Girls what do you think of short guys?

[Anonymous]

A lot of women seem to think tall is sexy and want their man to be tall or at least taller than them. Some of us guys are born short doesn't make us weak. I am stronger than a lot of guys I know who are taller, doesn't really make us any less of a man. Any advice for a guy who maybe likes a girl taller than him or just advice in general or explanation of what the tall thing is all about anyway

[s3tupMayne]

The reason why girls like tall guys is because it's a masculinity trait. The genes for various bones in our bodies sometimes have a special part in the code that says "when exposed to (testosterone / estrogen), you should (grow fast / not grow)". Some of the more widely known ones are that the shoulder bones grow faster when exposed to testosterone and the hip bones grow faster when exposed to estrogen. That's why really manly men have big shoulders and really feminine women have broad hips.

There's a bunch of other ones, like guys' brow lines grow faster and jaws grow faster, girls' noses stay smaller, girls' ribcages stay smaller, etc.

But testosterone in general makes all the bones grow bigger on average, so being tall is a masculinity trait, just like having broad shoulders or a strong jaw. So when girls see a tall guy, they go "ooh manly". It's sort of like when we see a girl with a nice and curvy body, we go "mmm woman".

FORTUNATELY for shorter guys:

Height is not the most important masculinity trait out there. There are much more important ones that you can possess. It's sort of like breasts are really nice if a girl has them, but you would not reject a girl on account for not having sizable breasts. If a girl is toned, has good hips, a nice butt, a beautiful face, and you get along with her really well, you probably wouldn't say, "Yeah, but her boobs just aren't big enough". You'd probably say "You know, I've always been more of a butt guy..." and then that would be it. But if a girl had nice-sized breasts but she had a not-feminine shape (manly face, maybe thick eyebrows, narrow hips and a wide waist, kind of barrel-chested besides the breasts), well there is no way you'd ever be attracted to her in the first place.

Height is kind of like that. Breasts are really easy to spot on a woman, just like height is really easy to spot on a man. It's extremely visually evident at first glance, but the girl has to get a closer look at the tall guy to be able to search for the more subtle things that she really really cares about.

Just for example, there are a LOT of Hollywood's heartthrob stars out there today that are 5'7" or below. Taylor Lautner, Tom Cruise, Mark Wahlberg, Zac Efron, etc (www.celebheights.com). Also there's even a very big name Ralph Lauren runway and catalog model out there named Kerry Degman who is about 5'8" (keep in mind that a short female runway model is 5'9", most females are taller and almost all men are 6' or taller). If he's a symbol of beauty and he's 5'8"... kinda just goes to show...

So I guess your advice is just that you gotta realize that you aren't gifted in that (actually more minor-than-perceived) area but if you work hard at being the best you can be your height will never be questioned. That means hitting the weight room, doing your cardio, eating right, keeping your skin clear, staying groomed, staying stylish, being charming, smiling, etc. And that's just appearance...

[s3tupMayne]

... lucky for guys, your appearance is the thing that least matters about whether or not you're getting a girl. Personality matters a million times more. If you're a winner, successful, kind, have a sense of humor, and warm and friendly, it will not matter what you look like at all. You're going to have women falling at your feet, really just because humans are clever and our brains determine reproductive success better than our bodies...

[s3tupMayne]

... so your height is way down on the list of stuff you gotta worry about.

Just get your priorities straight and don't get down because you're not tall. Unless you can say for certain that NO MAN is more attractive, kinder, richer, funnier, and more successful than you are, you have no business complaining about height. You got other stuff you can work on.

Really, just keep your head up and don't let a little thing like height get you down. Knowledge is power and so yours can be infinite...

[s3tupMayne]

(sorry for the long answer)

[davidthewise]

My advice is that it is socially considered abnormal but don't let it get to you. It will make it a little tougher on you but just put a little more effort at it. If it's a big difference she might not be into it. My girlfriend is the same height as me and when she wears heels she is taller than me. It took a little getting used to but it's not a big deal.

One of my close female friends is pretty tall (6'1") and she only goes for shorter guys.

[Anonymous]

I'm really tall and I would probably never date a guy that was shorter than me. Basically like ballykissang said, I feel like I need a taller guy because I want to feel protected. I've always been self conscious of my height too and I wouldn't want to tower over a guy, so I feel like I would need a really tall guy to make me feel better I guess? However, I get what you're saying about you being stronger than a taller guy. I think if I knew a guy like that I could probably see myself with them, because like I said it's about the whole protective thing .. I also have a couple friends who are really tall too and they date guys who are shorter than them so I think it's just all about personal preferences!

[Anonymous]

um I'm like 5'7/5'8 so I do prefer a guy to be taller to me just like a guy probably wants to be taller than his girl, but I don't think of short guys as less of a man. I was talking to my girl the other day about this subject and actually I think short guys tend to be better looking...like there are a lot of good looking short guys around but maybe that's just my neck of the woods. I don't think I would have a problem dating one unless he was like 5'2 or something..then it would be a little awkward. well I did hook up with a guy that was that height though

[MarcusBorino]

What if he was the same height as you?

[ballykissang]

Well I'm tall for a girl 5'11" and to be honest I do feel uncomfortable dating guys that are WAY shorter then me. When I meet guys a lot shorter then me I just view them as friends - and that does sound awful, but I just like the whole idea of 'feeling protected'. But I used to date this guy who was about 5'8 so I had to be aware of what shoes I wore, but apart from that everything was sweet.

It is very frustrating being a tall girl...i hate it :( haha

[Asker]

Well what makes you think short guys can't protect you and tall guys can. yes it does sound terrible

[ballykissang]

I think its just cause I am very insecure with my height, and I always feel that people are look at me when I enter shops etc cause of my height.

[Fredo]

It's not like she thinks your a pussy, it's just instinct. She feels like a shorter guy is less dominant in the hierarchy. On a primal level this is true, and it extends to present day.

[ballykissang]

Yeah that's exactly it fredo - I'm not saying there is anything wrong with you if your short - its def the hierachy thing.

[Asker]

Lots of short guys have been powerful leaders lots of tall guys are really weak. You feel insecure about your height guess I do to but not really I only care because it frusturates me people actually think that makes me a "beta dog" or some sh*t

[Alistair]

ya us shorter guys are at a disadvantage when it comes to that sh*t... I'm 5'7 and I have that problem some but now days the average height for girls is 5'3 to 5'7 so I can only get short chicks lol but ya man umm about your tall chick I don't know what you should do... if she doesn't mind the height thing then ur good but if she does and your to short then there's nothing you can really do

[sunshinee]

i've only dated a guy that was shorter than me once.

i didn't even notice untill he pointed it out - strange as it seems.

short guys are attractive as well

[Fredo]

I feel like being with a taller girl is empowering. It's like there has to be a deeper reason why that tall woman would go for a short guy like that. The answer usually being money or power.

[A3Angel]

I disagree that it's for money or power. I'm slightly taller than my guy friend and it doesn't bother me. It's the way he makes me feel that's important!

[Fredo]

Well I guess I worded this wrong. I didn't mean to imply that it is always cause the dude is rich or something. But when I see a tell girl with a much shorter guy, I have to ponder what that guy has going for him for her to overlook what is almost a social taboo. I'm not saying it's wrong for them to be together, but it is far less common.