I was at the beach yesterday with friends and I couldn't help comparing my boobs to my friends. I'm the only flat chested one in my friend group stupid genetics.
How often do you compare yourself to others?
It’s hard not to compare yourself but, my best advice is to just, simply, STOP!
When I’m doubt, sing the song…
Stop in the name of love!(towards yourself) Before you break your (own) heart! 🎼
I’m kinda short with the most average looking… body. Hahaha. My friends get plenty of attention because they’re so tall, fit, and they know how to use instagram. I, in fact, don’t care. Yea I’m a human and am able to sink in or, cave, if you will, think compare and I understand this is a regular human response but, because I understand what how dangerous any type of negativity causes stress. I try to live my best life stress free so I’m not too bad at being aware of my stress levels and am quick to drop stressful momentum. It’s also great to keep in mind that stress is inevitable and being aware of this fact, definitely helps me know that I’m just being myself, and I’m just being a human. Also, any person at any time for any reason May give in to the thinking of , stressful thoughts and it’s safe to say that we’ve all been there at different points in our lives for various different reasons. I don’t want to be a stressful person. Stress sucks! A fun fact to know as well is that stress and lower amounts is actually healthy, as it actually keeps us going, and keeps us safe. It’s reasonable to stress over things that are important for example, having some stress knowing your kids may be unsafe. And as long as you don’t over, dwell or over stress and don’t do bad things towards your stress, you should be fine.
Another positive way to look at comparing yourself is maybe think the opposite and “contrast yourself”. I mean this all in the most positive way possible. First of all stop thinking of life as a contest. Everybody will beat you in every category if you think of life in comparison. There’s always going to be somebody stronger, smarter, funnier, more artistic, with more skill, prettier, wealthier, even healthier! But I promise you nobody’s perfect, and will be all of these things at the maximum. So definitely look at yourself and acknowledge ur strengths and just focus on these traits and qualities. Like yeah the boob thing (even in my opinion) isn’t really a big deal to me and most guys focus on ass lol (sadly) but you still do have a pretty face and fit body ( fr fr face is most important longterm! Own that! Be happy and thankful some girls would be super jealous! Stick at what you’re good at and master it if you can.
Most Helpful Opinions
-
Truth is women are hard on themselves. my girlfriend is objectively one of the most beautiful women I have ever met any age. Beautiful face hair eyes. A body that men stare at and IG advertisers offer her free stuff if she will just wear it in her pictures. I am a middle aged-not rich- pudgy slob. She calls me beautiful and means it. Yet despite the fact that 97 percent of the women in the room wished they looked like her in a cocktail dress. All she can see is her flaws. It is the female condition to knock themselves.
Probably true that the biggest boobs in your sets of friends wishes that the had your butt or smile or hair or your flat belly. And they would trade those DD cups for your legs. Look your best be happy with yourself.
Remember that 67 year old guy with and over tanned Budda belly at the beach thinks he look sooo good. Lol
Be a guy!
No girl be lucky, I had to cut my boobs down before it was too much for my health and I could wear cute clothes that doesn't fit because of the size. Now I’m grateful I did it no more problems. But don’t compare yourself your beautiful how you are. Honestly I was the opposite I was the only one with a bigger chest while my friends are smaller boobs and can wear bikini top during summer but now I can too! lol
- 1.1K opinions shared on Family & Friends topic. s
Don't compare yourself to them. They have their features and you have yours. It doesn't mean that theirs are better and yours are worse. They're just different. They're unique.
I compare myself to others a lot. It's a bad habit that I'm trying to get rid off.
In my case, it's the result of having people (especially family members) calling me names.
What Girls & Guys Said
23
Opinion
81Opinion
-
I wouldn't worry about the things you can't change. My wife was worrying about that when her breasts started shrinking back to the size before having kids and breast feeding a couple months ago, because she was just so used to being B-C (for a few years). She got hit by insecurity some when she went back to being A, though I could care less.
If it bothers you that much you could get a boob job, but you'd likely need follow-up surgeries, just like a shoulder surgery or anything else (learned that one when I worked with strippers for a while). Most guys aren't going to care too much. Like yeah, it's nice to fondle big tits, but that joy wears off quick, like within a month the novelty is gone.
I'd rather be with someone who I enjoy spending time with. Your friends have nice tits, but you're the only person in the picture who's smiling as well. Aim to be wifed up instead of just being some eye candy or what not.
-
Never do. Because everyone has different body types. Also everyone can't get that same idea shape like the others if they aren't the same bodytype. Can Dwayne Johnson and have the same physique like Jason Momoa. No he can't, that's because different bodytype.
Look at Dwayne Johnson
Now look at Jason Momoa. Way different 😏
-
I notice athletes rarely have big breasts so you must be fit. You might get bigger breasts as you age , Pregnant women do as well as women who gain weight we all gain weight as we age. I only see one large breasted women the other 2 I would call medium sized You probably have the best overall body. I don't need big boobs to enjoy a woman's beauty. Most large breasted women are overweight, I am not turned off by a few extra pounds except it goes hand in hand with a lazy lifestyle I am not a homebody, so I wouldn't chose a heavy woman for that reason only not looks but lifestyle. I was into sports in my 20s
-
You're also the only Asian one, and thus, the only dateable one in the group for any halfway decent guy. Trust me... stick around. You'll see where all of you end up in 15 years.😏I can see it in the body language... looks in the eyes. I've been to 46 states and 4 other countries. I KNOW what it means. Don't be insecure... you won't attract douchebags and self destructive situations. They will. Am I insecure comparing myself? No, because I only know I'm capable of... and I have to face that every day. No one else knows what I'm capable of... only I do. My answer if I'm achieving that is the only judgement that matters to me.
-
I used to compare myself very seriously but it was never in a healthy way. I think it's nearly impossible not to compare, so I've just changed my outlook on how I do it.
Instead of considering it a contest (metaphor: their cake looks tastier than mine) I now see things as part of one plate (Yum! Two cakes!)
Another way to put it: I'm not worse or better, I've done things a different way. My face isn't prettier or uglier, it's unique. So on and so forth. -
To be honest. never. It wouldn't even enter my mind
And I only know you from your Q&A on here
And to even more honest if I was on the beach with you all. And single I would pick you out of the four of you . And it has nothing to do with the size of breast anyone has -
I used to but discovered a long time ago that there's no future in it. What other people have, I don't want because people lack decent qualities, good personality, and ethics, and then people are stupid! Like 9 out of 10 people I meet don't have common sense, or if they do, they're too dumb to use it!
So, comparing myself to other people is a waste of time! If there's something you don't like about yourself, you're probably still a lot better than most people!
-
Its human nature to compare ourselves. Don’t feel to bad. You are easily the hottest of your group. While your rack is smaller you also won’t have the back issues the others will get. You also can go braless easier than they can. Plus because your Asian you will probably get hit on more because Asian girls are so much hotter than white girls. Though i might be bias, my wife is Asian.
- 514 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.
Rarely. I'm not so much mithridatized as a survivor of having been dunked in the Styx of social rejection, but I've done enough to stand on my own, as far as personal perception is concerned.
I think that kind of thing is one of big reasons why older people tend to be happier than young ones.
-
Who cares, you're all cute. :)
*Everyone compares themselves to others, but the thing is - at a certain point you stop taking it seriously and see it as a passing thought and it doesn't affect the rest of your day or the self image you hold. Hopefully that comes for you soon - it's a real game changer.
-
I dont. Its very tiring. U will always find someone who is better, richer, more smart than urself. If u have a good health that all u need really. So enjoy it to the max. I am not well health wise and i know that the best Thing to have in the world is a good health
-
My girlfriend and her mom does that too, reason why to update fashion trend bikini so on.
I don't compare with anyone with my girlfriend, if I like some outfit some wearing it occasionally, I buy for her as a gift as well as for her mom.
Regarding the boobs, never compare.
-
Can I ask why? Like what is it about having bigger tits to you that would make you feel better? I get from a man’s perspective that we like bigger tits, but we like them smaller as well. Is it just so you look better in clothes? To attract more men? I just ask because it that's you on the right you're quite pretty.
-
Is that you in the red bikini? Because younare the one I would try and talk to and hit on. You are the only one really smiling, and you I think you are the cutest one there. The girl next to you would be my 2nd choice over the last 2. They look like they have attitude. You can't change genetics, I sure ever guy would love a thick 9' cock. But it doesn't happen. You look great as you are. Being different is what makes us who we are.
-
You are too harsh on yourself. You look great. To me its important how i click with other person, do i have similar values and how she treat other people around her. If you want a guy who only cares about your look then he will use you and move on - you dont want that.
-
Our brains are always comparing things it's just how we think. I think it's kind of pointless to try and control our brain and tell it what it can't do. We should just handle whatever thoughts or comparisons our brain makes in a mature way.
- 452 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.
Don't do this. It's not healthy mentally.
Celebrate difference. Don't compete. Don't compare.
These are your friends, not your competitors.
- 648 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.
Girls with smaller boobs look more appealing. They will probably have less back trouble too.
I never compare myself to anyone. There are people better than me, same as me, and worse than me. I'm happy being who I am - 1.4K opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.
I try not to. My body is how it is and I can't change it so no reason to compare it to anyone else's
-
Often I compare mostly how strong their arms are. I´m also a bit self-conscious since I´ve always been physically the weakest guy in my circle of friends.
Click "Show More" for your mentions
Most Helpful Opinion(mho) Rate.
Learn more
Learn more
We're glad to see you liked this post.
You can also add your opinion below!
Most Helpful Opinions