Are women the problem when they say ‘men are trash’?

[Anonymous]

They say it because they pick guys too good for them etc, get hurt and come out with all this shit

They’re the problem

I disagree

[FilmGuy93]

Those women definitely aren't helping the situations, but I've gotta be honest; a lot of men are just so damn cringe. There's just a degree of awkwardness in men that I hear about from nearly every woman I've ever spoken with that makes me wonder who TF taught these guys how to act because it's just that bad.

Like there's the weirdly invasive personal questions. Then the fucking unacceptably poor word choices/grammar. The lack of hygiene. The whack-ass clothes. The lack of hobbies. Then, assuming that he's not a physically repugnant human being to be close to and interact with, a lot of guys are manipulative, dishonest, abusive, they have some kind of weird mental health shit going on, or whatever else.

Honestly, everything about so many men is just so fucking awful, that I can't blame women for looking around and wondering wait, THIS is what I have to breed with?

[Juxtapose]

And yet they choose these men lol. I am bisexual and have dated guys, finding a guy who's not insane is not hard.

[FilmGuy93]

@Juxtapose like I said, the women definitely contribute to their situation! Lol men do too though. I was having lunch with my girl the other day, and I had to fight my mind trying to tell me our relationship was boring just because there wasn’t any tension between us. My relationship is healthy, so my mind thinks there’s something wrong with that 😂😂

[Anonymous]

Spot on. I see this repeatedly on this site. a lot of women are so wrapped up in thier feelings and what THEY want that generally she has no clue how TOXIC she is.

I can understand a woman feeling after a series of bad "relationships". Beginning to feel hopeless. But when you paint an entire gender with the same paintbrush for it you're clearly wrong. Because if that were true. There would be no successful relationships. Most women's mistakes are trying to force something that shouldn't be forced. You can't make people love you. All you can do is put yourself in the best light and either they respond or they don't.

[Anonymous]

Not trying to be rude, but to say that all the women calling men trash get hurt as a result of going for some out of their league guy is just small minded and untrue. That’s like men saying women are trash because those men were dealing with and getting hurt by knockout model types. 9/10 a woman has that negative outlook on men and relationships because they’ve been hurt by more than one specific type of man, even the ones they wouldn’t usually go for.

[Asker]

Saying men are trash makes them trash. There’s so many good men out there like your father/brothers. It just tells you she’s shit and can’t pick men.

[Opinion Owner]

To be fair, some people unintentionally cast that generalization and don’t realize it’s being taken so literal. To me, saying men are trash is a broad and unfair generalization, but I know that when some women say it, they are not referring to their brothers and fathers but to the men who hurt them. To say this woman is “shit” is unfair and one track minded, because as a stated before not every woman is going after the same sort of man, “too good for them”, as you put it. They’re giving people they normally wouldn’t give a chance the benefit of the doubt. Hindsight is 20/20 so could the guy have been a red flag from the start and she overlooked it? Absolutely. But any guy is capable of hurting a woman and adding to her perspective that men are trash, and that’s my point.

[LazerBean]

Like with men, anyone who says people of the opposite gender are trash are their own problem.

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

No many women and many men are the problem. We are our own problem and our own solution. It is not one way. The truth is usually somewhere in the middle. I think most people are conditionally good people but as soon as conditions are not favorable they cave in and become submissive to those conditions. We all do it but most of us do it 99% of the time and that's the problem. Thats the #1 problem in the world. That and ignorance. Lack of self discipline and a lack of awareness

[MCheetah]

I think both men and women have been hurt too often by the bad ones. Women just get a little more blame for it (rightfully so) since they do all the choosing and selecting, while most men can only date whoever they can get.

[Summeroflove]

The women who act like that are... But not all women are like that. The same as not all men are trash.

Those are sexist women and that is the reason no decent man wants her. She is sexist

[misogynistic_pig]

Women tend to be attracted to the Dark Triad: narcissism, manipulation, and psychopathy.

[UniquelyBasic]

I'd say both men and women contribute to the problem.

[AsaKyo]

Why waste my breath saying "men are trash" when I'm the trash myself

[BJP21]

That would depend on the context in which they say it.

[Guy13]

Nope... men do it to themselves.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Yeah they are the problem

[Anonymous]

Women ARE the problem

[Anonymous]

Anything is possible.