If a girl hit you up out of nowhere is it a bad idea to ask her if she got a man?

[Anonymous]

[RavVid]

Depends on what your objective is sex or relationship. if it is sex only then better not to ask. If a relationship than it is better to ask.

I would either way because I don't want to be part of something that involves more than her and I.

[Asker]

Is sex or relationship actually something you could go for because I thought friendship was the only thing?

[RavVid]

? In the face of sexual attraction I think we will always entertain sex with that person though there may be reasons to not advance that. Such as being in a messy situation.

In terms of relationships in my 20s I more drifted into them than anything and I would consider myself more discriminating now. I am more aware of qualities I don't want to be present in a relationship.

Friendships with females can be very valuable but also exploitative.

[Asker]

If she reached out and I think she is attractive i could go in the sex direction?

[RavVid]

Yes. For myself I want to a avoid messy and I would consider if she is cheating then I am no better.

Your morals are your morals though. Easy to ask if she is single.

[Anonymous]

Yes for sure. Exactly why is she contacting you out of the blue like that after not talking g you you for a specific amount of time. What does she want exactly?

[Asker]

I don't know what she wants

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I’d find out if she had a man. You don’t want to end up w some dude coming after you that you don’t know about. On top of that you were probably no my her second or her third pick. Why would you want to be her last resort. You should have been her first. Maybe she has a kid now. Maybe her man kicked her ass. But exactly now why are you worthy of her talking to you after all this time. Unless she went to prison for a while so she couldn’t contact you other than through letters. But even if she went to prison I’d avoid her. You need to find this stuff out.

[ProbablyClueless]

Yes, that's a bad idea. If she has a man you need to know about, that information will come out naturally in conversation.

[Asker]

That is a good point. If a girl hits you up out of nowhere after months of not speaking can you go in another direction besides friendship?

[ProbablyClueless]

Yes, absolutely. You just want to be careful about verbally acknowledging any romantic tension that exists with her because pointing the tension out can easily kill it.

[Staximus]

That would be the first thing I ask her

[Asker]

why do you think so because I agree?

[Staximus]

Because I sure as fuck don’t want to be chatting up and hanging out with a girl who has a boyfriend or husband

[Asker]

That is a good point. If a girl hits you up out of nowhere after months of not speaking can you go in another direction besides friendship?

[Anonymous]

No..

[Asker]

why do you think so?

[Opinion Owner]

Can’t hurt to ask