Partner wants to buy an expensive motorbike but contribute less to a joint car?

[Anonymous]

The thing is he will mostly be using the bike for himself for fun and I’ll use the car for work commute but the weekends were always together so I don’t see why I should fund the whole cost of the car. Seems really unfair if he’s getting his “boy toy” and I have to sacrifice my wage to pay for something that’s used to get US around everywhere that he can drive whenever he wants. I feel used

[RavVid]

He can also use the bike to get around for himself. You will use the car during the work commute. How often do you drive together on the weekend and is it for what you want to do or he wants to do or you both want to do?

Potentially there is a his money is our money problem and he wants a motorbike but you want a car. Be careful of forcing your car preference onto him. It isn't that your preference should trump his and the car is primarily for your needs not his after all.

If he uses the car one or two days a week you could say pro rata it is 1/7 to 2/7 his cost. But then he should have a say in what car etc and you might want something better what he wants.

[Asker]

We use the car every weekend because we’re always out together. He has a work van or he would be able to use it for work too and I’ve said we’ll pick something we both like and I’ll pay a bit more because I will be using it for work. I’ve been as fair as I can be

[RavVid]

That sounds reasonable.

[Adam1978]

It's your car, his bike so you are paying for your own transportation. Why should he pay for something you will be using most of the time and he only needs when you are together, and you will be keeping if you separate.

[Asker]

Because it’s a joint car and he’s only not using it for work because he gets a works van

[Asker]

We’re together all weekend so it’s both of us using it

[Adam1978]

Doesn't sounds like a joint car if it's primarily you using it. I am pretty sure you can ride at the back on the bike too. That doesn't make it a joint bike.

[Asker]

If I had no car right now we wouldn’t be going anywhere so a replacement is a joint car

[Adam1978]

No it's still you not going somewhere. He isn't limited by you not having a car. He needs to be able to move himself around. He can do that however he pleases, so he has some form of transportation to get his needs met. Besides you said partner not husband. So your economies are split, not joined.

[Asker]

We are engaged so we’re supposed to be more than just a boyfriend and girlfriend and like a said, if I didn’t have my car now the one we’re replacing we wouldn’t be able to go the shops or do anything at all so it is absolutely a joint car I’m afraid

[dustybiker]

Why doesn’t he commute on the bike?

[Asker]

He gets a work van paid for so he doesn’t need to

[dustybiker]

If he wants a toy then he should pay off his responsibilities first. I use my bikes to work for me. My truck is my luxury. All are paid off though.

[Asker]

Exactly he should pay off his responsibilities first ie we get a joint car together that we will actually use. The bike is going to get left in the garage

[Changiis07]

Def the car should be first and then the toy