Does she have secret feelings for me even though she has a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

There is a woman who I recently told I had feelings for her. I told her I can’t cross the line since she already has a boyfriend. She did say she was glad I told her, but he will not want me to even associate with her once he finds out unless it’s a group event. Does that mean she feels the same way and could be an open door in the future? Again not trying to break them up, but wanting to know if she feels the same at heart?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

From your description alone, I would say there is no interest on her end. It would be hard to know what she wants overall though without knowing her side of it.

You are right to go with the mindset of not interfering in their relationship and taking her advice of staying away from her so as not to cause issues in her relationship.

[Asker]

The guy is very controlling of her. He monitors all of her accounts. She said it would not be right to hang out alone only with the 2 of them or a group. She was glad I told her how I felt. From this, what is your opinion? Can we at least be friends at this point?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

If she isn't willing to leave someone that controlling then no, you won't be able to be friends because it will cause issues in her relationship. She has to want to leave that kind of person. If she doesn't (and you can't force the issue) then you are pretty much left to yourself.

[Asker]

She did tell me she told him how I felt and it didn’t seem to bother him. Do you think she still likes me at least as a friend?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Maybe as a friend, but again, if he makes a deal of it or if you persist in trying to win her affections be prepared for her to cut you out of her life.

[Abbycado]

What sort of asshole asks about a girl with a boyfriend? Ffs.

[Asker]

Why are you so rude? It’s just a question!

[Anonymous]

Why do you care?

[Asker]

Because we seem to have a lot of common interests, and feel comfortable around each other? I could see a good future with her.

[Asker]

What do you think?

[Asker]

Does that make sense what I’m saying?