah I understand what you're saying sometimes I also try to talk about my problems to other people and they start judging instead of giving me their opinion and how to improve the situation

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

All the time, it only matters if the person matters to me though

LiamJHayden · Answer

I get judged, but I do not let it bother me. That is life.

HCalculators · Answer

Feeling judged is natural, but what truly matters is how you see yourself. Confidence silences the critics

blackeagle007 · Answer

People who judge having issues themselves. Bleep them

EmmaMary · Answer

Show me someone who hasn't.

molonski2 · Answer

Constantly judged no doubt.

Anonymous · Answer

Not quite as cut and dry as that and you know it. But if it makes you feel better have at it

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

Some people can't help but judge lol

elizamichale1 · Answer

Most of the times tbh

DrPepper12 · Answer

The separation is so they don't judge.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

I'm black. Guess.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Only when I’ve been to court.

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

yes im too ugly i need to fix it

Eempriyanka · Answer

Don't care 😝

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