Do you often compare yourself to other?

[Apulu_backagain]

I do that a lot. I compare myself with kids who are doing way better than me.

Like yesterday in our Economics class they were talking about this guy in our school who has 6 A grades (UK universities only require 3) and has national level ranking in hockey and is grade 8 pianist and did online electrical engineering course of MIT and has American Citizenship and 1580 out of 1600 in SAT and was logistic director in our school's science fair and was in organising committee in our school's Model United Nations and our school's principal is writing his letter of recommendation. He's going to apply in Stanford and MIT and Caltech and he's obviously get in.

I'm not even in IGCSE course, doing the regular cbse which most kids do in India and all I have is my little better than average scores in class tests and this poorly written book published on Amazon kdp and I have no certificates of piano because I never knew there was something like that till it was very late and I'm no good in any sports and I have not given SAT yet and passed no Olympiads. I feel like I have wasted my whole school life till now because I was so into following the traditional path of Indian education where you just study and give an entrance exam to get into some college but now even colleges here demand extra curriculars or they are colleges with the toughest entrance exams in the world which you need to give 6 years of your life to prepare.

So I had a huge breakdown yesterday but my dad got me red velvet cake so it's all good.

I really want to learn about how to be just fine with what I have but I know that I can do so much more but I wasted my potential so I'm just having existential crisis.

What about you? Do you compare yourself to others a lot?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nope, that's no way to live life, it's would make it hard to improve if you are constantly comparing youself to others, personally I believe God has a plan for me and whatever plan that may be, will be postponed or even paused if I'm too busy chasing the same things others have mostly if what God has for me is completely different or maybe even just different in some ways, the best you can do is focus on what you have and what you've accomplished and focus on your own future but don't forget to live in the present.

[Still-alive]

I used to do that all the time but i have grown to a point to where instead of doing that i just accept that we are all on different paths through life. you might arrive at the destination you want to later than someone else did and thats ok. just take a lot of the pressure off your shoulders and but happy with what you have achieved already and what you will achieve in the future as long as you keep at it.

Comparing is despairing is how i used to say it. its true when you compare yourself especially to the best of course you are gonna feel immense pressure and like you won't ever get anywhere. so just let it go. accept that you might not be up to the level as that guy but nor will many others either. And that is ok. what is important is that you try your best. always give it your best shot and if you don't get exactly what you hoped try to make peace with it.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I used to, not so much anymore. Comparison is the thief of joy and all that

[AI Opinion]

Your situation resonates with many. In my experience, comparison can sometimes motivate, but it often leads to unnecessary pressure. Focus on your unique journey and strengths. Everyone's path is different, and success can be defined in many ways. Start by setting personal goals that excite you, not those measured against others. Your journey is about growth and learning, not just achievements. Reflect on what you enjoy and pursue it – passion often leads to fulfillment. Remember, personal growth is continuous, and past choices don't define your entire potential.

[Deepinthought345]

Kid! Even twins who look the same are not the same personalities. What is the point comparing yourself with others? You achieve nothing by trying to achieve everything that OTHER's are achieving. And being you the way you are doesn't make you a lesser person. Later in life no one cares how much marks you scored and your academics don't define you as a person. Maybe professionally it matters, but that too isn't such a big deal. You can always work your way up the ladder in your own way. The point is to stay focused and work on your strengths.

[glennos89]

I learned that everyone is different and everyone has their own talents. I don't feel the need to be better then anyone because there will always be someone better then you somewhere

[Cubus]

I did in high school. I stopped in college, I got used to.

[nawtee_me]

Nope, not at all. I am me and no one else….

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I do if I want to learn something. Not out of insecurity.

[Jennz6]

Yes I do