Do you ever feel that you compare yourself to others too often?

[AngelOfLight258]

[Lynx122]

Ehm yes. I'm mentally disabled and I can think well but being independent and productive is very difficult for me so I can see the life I could lead but I can't reach it. And that can be very frustrating. I have a lot of experience in dealing with this and I think I am very good at handling my mental health in general but when you're always around people who have an easy time of doing what they set their mind to have careers relationships and still have time and energy to be active in their free time it's kind of hard to be unaffected by that. Humans always need to compare one thing to another to really know if it's the best or good or not good enough that's just how we function. So I think it's kind of natural you just have to not let it take over or affect you too much.

I am dependent on my environment a lot for how well I can handle challenges and atm it's not good at all. I'm moving in 2 months and I have a lot of hope that it will get a lot better but exactly how much I don't know yet. There's one goal I really want to work on that I haven't managed yet. I don't really expect myself to be as productive as other people but just having one thing that I put effort into and put out there would mean a lot to me. A lot of people think I have a lot to offer but if I can't condense it into anything tangible it will just not have any effect.

[Lynx122]

thanks for mho :)

[Chazmatazz269]

When i was young, of course. Such is the way of the young and impressionable. Not now. I was probably fifteen when i realized the value of my uniqueness and began to appreciate it. I kind of swung too far that direction and became very anti-conformity. I harshly judged people who tried to fit in, possibly because i never really did myself. I’ve moderated my feelings on the matter. I know we’re social animals and it’s important to fit in. I know that our similarities are what give us strength and power in the sociopolitical spectrum. I also know that we need to be in touch with our individualism more than a little, and be comfortable with it. I think that’s one of the most difficult things for a kid to learn, and if a parent hasn’t learned it for themselves they’re not much use to a kid who needs guidance.

[grapefruit11]

Yes. I compare my physical appearance to other women way too often. It’s not that I don’t like a lot of things about myself. There are just some physical features I want but don’t have like nice arched feet, a smaller forehead, perfect natural nails, wider hips. So, when I see beautiful women who have those features in particular, I do feel my self esteem take a little hit.


I also compare myself if I’m in a learning environment or some kind of situation where my proficiency is being judged. I worry about being way less skilled than everyone else. I struggled with that when I went away to a pretty top-notch college and was surrounded by all these rich kids who went to fancy private schools and had luxury cars and a specific career path lined up. In that situation, it affected me so much that I got depressed and left even though I was getting decent grades.

[SEL195]

Yes i used to. Untill i accepted myself and my flaws and now i love my flaws. I only compare myself to myself now and let me tell you I have never been happier. I also stopped caring about what other people are doing or have that I don't now i am happy for them.

[melanieeeB]

No, I thankfully never did that too negatively but I sadly had "friends" who would compare themselves to me and others way to negative... I always found it to be low key sick

[HippieVeganJewslim]

No, but my stepfather does quite often compare myself to other improbable imperfect creatures. Tell You what. Not all have as long hair as I. Not all eat as many fruits as I. Many eat more dead organisms than I. Not all pray as much as I. Most don’t have the same quirks as I. We are all have the same rights and are different from one another.

[rosemilk]

yes. constantly. it hurts my mental health and i can't hang out with my friends sometimes because it's too much for me to compare where i am in life and where they are in life.

[UnknownSwede]

I think most people do in some regards, even if they tell you that they don't.

It might not always be bad, because it can be to compare yourself with others and see negative things yourself that you can change.

[Emogirl999]

Way too often, I'm pretty self conscious. I know I'm just as attractive as my friends but I still compare myself to them all of the time.

[ohsheeT]

No I don't I don't want to be like anybody else I'm happy just the way I am

[NathanDavis]

nope... I just don't compare myself to others... lol

[whiskeyontherocks]

More often than I should, but not a majority of the time.
Mostly it’s just to help with goals. I’m not trying to be a pro but above average is a important standard.

[Ehjoh1]

I used to, but I think I keeping it in check now by reminding myself that I'm good enough and should achieve my goals on my own pace and not be too hard on myself when it doesn't happen in the end. 😁

[BLP11520]

No, I am not like anyone else, my life has turned me into what i am. Good and bad experiences both. I work hard and have to put up with a lot of stuff from people everyday.

[Havthrills]

I don't. No need to. I'm not them and never will be.

[Hardworkingguy]

I used to do that in highschool. Not anymore

[Debbie14217]

sometimes... i feel fat look fat... but im hapoy with my breasts

[Chance_CMB]

I used to but found out it depressed me a whole lot then I learnt to be myself and confident on who I am

[dustybiker]

I don’t think I ever have.

[t_time]

All the time. And it's quite toxic

[AddylynnNightingale]

No, that's why I'm happy most of the time.

[TroyDT2]

Nope. I am myself. Take me or leave me.

[Zolly99999]

Generally no...

[ZenJen444]

No , if anything im inspired by others

[EmbraceThePain]

No, I don't.

[Ineedsomeanswers95]

No because I am who I am and I cannot change that

[eagle1951]

no never happened

[AsaKyo]

All the time

[Iron_Man]

No lol

[Papabubbles]

All the time