Why do very attractive women often seem more demanding in relationships?

[msc545]

I have noticed that very physically attractive women tend to be people who are the most demanding and the most difficult to deal with, have the greatest financial and other expectations of men, and do the most shit testing. This makes them pretty unattractive after a very short time with this behavior. Why do they do this?

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1 mo

I'm pretty good with money and with saving now. I make a good living as a Neuropsychologist and my practice is big enough that I really don't want a side hustle of any kind nor do I need one. I appreciate your suggestions, however, I am self-employed now.

[ShellyB]

This is a more complicated question than it might seem like at first because I don't think attractive women always come out ahead, I think it's sort of a mixed blessing. Like, the risk of being perved on is probably higher for example. Guys try harder to get w. you which can have side effects based on how guys flirt or ask you out, in other words, you might spent more time being treated like a piece of meat or like you aren't very smart. I actually think somebody should research this, I think attractive women put up with more of a certain type of treatment on average. But on the other hand, because it is more common for guys to try to impress you or stuff like that, the baseline for what is normal is different which could come across as entitled or spoiled in some ways. I think it's a version of supply and demand. I don't even believe in the idea of "attractive people" as a fact I think it is always opinion, I think everybody is attractive and it's just whether you are able to see that about them or not. But I mean for people who are most often considered attractive, that isn't a very large percentage so those people become more of a target for guys and it leads to some different experiences with flirting, dating and stuff like that. JMO!

[thegreenyogi]

Because they know what they want and they won't settle for anything less. Life is only one and it's pointless just making do and living without the spark.

[InknKink]

People hate it but the hard truth is relationships are transactional. A young and attractive women trades her sexual opportunity for a mans resources (not only monetary, but also time, energy, commitment, and lifestyle).

When a woman's value is viewed as greater then the man she is with she'll demand more. But this goes both ways. A man with a higher value then his partner will put higher demands on his female partners.

Best believe that attractive women, when in a relationship that skews in favour of the man, they make far fewer demands on his time/resources in hopes of earning his commitment.

Unfortunate truth is 90% of men have nothing of value to offer women other then commitment which is really only valued from the other 10% of men who have options.

Such is life. Not everyone gets to win.

[LogicBomber]

Entitlement.

[Curmudgeon]

I must repeat my answer from here:
Why are women so selective about who they date on dating apps?

Well, the answer as to why (young) ladies are more demanding in relationships is the same answer to the question, "Why do dogs lick their genitals?" Because they can!

However, your profile says you are age 39? Just keep improving yourself. The tables are starting to turn, and if you keep improving yourself, soon you will have the upper hand, believe it or not.

[msc545]

Ten years ago, I would have believed you, but my experience tells me differently now. What I do know are these things: I am not going to grow to be any taller than I am now, which is under six feet. Try as I might, I am not going to become a millionaire or a billionaire in the next ten years. Finally, no matter how much money I might be willing to sink into the project, even plastic surgery will not make me into a male model.

Without these things, I think I'm out of luck.

[Curmudgeon]

@msc545 Okay, so you won't become the multimillionaire "Chad".

BUT - the women in your age range can't do what they used to do 10 years ago. We are appreciating assets, even if not as much as we would like (I can relate with respect to money, believe me), and they are depreciating assets, as their looks fade and they typically do not develop any good qualities to compensate for that.

Of course, you *might not want* the ones in your age range anymore. Which itself is having the upper hand.

[msc545]

I'm not sure I really want any of them anymore. They are always a problem.

[Curmudgeon]

@msc545 and increasingly, you are sadly right.

[msc545]

Women often the take on the characteristics usually described 10 years ago as being associated with borderline personality disorder. Now we just call it crazy. It's still the same set of problems that make men that are with them. Wish they had never met them

[msc545]

Improving myself is a wonderful idea, but here's the thing: I'm not going to grow any taller. I'm not going to become better-looking, and there's an outside chance I may become wealthier, but if I do, I'm certainly not going to share it with some woman.

[msc545]

I think I said this before on this question, but I mean what I say.

[Curmudgeon]

@msc545 But DO NOT self-improve for *them*, do it for *yourself*. I hope that makes sense. If it appeals to some of them, okay, but as an infamous movie character said, "No, that is incidental..."

[msc545]

It's easy to write the catchphrase self-improve. What sort of self-improvements do you think I should be doing?

[Curmudgeon]

@msc545 Okay, first and foremost, (A) *Financial*: Do what you can to accumulate enough "fuck you money" so that you do not have to answer to a boss, especially a stereotypical "GirlBoss".

Now I know this is difficult; I currently DO have to deal with a stereotypical GirlBoss at my weekday job. But I can see the light at the end of the tunnel in 4 years, and I would have gotten there sooner had I not made mistakes.

You have a 20 year lead on me - start now, if you have not already, and make it a goal to be comfortably retired by the time you are 59.

1. Tax shelter save (or more accurately, invest) as much as you can, call it "shelter maxing". You say Inflation will eat up your savings? Right you are! That is why you pick investments that keep pace with it, namely, real estate and commodity stocks.

2. Develop a side hustle, and with luck, make it into self employment.

3. Invest and create passive income as much as you can (although this IS the hardest). I have no crystal ball to tell you what the next BitCoin or NVIDIA will be, so invest in a little bit of everything and see what happens. The Blue Chips will not get you rich quick, but they WILL, year in and year out, get you rich slowly. (with these, reinvest all dividends into more of their stock, and lather rinse and repeat until you are old).

B. Physical: NO, *do not* try to become "Chad", it's not going to happen, I know. But DO be able to reach for the high shelves and move about without a walker, or worse, those scooters, when you are 59, or better yet, 79. My old man has Parkinson disease and is now wheelchair bound at 92, but he made it to 85 still fully mobile, and to 90 still partially mobile.

[Curmudgeon]

C. Avoid expensive vices:
1. Lots of free porn if you have to rub one out, DO NOT spend on porn.
2. Lots of mild addictions are inexpensive, avoid hard ones.
3. Since you will have neither chick nor child, that much more money for shelter maxing

[msc545]

Physically I think I'm in really good shape and I honestly have no expensive vices at all. I absolutely do not smoke or use drugs or do anything that costs a tremendous amount of money other than some sailing and supplying. Those are activities I enjoy and I don't have to do them but I also don't feel like giving them up.

[msc545]

I really do not know how to invest money and so I just tend to accumulate it in the bank without really needing to even try my hand in investing since it's not something I know about. What I do know about are the amount of scams that are run on people like me who need you invest but know nothing about. Not really interested in being scammed either.

[MrChinaski]

Probably because you are just dating them for their looks.

If you had selected on things that determine relationship quality then you would expect higher relationship quality.

When you select on looks you would expect better looks.

Life is choices.

[msc545]

It occurs to me that, at least in fantasy, you can get a person who is less demanding and still has better looks. If you believe that, I also believe in unicorns.

[MrChinaski]

Anything is possible, friend.

[msc545]

I think hanging out with the unicorn is probably a better idea than hanging out with any of the women that I have met.

[Curmudgeon]

And yet, once the real life Charles Bukowski, once he started getting notoriety, started getting women into his life, enough of them for him to write a novel about it:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KwWc3gIPuXQ

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I believe very attractive women, when they were already seen as such during their development, must end up quite blasé about people in general. Because they've been spammed for superficial reasons the whole time and it never stops.

I'm sure some of them have embodied superficiality, and they are using that, fully, to their own advantage, which reinforces a detached, if not depressing, view of people in general.

And some others, who didn't try to exploit that, probably wander in social interactions, wondering how to find a normal guy hidden among all the others she has to filter out.

[texasgirl012]

Because the fact we're this attractive means can get what we want and do what we want. If you don't like it, you're easy to replace. And if we don't replace you, we'll still get what we want without your knowing. Guys would do the same thing if they could. A few -- the ones who have the most of whatever -- money, looks, or especially endowment -- do. And we don't usually mind that either. To give an example, I wouldn't expect monogamy of a man who isn't a position to give it because they have more money than God or looks to die for or a truly big d*ck. They would be miserable trying, so those men aren't for monogamy. So men shouldn't expect that of me either. Not when there are other guys with money, looks, or again, especially endowment. None of that means my partner can't be a great boyfriend. And none of it means he gets to go outside our relationship.

[Staximus]

Because they are used to getting what they want from men or having their way with them. I would have good looking girls come up to the door at the bar and expect to get in for free when there’s a big show. I would just tell them “this isn’t an L. A. club, $20 or you’re not coming in.” Or some young hot girl would show up with no ID and expect to get in.

[slatyb]

Because they know they don't have to settle.

[832dreamboy]

Because we lads fall over ourselves to give them our #boyjoy !!!

[msc545]

We'd like to think that after a while we get smarter.

[832dreamboy]

We don't, msc545 !!

[msc545]

I did. You should too.

[msc545]

Oddly enough, as I get older it has seemed to me that my thinking and perception has gradually gotten sharper. I can't really account for this. It's sent and in fact it really is a bit counterintuitive giving everything I know about aging and brain function and yet my critical thinking skills and my perceptions such as vision and smell and taste have all gotten stronger. I'm not sure why that is. That being said, I am grateful for this and I am grateful that I am healthy and things are going pretty well. I recognize that they may not always go well, but for now I am happy with it.

[Iron_Man]

Well, of course they are just like my cousin. They know they got it so they Want to be treated like a queen and have Everything given to them

[888theGreat]

Cause they can get a new guy by just walking out the door

[TonyMetal___86]

Because they know that they can always get a better guy, they are greedy and nothing will be enough for them!

[robocop666]

they are very direct in how they show interest in you

[rojodefender]

more self confidence?

[_Jenny_]

@msc545 Because we can

[msc545]

Except that many of you can't anymore because men are just not putting up with it