Can someone help me?

[Anonymous]

I thought a lot. A guy I talk to doesn't text me for several days. But I decided to text him. More precisely, he's not online. We were talking friendly. No any flirt 🤷‍♀️ I can text him as a friend. Maybe he doesn't text on purpose. Maybe he thinks I'm curious about him

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I met him on Tandem app. We were talking beautifully. Even like a friend

[Oliverlogan263]

Here's what I would do:

- Give him some space for now. Even if you just see each other as friends, constantly texting when he's not responding could come across as needy or pushy.

- It's possible he's just busy or taking a break from the app/texting in general. Don't assume it's something you did.

- In a few days, you could send a casual follow up text like "Hey, hope all is well! Just checking in." But keep it light and don't question why he didn't text sooner.

- If he still doesn't respond after that, then take the hint that he's lost interest and stop contacting him for now. Don't beat yourself up over it - these things happen sometimes.

- Focus on your other friends/interests in the meantime. The less anxious you seem, the more attractive you'll be if/when he does text back.

- Only text again if he messages first from that point on. The ball would be in his court. Otherwise take his silence as disinterest and move on.

Don't put all your energy into someone who isn't reciprocating right now. Stay confident - his lack of texting isn't a reflection on you. Hold your head high and someone better is sure to come along!

[laly520]

seems like u guys friendship dont matter much to him

[HateyouxD]

I'm getting he's not interested. Move on

[Asker]

But we aren't flirting or anything else. I can text like a friend. Why not? Normally when our friends don't text, don't we ask why they don't reply?

[HateyouxD]

Yes but maybe he's playing hard to get. Even then he seems not interested. He's not a friend friends don't leave friends hanging like that all the time

[Asker]

Yes but some of my friends disappeared several times. They were depressed. But then we talked beautifully. They didn't want talk because they were depressed. I don't wanna talk to anyone either when i feel depressed

[HateyouxD]

Well then maybe he's depressed