For what I’ve noticed he sometimes grabs me there firmly like massaging me or strongly enough to make me laugh (again, it’s not in an abusive way). Or also when checking something on my face he grabs me by the chin or cheeks firmly too, there’s always this tension when he does it or anything I mentioned.
I want to clarify the abusive thing because I know some people aren’t into this type of stuff or choking and similar things so if you are not into that try not to comment since you wouldn’t get it.