Do men like wild girls with a bad side or nice girls with a shy side?

[Anonymous]

im a nice girl, and people always tell me id make an awesome wife/mom one day...they say I'm gorgeous too, but I always have trouble meeting men and making them interested in me...whereas my friend, who is on the wild and crazy bad side, she's really outgoing and gets any guy she wants and they kiss the floor she walks on

should I change myself to attract men too? is it that I'm not giving them a challenge? I don't get it what am I doing wrong?

[sa230e]

Being outgoing and wild just works.And it works whether you're a man or a woman. Being shy sort of isolates you from other people but when you're just naturally social you meet more people and more people like you. To some extent other people can feel how you're feeling. If you feel shy and uncomfortable so will they.

I always was rather introverted and shy myself and I've never had a girlfriend and the truth is it's nobody's fault but mine. If you sit back and wait for someone to engage you you relinquish control over your dating life. If I had the confidence to approach lots of girls I wouldn't be lonely. I'm sure I must be attractive to at least some of them.

The same applies to women too. If you don't ask, you don't get. Your friend asks and she gets. You and I need to grab the bull by the horns if we're to get what we want. I've been lucky enough to be flirted with by bold, wild girls but was totally oblivious to it at the time and I missed my chances. I was pretty young but I regret it to this day. I girls like that, I don't exactly no why but they really do it for me. I've liked shy girls too but it would never happen as neither of us would make a move.

Don't look at it as "changing yourself". It's not "you" you're changing, it's the way you show that self to the rest of the world. It's more of a change of interface to make you're personality more accessible.

[Asker]

Aww thank you so much for the awesome answer. You're right...i do need to put myself out there...ive been waiting so so long to meet a guy finally and actually have a relationship, but I think my shyness makes it awkward....and it never goes far....im gonna try to go up to guys and spike conversations...thanks a lot once again

[Anonymous]

Men likes sluts just as much as women like bad boys. However, there comes a point in everyone's life (well, most of the time anyway) where they outgrow this phase and want someone more like you. Don't change yourself just to try and attract men. You won't attract the ones you want and you won't respect yourself.

If anything, just try and be more outgoing and friendly. Approach some of the shyer guys you think are cute and get them talking. You might be surprised how quickly some of the nice guys take a shine to you if you take the initial step in communication.

[darkknight1x]

I agree, although not all men grow up liking sluts. I never did. I found them attractive but I would always ignore them. I always liked women like Ashley Tisdale,Cassadee Pope, and Valerie Poxleitner.

[darkknight1x]

Don't ever change yourself. Guys like a woman that's unique. If you want to attract men then you need to look approachable and not look like a stuck up, conceited, heartless bitch. Also try putting on a perfume or lotion that will attract guys attention. The only time I want a wild and crazy woman is in the bedroom.

I don't mind a woman that's shy as long as she's attractive and she doesn't talk in a very low voice and we have a lot of things in common.

[Asker]

Thank u

[Buccaneersfan12]

Lady in the street, freak in the bed.

[Asker]

Lol ha ha I like it!