What's something you feel like you've been judged over the most?

Question

WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

Back in the day, definitely just being a white kid who liked rap music. I grew up pre-Eminem, so that shit wasn’t really accepted by other white people yet. I was a trailblazer😂 I grew up mostly in the city and went to diverse schools but then went to a private high school for sports. Said high school was mostly preppy white dudes from the suburbs. They hated rap, mostly, other than the poppier stuff that came out in the 90s. But I listened to REAL rap, and these dudes weren’t down with Mobb Deep and such, haha

https://www.youtube.com/embed/yoYZf-lBF_U

Bruh, I knew Fugees before ANYBODY, and I almost got in a fight in this unsupervised study hall. The school experimented with new block scheduling one year, was poorly planned and they realized kids would have free periods the same time as lunch, and they’d take up seating in the cafeteria and the kids scheduled for lunch might not be able to sit…it was a whole thing, and yadda yadda, they came up with putting us in empty classrooms but had no staff to watch us, it was the Wild West lmao.

ANYWAY…I had a speaker you could plug into the headphone jack of your WalkMan (ask your grandparents what they were😂), and here I was trying to do everyone the favor of getting them in on the ground floor of a prominent 90s hip hop group….

https://www.youtube.com/embed/m4t5R3fTbD0

…and one of these Philistines called me “the W-word”😱😭 Long story short, he ended up flipped onto his back and shoulders on the floor over a desk, with his feet in the air, and I spared him from the worst, but the point was made, at least for that day.

But I dealt with a TON of bullshit over my music and clothes. Dumbass shit, “wHaT dO yOu tHiNk, YoU’rE bLaCk?”, evvvvvvryday🙄🙄🙄 The Black dudes were always cool, I hung out with them a lot…. and wouldn’t you know it? NOBODY had much to say when I was with them🤔🙄😂 Weird…

I don’t know, I got along ok because I could play ball, I had plenty of friends in the jock ranks, but I could never be fully accepted there because a handful of them were part of the faction that gave me shit.

Actually, the worst was this kid Kevin I got to be friends with at the end of freshman year. He was white too, also liked rap, he was a stoner too, and I was like “FINALLY…this kid is like me.” Turned out his family had a house near the beach where my aunt lived, like a block away. So I ended up hanging out with him a TON the first half of the summer, smoking poorly rolled blunts, listening to Snoop Doggy Dogg’s (his OG stage name😝) first album on repeat, playing Mortal Kombat 2 at the arcade, etc.

One day we had loose plans to hang out at the beach. I never heard from him. I went to the beach myself, and he was there, with this other kid Neil, who looked like a huge nerd but was actually a punk rocker. Like a lighter-haired McLovin with a flat-top, in red plaid pants and Doc Martens, lmao.

I just walked up like everything was cool, expecting a warm reception. Kevin totally froze me out. I tried to fight through it, I had a new Spice-1 tape (West Coast gangsta rap) and a comedy tape of Martin Lawrence, which I also expected to be well-received. But that day was the day that Kevin decided that joining the punk rock crew would be better for his act socially than being a white kid who liked rap. So I was just like…

https://www.youtube.com/embed/KwnZYVOiHRg

So Kevin started clowning on my music along with Neil, who was less mean-spirited about it, we were just meeting the first time. Neil actually turned out to be cooler than Kevin, I was friendly with him later down the line, haha

Eventually I read the room and just said “later” and went on my way, and we never hung out again. I remember him making some kind of comment to me out of nowhere…At that point he had on a Pink Floyd hat, had longish hair, and abandoned all hip hop style, like two months later, lmao. I think we just had some kind of a “what’s your problem, bro?” exchange, the first time the rift was acknowledged, and I just remember him saying to me “at least I’m not pretending to be something I’m not!”, and that was the last time we really spoke for a couple years.

By senior year he was a full-on skinhead, the tight black jeans, the black boots with white laces, the free-hanging red suspenders off his waist. There was one time where we ended up next to each other, and he just said “what’s up, Steve”, and I just said “what’s up” back. I don’t know if it was an olive branch or just more mature cordiality, but that was about the last of it. I was fine, but just kind of sucks to have a budding friendship and then they just switch sides on you. I was way cooler than he was in high school, lmao, he took the fall, not me😂

But yeah, one whole novel later, that’s definitely been what people have judged me for, still to this day, in some ways.

Lynx122 · Accepted Answer

My job situation. People mostly think I'm "normal" so when they find out I'm disabled it can feel uncomfortable. I'm sort of used to it now and people are not rude about it or anything but nobody has to say anything. I already know from what society values that nobody i thinking it's admirable or something to look up to or anything like that. I feel good that I'm taking care of my needs and not overexerting myself to fit in. But if I had the capacity I'm sure it would be easier to have conversations like that if I had a normal job XD. But I've decided long ago that I value my mental health above everything else so I'm used to making sacrifices in other areas for it and I think it's still the right decision. I'll take on new challenges when I have the capacity and not before :).

Sirenboobzilla · Accepted Answer

I play it off very well, but it's always bothered me how people will assume that my level of intelligence is affected by my sex drive, my lack of inhibitions, my wardrobe, and even my by my choice in partner. I can be all that and still have near perfect scores throughout my academic career...

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

My bod because I weighed 190 lbs at one time when in High School. The name most called causes the term lardass to come to mind. 😔

Wallythewalrus2 · Answer

People think I'm a conceded asshole and abrasive. I like to kid around with people but yes, I do/can take it too far at times and people judge me for that, which tends to have some keep their distance. My wife couldn't stand me when we first met! It was a few meetings before she realized I am actually a good guy.

adriana_wife · Answer

People often judge me for being quiet in public or for seeming shy, assuming that I'm either disinterested or lacking confidence. They don't realize that sometimes I just prefer observing, or that I’m more comfortable in smaller circles where I can have meaningful conversations. It's not about not wanting to talk it's more about choosing when and with whom I want to open up. I just don’t feel the need to force words when silence is enough for me.

Still-alive · Answer

Probably being a gamer. I can’t count the number of times i had people judge me for ‘wasting my life’ or something. Well as Tim Walz says maybe they should ‘momd their own damn business.’ 😏

Staximus · Answer

My height, baldness, weight, and looking old before my time. Luckily most people my age caught up to me in the fat and looking old department. I lost weight and stopped aging about 10 years ago, I still look the same and now everybody else looks old and fat. Now I'm getting the last laugh.

RebelinSteel · Answer

My choices in girls, kinks and having zero shame or zero fucks about what others think, also lack of commitment in relationships - that is mainly family as they want me married off and quiet lol 🤣

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Nothing really comes to mind. I guess my friends sometimes judge me not marrying someone again. But it isn't unkind judgement, it's more they wish I had someone.

snowboarder720 · Answer

Being a nerd. I was always good with math and have a passion for electronics. Growing up I didn’t talk to a lot of people and was made fun of.

GOLDFISH_smile · Answer

Being trans. B4 that would've been wearing makeup or alt clothes as a guy, which got judged but not as bad for sure.

Sunnysunny123 · Answer

Being brutally honest, sometimes i can't shut up and it is becoming a problem so i am trying to work on it.

Account · Answer

That I can be very cold and detached.  In my defense, I do that if I don't feel a good vibe not due to superiority or some shit like that.

Wiredone · Answer

Either how thrifty I am or how I treat women

Grond21 · Answer

I think I've been accused the most being gullible or ignorant because I didn't speak like others. It has decreased as I have gotten older, but the assumption still happens

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Not expressing myself much, if I am sad or happy, I don't express it as much as others, unless we're close.

Bilboes · Answer

Probably my outside attires but I really don't give a damn about it..

Catguy92 · Answer

I get judged sometimes for not being able to find someone to talk too in a gathering. None of the conversations going on interest me but people still expect me to talk a lot.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Online:For being Indian In real life:For dating the guys I like

Kelly6 · Answer

@mandyfire98 Mostly my sexual life or my job

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Don't care about judgement if doing nothing wrong fuck them

dragoblack · Answer

Being single and suffering from loneliness & confusion

Agape93 · Answer

Sexuality. Hands down

petitedollbabee · Answer

Scars. A past with self harm and the scars that are left over tend to make people very judgy.

FoolishMortal666 · Answer

that I don't care to change because I'm comfortable with all my flaws

Kittywheelz · Answer

Sometimes I feel like Im being judged because I'm not someone else

Coden7 · Answer

Probably being a nerd growing up. I just kept to myself, and the books I liked to read because I wasn’t very good at communicating back then.

kinkynicci · Answer

My sexual desires and past

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

People thought I let me ex get away with whatever she wanted. I don't care so long as whomever I'm with is happy

coolbreeze · Answer

My good work ethic and being a team player.

luvstoned4him · Answer

Looks, attitude mostly

Marathonmama · Answer

Wearing a thong bikini apparently

elaphe · Answer

Questions I post on here. OMG, I can't believe the hate.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Being too happy.

Thot_Stomper · Answer

Not knowing my body count

Anonymous · Answer

Being anti war.

Nazgol · Answer

Being sexual & outspoken

CubaPirate · Answer

My telling it like it is lol

Anonymous · Answer

My sexuality and preferences/proclivities

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

That's a very good question 😅

famen · Answer

By having sex with older womens.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Leaving NYC behind in early 2000s.

convo_king89 · Answer

Me and my panty fetish.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Being a single mom

nik0102 · Answer

My height

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Being too tall

dougeats · Answer

My NY accent

eagle1951 · Answer

my age

justabuddy · Answer

Work items.

Slim57 · Answer

Not talking much

Bukuru · Answer

You've to be hustler

Llilii · Answer

being too sexy

What's something you feel like you've been judged over the most?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Do you ever feel judged?

What's something you feel like you've been judged over the most?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Do you ever feel judged?

We're glad to see you liked this post.