Is it possible to meet women who DON'T like arguing?

[ManOnFire]

Being very serious here, and asking because of some shit today with someone I know. It seems like so many females enjoy arguing and drama or being adversarial with others, and I have met few women in my life who didn't. It's like I can't understand how anyone can put so much energy into that. Whether it's with some other female nemesis or with their own boyfriend, chicks seem to like combat, or even just enjoying the drama they are experiencing with others so they can talk or post about it. It's such lowlife behavior.

Are there women out there who are not into this and just want to live a life of peace?

[blueonblack22]

Biologically women:

1) have different structured brains and think differently then men. That should be a “duh” concept for guys. But still many of us often forget that at times. This often leads to disagreements. They just don’t see situations the same way we do.

2) are naturally more picky and prone to “sh*t testing”. This is evolutionary and is meant for self-preservation. However it is often counter-productive in modern society. However its subconscious and many aren’t even self aware of it until there are major consequences e. g. they drive off a good opportunity.

Men just have to accept women are wired like this. That doesn’t give them an excuse to unfairly disrespect men nor should guys tolerate it.

A decent woman will process she was being unfair and apologize after being unnecessarily difficult. In fact that is the real acid test. It’s how a woman acts AFTER she has calmed down from being bitchy. If her ego won’t let her apologize it means she doesn’t have real respect for you. Ditch the bitch immediately if she does this. It says everything you need to know about her. It says exactly where you stand.

But the scary thing in our modern culture it is considered “equality” for women self-indulge and express their negative feelings while having no regard for how that impacts the feelings of people they interact with. The concept of respecting someone just out of general principle has become more and more of a relic of the past.

Modern women are only seemingly respectful to men that can benefit them in some way (they find him attractive, he’s got money, etc). But if the man can’t provide any of those then it’s perfectly fine for them to be as rude as they want to him regardless if he ever did anything to hurt them or not.

But there is a growing minority of women who “get” how this is causing long term damage not only to men but to women themselves. It takes women much longer to recognize they are self-sabotaging themselves by being unnecessarily difficult (sometimes decades). But some of them are recognizing this.

[ManOnFire]

"A decent woman will process she was being unfair and apologize after being unnecessarily difficult. In fact that is the real acid test..."
- All this! Right there.

[ManOnFire]

And the self-sabotage thing. I say it all the time. Women are often their own worst enemy but never realize it because they put their emotions on a pedestal and can't see straight.

[blueonblack22]

They do realize it….30 years later after the damage has long been done to both women and to themselves.

I personally can own up to the wrong I’ve did with women not too long afterwards the mistake was made. But women (generally) believe that admitting fault = admitting defeat. If they do show “accountability” it’s really because there is still something in it FOR THEM. It’s not true remorse.

But it isn’t until women get in their 50s or older (and no longer have physical attractive viability) does it one day hit them that they are responsible for their own short comings. Long later do they come to this realization vs. men.

[blueonblack22]

*damage has long been done to both men and to themselves.

[AMS700CX4u2]

One lesson that is learned late in life is that Rage has no potentiometer. When activated it is full on. By it's nature it creates a sense of power and control. But it signifies a person who is demonstrating their lack of control through it use. Most of us have the sense to avoid things that are out of control. (Loose Cannon). So the usual response is to cower and stop engaging in conversation with someone who is raging. In essence, we indirectly acquiesce. The person demonstrating raging behavior feels that they have won, when actually we chose not to argue with some one who has shut down emotionally. Now, it can be a great tool for a manipulator. Sad but you either out rage them walk away. Often used by those who stronger desire to win an argument than to be correct.

[ManOnFire]

Very good points. I often find it curious when women talk about "narcissists" or coming out of a "post narcissist" relationship, when many times they are not a lot different from the very people they talk about. Needing to control and manipulate others.

[DishLady]

Lol.

SOMETIMES "arguing" is our way of seeing if you're the guy who will stand the test of time. But that's something that would only happen once you hit a certain point in the dating/"getting to know you" cycle. Like the big harsh wave you have to pass before you get to the swimable part of the ocean.

OTHER TIMES you're with an argumentative troll who is always just picking a fight, which is simply annoying.

[ManOnFire]

But what test?

[DishLady]

Like when you throw one piece of spaghetti on the wall to test if it sticks.

Or like when two bear cubs "play fight" but don't really hurt each other.

[Simslover92]

There is a big difference between having a debate and arguing for the sake of arguing which many (and yes that is a lot of women) don't know how to do. I like debating with my guy friend who used to be my boyfriend. Arguing is just a waste of time in my opinion. If you have a disagreement, then state it and then try to come to a compromise and if you can't then walk away from it. It's that simple. No need to argue.

[ManOnFire]

Right. That makes perfect sense.

[Simslover92]

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

no because arguing this a part of their shit-test

women can only be proven wrong if they experience something bad themselves

e. g. you'll won't convince a woman that open borders is bad until something bad happens to her due to open borders

hence there's a reason why the quote goes

"a wise man learns from his mistakes but a wiser man learns from other's mistakes"

women can't learn from other's mistakes hence why so many still end up becoming feminists even though deep down they know feminists are losers

[ManOnFire]

It's also because most women walk through life thinking that failure doesn't or won't really happen to them but is only something that's supposed to happen to men. This kinda ties in with women's god complex that they are more right or moral than men in general.

[Opinion Owner]

failure for women is because of the "patriarchy" holding them back

failure for men is because men weren't "good enough"

women in the west have essentially replaced God as the highest authority on morality and their morality usually leads to female supremacy

[NerdGuy89]

From what I’ve seen, no. And women want men to open up so they can keep things as ammo for later arguments.

[OneNisa]

Women tend to approach situations with more tolerance.

[NerdGuy89]

@OneNisa I would disagree 100% on that from my own life experiences.

[OneNisa]

I respect your opinion because you are right.

[ManOnFire]

@NerdGuy89 Yep that's true. They want to try to take something about you and use it against you.

[Apple1996]

You have to realize that a lot of men (and some women) energy harvest from women fighting with them/being dramatic. It gives them attention even if its bad attention. Kind of like a kid that will purposefully get in trouble so their parents will pay attention to them/punish them. There aren't many women who acutally enjoy fighting. Its a reaction to whatever the other person is doing to them

[ManOnFire]

Men hate when women fight. We aren't harvesting anything from that.

[beefcakebradybatson]

You don't like it when buxom birds brawl?

[queenofcardio]

I don't like arguing or drama in relationships.

[ManOnFire]

THANK you

[fivebyfour]

I'm with you 100% on this topic, my ex said she broke up with me because I never argued about anything !!!

[ManOnFire]

That is really messed up logic. I cannot understand why women have such a desperate need to be adversarial, it almost always ends up hurting themselves more than anyone else in the end.

[AngryCarl2]

My mother hated arguing. I don't remember her ever doing it. Fortunately my father argued enough for two people.

[ManOnFire]

Wow that seems rare.

[sage2021]

I am a woman who doesn't like or want to argue. I would rather live in peace and love.

[Anonymous]

Sure, if they are passive, but such women are not my type.

Though, I don't like verbally dominant women, only sexually.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Yes, but not that broad because she has small spuds.

[Sal_Monella]

Yes. But it is highly likely that they will not be white. Not be educated and not be from the West.

[ManOnFire]

Why does a non-white woman not from the west have to be uneducated?

[Sal_Monella]

Uneducated the way Western women are "educated".

[Chayce]

Initially if they care they will hide it but eventually the craziness comes out.

[AddictedToWomen]

They were made to argue. Very emotional creatures.

[ManOnFire]

Or maybe it's because they can't control those emotions.

[robocop666]

A female only company went bust cause all the women did was argue

[ManOnFire]

What was the company?

[robocop666]

www.youtube.com/watch?v=ueq9_-gt6e4&t=1176s

[ManOnFire]

Ya know, I'm not surprised by that. They thought a company "free of men" would be so much easier lol

[Shiprex]

Lol impossible.

[Vegasrunner]

Absolutely not.

[On_cloud_wine]

Yup. Me

[NathanDavis]

Yes.

[Ironco]

No...