Am I the only one who goes to the library for fun? What other things can a lonly loner do?

[Sms9tf]

I need a husband badly. But np men approach me except to try to hit on me sexually.
So anyway i am so bored with my life. I work and go home or walk around outside. I used to visit the park a lot. Now i started going to te library but its quikcly losing its novelty and thidls is depressing because im really running out of stuff to do in life especially alone.

[DarkWinterNights]

Sounds like you really need some hobbies. What do you enjoy doing in your free time? Reading? Movies? Video games? What about outdoor things? Do you have any friend groups? Try finding a Meetup Group for something like hiking or photography. It’s great way to at least meet some friends. You aren’t going to find a guy unless you engage, especially in todays society.

[Sms9tf]

What dors your last sentence mean exactly?

[Sms9tf]

I like to be outside but I am allergic to the sun when Its strong out. I like reading a bit but I thinknI have adhd or add because its hard for me tk actally sit still haha plus my mind wants to explore a lot and randomly. I am an INFP.

[Sms9tf]

I love travel but that requires a partner, and resources and i am poor and a lonely loner.

[DarkWinterNights]

Most guys aren’t going to just walk up and ask you out. You need to be talking with people, initiating conversations. It doesn’t have to be anything crazy, but I would never approach a woman and ask her out unless I got clear signals that there was interest.

That said, you have to be comfortable with yourself and have a life (for lack of a better word) outside of the relationship. Better yourself, initiate conversations and make yourself approachable.

It may not feel like it, but it’s a whole lot easier for women in dating. Especially around your age. Everything gets harder in the 30’s.

[Sms9tf]

Why harder? Age is a number dude people crack me up with this 30s is a horrible time for a woman theory.

[DarkWinterNights]

Women have it easier In their 20’s but it gets harder for everyone in their 30’s. By 30 most people have established careers, likes and dislikes and friend groups shrink as people get married and have kids and have to re-examine finances. A couple married friends went from hanging out a couple times a week to once or twice a month. I personally stopped going to bars and using dating apps years ago. Most of my friends I’ve known for 5+ years.

[Sms9tf]

Well i dont relate because i haven't had a friend since middle school, maybe freshman year of high school. So i dont see how it can get any worse.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Instead of looking for places you can go by yourself, I would rather help you find someone who lives near you that you can go do things with..
Why have you found yourself alone... Have you moved to a new area and just not found a friend base, or just cut yourself off from people in general?

[Sms9tf]

Feels like i gave up on thinking i will actually be able to make a friend. I haven't had one since early HS. i dont have excuses i just dont have any.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Do you have a local store that sells newspapers? .. or the type of thing which might have a board in the window to advertise? If so, why not put an advert in there asking for a platonic friend to do things with.. I get that you might find some weirdos, but you might also find someone else in the same boat as you.

[Sms9tf]

I live in NYC... Where do you live? Here, I don't think we have that type of stuff.

[Sms9tf]

But I like your idea and maybe I can do it in another way. Thanks.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm in The Uk. London to be exact.. We have lots of newsagents here.. and ALL of them have these little boards where you can place an advert ranging from gardening services, to making new friends. I hope you have some success. Let me know how you get on.

[Sms9tf]

Thanks

[TommyMountainFigure]

Thank you for choosing my answer.. I had an idea.. what about asking them to do that for you in the library? Who knows if they think its a good idea, they might make a permanent thing of it

[Sms9tf]

Thats bold haha... you're welcome

[TommyMountainFigure]

It might appear bold, but if you don't ask in this world you don't get.

[Sms9tf]

You ask people for stuff?

[TommyMountainFigure]

No, I mean It's a pretty standard saying here.. "If you don't ask you don't get"

[Sms9tf]

Oh...

[faithgrace4u]

Go to church I don't know where else you can go to meet actual like good people that'd be good material for friends and boyfriend

[Sms9tf]

Do u go to church? I am looking for one that actually folows the Bible.

[faithgrace4u]

Yeah you can usually tell who is a christian or not by how they act

[Sms9tf]

I pay attention to how people act too.

[faithgrace4u]

good luck then

[Wonderwhat]

Why not go to church and see if you can find a husband there since you say you are traditional? You need god to find meaning in your life.

[Sms9tf]

Im saved and Christian

[Wonderwhat]

I am the same way, but I am not sure if women like me. I save for marriage, but I do not think girls want a guy like me.

[Sms9tf]

Christian women want a virgin or a man saving himself even if he had made mistames in the past.

[Sms9tf]

You have to lead and pursue and find a wife.