Polls: Girl's Behavior

Okay, let me preface this with the fact that this boy (lets call him 'Josh') is absolutely one of my best friends. He came out of a bat relationship with a nutjob around three months ago.
So, 'Josh' and I went to a convention over the weekend, and while I stayed with my female best friend 'Jess' on Friday night, my parents agreed to allow me to stay with 'Josh' and his parents and cousin on Saturday, so I could spend the whole weekend in Boston. We had loads of fun, and it was a great time. We went back to the hotel that night (as a side note, there were two beds) and his parents took one bed, while his cousin took the chair. They offered me the bed, and insisted, so 'Josh' was planning on taking the floor. After showers and whatnot, we were laying on the bed and watching YouTube on each others phones. We ended up basically cuddling, but because I like him a lot, I didn't really bring it up. Eventually it got closer, I guess? I ended up wrapped up in his arms, with my head on his chest. I don't know if he thought I was asleep, but he kissed me on the head, two or three times, and he touched my knee, acting like he was checking if it was okay. I fell asleep like that, and when I woke up, he still hadn't moved. The day after, we were joking about it a little bit, over text, and he mentioned it being 'very pale' which is a reference to a very platonic relationship. I felt like it was very romantic, and I have never done that with any friends before. I hinted that it wasn't 100% platonic and he seemed surprised. I don't know if it was platonic or romantic or what. And I really don't know what to do. I feel incredibly happy around him, and he is the only person who makes me feel safe, so risking our friendship isn't really an option for me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Do you think it's a good or bad idea to try to figure out your motives in the things you do or is it better to be ignorant?

Do you find yourself doing this much?

So this is what's going on...

My boyfriend is on a culinary team and will be heading to state in about a week. Well one of his teammates, who I also work with, has been calling him fat and making fat jokes, he is over weight but not that much. This has been going on for about three - four months. I have been telling him to talk to the guy about it or someone else like the teacher so the guy stops. Well I have been staying out of it because it is his problem and I don't want to be seen as fixing his problems and making him look weak. But now it has gone overboard. He has now started using sexual comments against the both of us! Now I am in it. So technically I can do something. He does not want me or him to say anything about it because it will cause drama and he especially does not want that happening right before competition. I get that but if they are going to work as a team there can not be bullying in a team. Anyways I get my bf's reasoning but this is ticking me off! He is being a bully and harassing both of us. I have thought of a few options on how to handle this...

A. Pull the guy aside and talk to him nicely about it.

B. Pull him aside and talk to him sternly and let him know I mean it.

C. Tell the teacher about it.

D. Just let it be. (ignore it)

If someone has any other ideas how to handle it please let me know. And if you choose one of these please give me your reason why and how to enact it.

Either way this needs to stop because it is really effecting him. And making me really angry.

(Oh by the way I am not too worried about getting in a fight. I would rather not to but if it comes to that it comes to that. I am also not weak at all so I could easily take this guy down.)

Thanks.

and why?

i prefer to be naked. I'm more comfortabe(from a physical standpoint), plus it cuts down on laundry!

I was always taught not to "go after guys" and to let them "come to me." In other words, don't ask guys out because they aren't interested unless they're asking you out first...

I've found that when a guy likes me he'll go out of his way to ask me small talk kind of questions... that he'll try to be near me so he can make jokes.

What about a shy guy though?

The guy I like came and sat next to me at work last night, but hardly talked to me. He kind of avoided eye contact. I tried to make small jokes, but I felt so discouraged because he wasn't making eye contact or smiling. I know he was busy, but should I feel so discouraged? I mean, he did sit next to me, but he didn't try to talk to me much. He made his presence known by talking to people around me and humming. I'm shy too, so I didn't know how to react to this!

So do shy guys go after girls the same way?

If you could have a boyfriend/girlfriend of any height (personality and other stuff are important, but not for this question) what would the height be? Also include your height. I'm 5'9 and my ideal boyfriend would be between 6'2-6'7. Also do you prefer short, tall, or an inbetween height for a boyfriend/girlfriend?

I'm asking for guys, but girls too. If you're shy, don't talk to very many people, are a nerd (or whatever you label that kind of person) do you fall in love quicker? Like if someone pursues you, does that make it more special? Do those people just make connections faster because they have less of an "image" to maintain and less social connections (so they're not spreading themselves thin, they have more time to devote to the object of their affection)? Is it because a lot of these shy people are sweet and more genuine?

I'm not asking for EVERY SINGLE PERSON like this, just the majority. What do you think?

Ladies and gents, I'm curious as to who likes the trending, "thigh gap"?

I know for me, even when I worked out constantly, and was at 112 pounds, I didn't have that thigh gap that everyone seems to want.

At times it discourages me and makes me feel fat (which I'm not, but I'm not thin either, I guess I'm average, but my legs will always touch.)

Do you like it? I for some reason want it, even though I see it and it creeps me out a little bit. I like my ladies with some cushion for the pushin'.

Girls are taught from a young age that when a boy bullies you or treats you badly its only because he likes you or has a crush on you.

In middle school, high school, and college girls are told the same thing. "He's in that awkward stage and doesn't know how to express himself". "Boys will be boys", "He's just joking" "He's not serious."

We are taught that when a guy is being mean or bad to us, that We're the ones who are overreacting and its only a mans way of showing affection towards us. Girls are told and taught that they're being uptight or misunderstanding signals.

Then when some women reach adult hood they continue to date men who insult them, bully them, and treat them badly, because society taught us that when guys insult you, and berate you, its because they like you.

I've seen the same advice on given on this site by men and women. I've seen the same men and women tell girls that a guy being abusive, or rude is just a sign that he likes her, but if its an older woman, she's an idiot who should know better.

So what do you all think? Do you think we should tell girls that a boy insulting her, bullying her, and being rude to her is just a sign of affection?

Also why dose the dynamic change into adulthood? When do the insults, bullying, and rude behavior transition from a boy just liking a girl, to a girl enjoying abuse and only liking jerks? Why is it alright for girls to accept it as children/young adults but not women?

Is there a magic age or number when boys stop being jerks? Or is there a magic age or number when girls are supposed to know when insults, bullying, and rude behavior isn't a way a man shows attraction/affection?

Will you teach this to other girls?

Why do you think we do this?

Do these piercings, a cartilage and two lobes, look trashy to you? Say the girl is 20 and has no other piercings beside these on her ears.

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We're all familiar with the generally-detested Drama Queen personality. Some of us have even dated or are related to them. This question is about the other end of the spectrum.

Do guys like females who are less emotional than average? We're not talking about psychopaths (people who feel virtually nothing at all) or socially retarded individuals, just those who are less emotionally-driven than your average female.

Examples:

- Fewer extreme reactions (especially including outbursts)

- Toned-down mood swings

- More cognitively-based decision-making

- Slightly less-noticeable reactions to things that would make the average person react in an extremely visible/obvious manner.

- Thought process geared more towards practical consequences/solutions than how they feel about them

- Analysis of a situation is usually based on facts rather than feelings

- A basically neutral (emotional) baseline (neither obviously happy nor chronically bored/depressed)

- (Some would say) A slightly more predictable set of reactions/behavior patterns.

- Communication: more based on what is said than what is felt

- Actions: less-motivated by how they feel at any given time

So guys (& ladies if you wish to submit a guess), would such a person be more or less attractive to you? All other things being equal.

It can be anything from lying about your job to impress the girl/guy that you like or saying that you don't smoke, even though you actually do, because smoking is a deal breaker for them.

So, Have you ever lied to impress someone you liked?

What did you lie about?

Speak from the heart. Speak the truth. :)

I know some of us say "It doesn't matter! I'll be happy regardless!" but deep inside they think it will be so tough and sad. Others may not really be bothered by the idea of being single forever.

So, what do you think? Will it truly bother you?

I saw this guy I'm secretly crushing on in the hallway from afar and acted as if I didn't see him. Just as we are about to pass by each other I look at him and the second I do he looks at me and we made eye contact. We've never talked to each other but I really want to get to know him. Is this a good sign? Did he purposely look at me to respond to me initiating the eye contact or was it just a natural reaction? I personally wouldn't look at someone I didn't find attractive even if I knew they were looking at me. I'd avoid eye contact at all costs just because I don't want the person to be getting the wrong idea. What about you guys?

That was my first ever eye contact with him. I've never made any kind of communication (verbal or non-verbal) with him. I'm not worked up or over analyzing or anything by the way. Just curious so I know if I should or shouldn't pluck up the courage to send off more signals to him to show my interest :)

Have you ever regretted leaving your ex girlfriend for another girl? Or simply just regretted it for any reason?

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