Guys, Would you Rather?

[Anonymous]

Be with a woman who is not attractive physically but takes great care of herself, and who loves you genuinely, is completely compatible with you and is on the same page with you regarding your life plans together.

Be with a physically attractive woman who takes great care of herself, she genuinely loves you, is sort of compatible with you and has life plans that are slightly similar to yours.

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By saying that option A is completely compatible with you I mean that she is everything you want in a woman personality wise, and

by saying that option B is sort of compatible with you I mean that she is not everything that you would want in woman personality wise, she has a lot of personality traits that you dislike and a very few personality traits that you do like in a woman.

[qwert1234]

B.
It'll be boring for me if we're 100% compatible. Nothing new to gain from each other.
Plus, she's gonna be attractive at a cost of minor disagreements here and there.

[Asker]

well that's interesting ngl lol!

[TheSpaceGnome]

I never understood that kind of logic, 100% compatible people get along so well they never fight, and why would anyone need someone else in order to advance themselves? Why do you need to gain something from them? isn't relatability and companionship enough? Can't you gain whatever advantage/skill/knowledge/etc. on your own?

[Asker]

@TheSpaceGnome thank you, that's exactly what i was thinking but I thought may be Qwert over here had a different interpretation for what i said... you came up with great questions though

[qwert1234]

Example.
I don't want to say "Hey, let's go to Starbucks" and 90% of the time, answer will be "Sure!".
I want someone who has it different and sometimes say "I know this local coffee shop, why don't we try there".

It's not about fighting. I hate fighting. Disagreements, I am fine since it opens up options.
Maybe my idea is better, maybe she has a better one.

[Asker]

@qwert1234 here's the definition for compatibility and I'm only putting on here to prove my point. "Compatibility in a relationship means that both partners understand and accept each other's life philosophy and goals, as well as genuinely enjoy being around each other without feeling preoccupied by what they feel needs to change within their partner". so if this is the case that means your compatible with women who are not agreeable and are open to sharing their views and thoughts even if they differ from yours, this means you should have picked A, because like i said A is compatible with you so she will have all the personality qualities that you are looking for in a girl. and because B is only sort of compatible with you she will be the girl who always agrees with you and never disagrees!. she will have a lot of personality qualities you don't like.

[Asker]

You are compatible with women who are not Always agreeable*

[qwert1234]

But physical attraction is a factor to me too.
So being "sort of compatible" is a trade-off I am willing to accept.

[Asker]

@qwert1234, okay I understand, your honesty is also highly appreciated by the way

[Kaneki05]

Anyone can have looks. Not everyone can be fully compatible with me. Therefore the girl who is, is much more desired.

[MCheetah]

I've been with both before. My simple answer is this:

If she "takes great care of herself, loves you genuinely, is completely compatible with you, and is on the same page with you regarding your life plans together," then she's attractive to me.

As far as looks go, how bad could she be? I'm not picky, and I've been with conventionally "ugly" women before (if others were to judge them). If she's otherwise "perfect," I can get her to look better. Wear some platform wedges to make her taller, have her wear sexier, more feminine clothing, get her cosmetic surgery if need be (if she's that compatible with me, then she'll fully be on board with it), get her breast implants if she's an A-cup, and so on.

To boost her up to a sexy 5'10".

And granted, she can do the same thing with me; asking that I get a new haircut and wardrobe or something, if she's willing to change for me.

But again, I don't know how 'bad' we're talking here. "Unattractive" to me, would be a woman who's a 4 to 6 out of 10, and "ugly" would be a 1 to 3 out of 10.

But here's what I would want in a woman, personality wise:

1. (Mandatory) Strictly heterosexual
2. (Mandatory) Strictly monogamous
3. (Mandatory) Politically moderate; not too liberal or conservative
4. (Mandatory) Loyal/faithful
5. (Mandatory) Respectful/classy/ladylike
6. Kind/positive
7. Intelligent
8. Strong sense of humor
9. Strong work ethic
10. Accepting/nonjudgmental
11. Open-minded
12. Patient; not easily offended or bothered
13. Artistic
14. Nerdy; into video games or superheroes

Here's what my ideal woman would look like:

Tall, thick, curvy, pretty, positive, and between 23 and 30.

And here's the type of woman I'd least be attracted to.

Short, skinny, petite, not pretty, and over 30.

Given the option between the first type of woman, choice B who "has a lot of personality traits that I dislike" that aren't dealbreakers, (lazy, stoner/smokes weed, never takes responsibility, moderately Liberal, religious, etc), versus a girl I find pretty ugly but have perfect chemistry with (kind, smart, caring, quick-witted/funny, understanding, accommodating, apolitical, nerdy, etc), then I guess option A is what I'm going with.

TL;DR: I'd pick option A, but to be honest, would want to try to make her look more appealing to me.

[Asker]

Bwahahah this was a very polite way to tell me that you would basically find me unattractive

[Reaper1985]

I would rather date an average looking female with a personality I enjoyed. provided were compatible and had similar life goals, hobbies, etc.

helps if she's generally healthy and likes how she looks in a full body mirror from all angles. however she doesn't need to look like a model or porn star to make me happy.

[Whatever2929292]

I can deal with someone not taking the exact same life path as me

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't settle.

[Asker]

@thespacegnome Are you saying that you don't want to be in relationship with anyone?

[Wise4myage]

Id choose A, but B wouldn't be bad either.