Did I give my virginity away or was it taken from me?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend and I were just messing around touching each other until he started getting serious. he starts taking my clothes off and i asked what was he doing. He told me just wanted to see my body. so i let him but then he laid me down and put his dick inside me. I pushed him away and told him i didn't want to do. I didn't say no or stop but i did tell him i was in pain and didn't want to do it but he told me thats how its suppose to feel. so I laid back down. he told me I had to do it and said since we were together I would eventually would have to do it some day. I think if i would have gotten up and told him no I would probably still be a virgin but i was in fear he would be more aggravated. I broke up with him through text and told him why. He said he thought I wanted it like that and told me he would never try to abuse me and I know that.

[hahahmm]

You gave it away because you engaged in mutual touching and then let the guy take your clothes off when you could have stopped him before/at that point. You did not say, no or try to stop him before he actually entered you.

It'd be like me handing my wallet to somebody and then after they spend the money I say, "don't spend my money".

[Rob70]

He took it from you. As soon as you said you didn’t want to go that far he should have stopped. I would be careful about getting back together with him. If he forced you once chances are he will do it again

[Sirenboobzilla]

Sooooo saying "I don't want to" equates to a no. He's full in the wrong and full of shit. You need to always speak up. Sex should always be consensual thus making the experience good

[DaveJord]

Sounds bad... he's an asshole. I can't tell you how to feel. I can't answer your questions... but in the future if you don't want to have sex never get talked into getting naked with a guy. Guys NEVER just want to LOOK.

[Dragonpurple]

You were assaulted, no question about it. The moment you say you didn't want to, legally that is the same as saying no. For him to continue he would of needed you to say yes it is okay.

[boggboss]

Meh guess that's for your to decide but understand if u say he took it u have to accept he is also a rapist and u probably should report that

[2021biguy]

When you told him you didn't want to means no, so he should have stopped right there. But you shouldn't let him take your clothes off unless you want sex.

[Caunsos]

You need to fingure this out and how you feel about. This a very personal thing that noone can decide for you.

[Pterodon]

It’s one or the other and only you can decide which. If you didn’t want to then why did you get naked?

[Anonymous]

Sad to think how many women lose it through fear... I would resist physically if he refuses to stop. Tell him “get off me right now you fucking rapist or I’m callin the cops”

[BarryLiverstone]

Either way you are no longer a virgin but learned an important lesson to speak up.

[Anonymous]

Saying you do not want to do something basically means no

[Naydyonov]

= Rape