Do guys need to be babied?

[Prettygurl12]

As a girl, I hear this a lot.

I hear that guys have way more sensitive egos than girls do and way more self esteem insecurities and they need to be babied and praised for every little thing they do.

I was told, and I quote, "Guys are like 4 year olds. No matter how old they get, they always need reassurance and to be validated. Women need to baby their egos so they feel like men."

Is this true?

[JohnnySS]

depends, feminism has really fucked men up in NA. a lot of relationship coaches swear there's a war on masculinity. an example being a man can't look at another woman even though its natural when really the woman is so insecure.

also there are so many people being born and since most people do not know how to raise children beyond providing $$ in other words teaching things like family, friends, lover and other social skills. that they go through life confused and secretly insecure. doing the best they can.

American government statistics says around 80% of American families are dysfuctional in some way.

problems compound through generations. some people spend their whole life trying to learn skills. that other people are just taught in a few years coming a family who are more functional.

it really depends on the guy. what his present level of skill and what he thinks he needs. some guys need a small push, some need a big push, some will never move even if they get a push. some guys are diamonds in the rough, others are duds, it depends what's in the guys heart.

id say the reason why many guys need validation is because they had irresponsible parents. or they had experiences in their life which made them question their nature - bullying, neglect, w/e...

[animalwithin]

Depends on the guy, what he's been through in life, etc. I'll give you this...we're all human. We all want love and attention and affection, especially from our significant other. Who needs it more, guys or girls? Who knows, all I know is that it brings me lots of happiness and joy when I express my love for the girl I'm in love with and I don't do it because I feel she needs reassurance and validation, but because I want her to feel loved and appreciated. Love and relationships aren't about filling up a void in yourself so babying an individual because they lack something within themselves is not helping the two spouses.

[edgyfox]

Technically no. But personally due to 5 years of trauma from. Being Raped, beaten, cheated on, robbed, lied about, drugged, hatted on, abused etc by an ex only finding the courage to leave after having a glass smashed on me. I am open to this as needing to replace hate with love is what was needed for me. And being that there's no better love than what a parent has for their baby or owner for a pet is why I combined the 2 and became a babyfur.

What is a babyfur?
http://en.wikifur.com/wiki/Babyfur

[Rudra93]

Damn I can beat your ex to pulp. I'd gladly do that.

[edgyfox]

@Rudra93 Thank you but no. I don't want to have anyone hurt. I didn't even report her.

[MyNameIsJonas]

I don't think so... It would depend on the guy.

I don't need my SO to inflate my ego. She actually tries and picks on me at times but I like that because we both have a good sense of humor and I can joke with her. I really don't take my self too seriously. My self esteem is pretty much in check I'd say.

[mike5150]

Half true, you don't need to constantly treat them like some little kid. But guys, for the most part aren't told a lot that they are attractive or nice to be around and when your with a girl who never says anything about it how do you think that would make a guy feel? It makes them feel like you don't care, like your just with them for the hell of it.

[red324]

Well... It really depends on the guy and often people give him shit. Like for example I'm pretty much used to people giving me a hard time all the time, if you show it doesn't bother you then eventually they will get bored and give up. Really it's not what someone says, it's how you react to what they say. I'm really good at blowing off really hurtful things and coming up with some remark that shows that I really don't care.

[TangerineFire1]

Men are like little boys that is true, but they are still a man with man needs.

[Phoenix98]

I personally don't really have a ego but it does feel nice when the girl your with acknowledges and appreciates you other then that I could give a rats ass.

[MrAtticusLebowski]

Not sure what that quote exactly means. What does "babied" entail?

[TylerDurden9087]

No. The only time I ever want to be babied is when I'm sick lol. Fully admit I'm a total baby when I'm sick.

[PANDAmonium]

Maybe some individuals but if you tried to baby me that would be quick and efficient way to irritate me.

[purplelavender]

Sounds true. You always have to acknowledge their presence or whatever. But some guys naturally don't have egos.

[purplelavender]

Key word: some. Finding a guy with no ego is difficult.

[kangaru]

Yes