Did I accidentally kill the conversation, or was "wyd" just a dead-end text?

Question

A girl texted me "wyd" in the afternoon. I replied with "about to shower, wyd?" and she never responded.

On one hand, I feel like telling someone you're about to shower puts a temporary pause on the chat. On the other hand, "wyd" is already a low-effort opener, so maybe neither of us gave the other much to work with.

Did my response kill the momentum, or was this interaction already dead in the water? How should I handle this kind of text next time?

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe. But it depends. You actually responded then then asked her the same thing. Some people may take it as well maybe she thought you were busy because of your response. But at the same time you reciprocating by asking her what she’s doing opened up that window for conversation. Some people said it was low effort on your part. But I’m not sure if they’re foreseeing to low effort as in trying to court her or what? Which is that’s the case then you need to find out ok is she traditional? Or is she going to be one of these women who expects to have her own career, do what she wants, go where she wants and so on while expecting equality. If so then why is the onus fall on you to be traditional when she expects equality. Not only that one could say she’s displaying low effort as well by implying texting “wyd.” So if she got turned off because you said, “about to shower, wyd?” Because she felt it was low effort, she’s a hypocrite as well for initiating the low effort. I don’t understand why it falls on one person to put in that effort. If she’s into you as well she needs to reciprocate that effort to show you yes I’m interested as well.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Texting by default is a dead-end.

NathanDavis · Answer

"what you doing" is not even a conversation... wyd... is even worse, lol the conversation didn't even started... maybe that's the problem

Anonymous · Answer

Well shower if it's genuine means busy so no more talking, but what they usually mean is, “please picture me naked so we can get into a sexual conversation,” at which point we usually disappear.

MrChinaski · Answer

Zero effort meets zero effort = Zero outcome. Well diagnosed.

WhitneySnow · Answer

She probably thought you were busy

rgb008 · Answer

I don’t respond to texts like that

Did I accidentally kill the conversation, or was "wyd" just a dead-end text?

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