Internally, do men and women see each other the same way?

[Raceandgendertheory]

Men, often value women for beauty, nurturing, and emotional comfort.
Women, meanwhile, view men through lenses of strength, provision, or emotional safety.

Maybe men and women see each other the same way, on the inside, but it obviously gets lost in translation because these perceptions exist on an emotional level which lost in translation because the physical world assigns the language to each gender.

Meaning on the inside, a woman might perceive a tall strong handsome man who seems nice, as the equivalent of what a man sees a pretty feminine women who seems nice.

Because most people are too caught up in the **pleasure of doing things**. We chase the feeling, not the meaning. Guys might chase sex or status, girls might chase attention or emotional highs—and yeah, both sides can be guilty of that. But underneath it, we’re often looking for the *same* thing: connection, validation, peace, being seen.

But instead of slowing down and asking *why* we’re drawn to someone, we just run on autopilot. So women might see a guy's strength and think “he’ll make me feel safe,” but not consciously. Guys might see a girl’s softness and think “she’ll make me feel whole,” but again, not consciously. It’s all *unspoken*—because it’s beyond words.

So yeah, maybe men and women do see each other the same way—but we’re so caught up in our own distractions and desires, we don’t even realize it.

[SueShe]

This perception of yours may be accurate for people that have reached a certain age, perhaps past their 40s but not really for the young ones, starting with puberty and going into the early to mid-thirties.

In my opinion, his group of people are more affected by the looks of the opposite gender rather than by what their subconscious tells them. They don't really care so much about character, personality or intellect but more about the physical aspect. This applies to both genders whereas males tend to be more prone to listen to their sexual hormones than women because women bear all the risks and are more down to earth.

Past the end of what would be considered the predatory age around the mid-thirties, those desires tend to flatten out and true values are more the norm than the exception.

[bddddd]

You can predate someone in their 30s? The legal age of consent here is 16.

[bddddd]

There are higher bars for teachers etc. But 16 is the standard.

[VIVANT]

I do. And I have since as far back as I can remember. It made childhood awkward lonely and difficult and romantic dynamics troublesome, however relationships are more fulfilling than I imagine they’d be if I was mentally chained to a world of superficial stereotypes.

[VIVANT]

As for other people I think it really depends on their level of introspection and degree of incentive to even bother themselves to consider their cultural vs personal outlook.

[VIVANT]

It’s a good question!!

[bddddd]

I disagree with almost everything the OP said, but no it is always different to be a friend of a woman than to be a friend of a man. Speaking as a man, you either are attracted to a woman or you are not going to invest in the friendship. Being attracted and acting on the attraction are very different things.

[aceleon]

Only way for us to see each other that way is if we don't have attraction to each other.

[Vampirelover_12]

I don't see a guy who's been with multiple women as a good thing. They're skanks. Not husband material. Just for a good one night, then you ghost em. Sorry boys, that's the absolute truth.

[Billlewis]

I agree with you wholeheartedly, but I'm also very adamant that there should generally be a double standard regarding both previous and current lovers in a F/M relationship -- the fewer sexual partners a guy has had, the better, whereas a woman who is comfortable dating multiple guys, while keeping at least one of them frustrated is the ultimate in modern dating, mating and relating today. I've come to love being the sweet, generous guy who's not getting any, and my happiness, fulfillment and contentment is derived from spoiling, serving and paying homage to others, especially couples.

[Boggler]

I doubt it, each sex is looking for something different. Men are looking for beauty, innocence, sweetness. Women are looking for a protector that makes them feel safe the stereotypical knight in shining armor. Or modern equivalent pick your tough guy, that's what they're looking for. The more reptile brain the man or woman is the stronger the more obvious the stereotype will be. Don't look for a lot of sophistication, it's not there.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, people are people. We all share the same basic human emotions: joy, sadness, anger, fear, love, and both genders generally seek connection.

[Sluttt]

Women see penis and money, men see boob and vagina

[DCVsMarvel2]

I know someone who is married to a woman taller than him. Three kids

[Anonymous]

Probably yes, depends on every individual man and woman.

[Eempriyanka]

No, men and women are NOT SAME in any manner or way