Why do guys start fights?

[kareenakapur]

my boyfriend starting so many fights is he trynna have us break up or is he just concerned about stuff or just stressed

[ProbablyClueless]

Could be stress, he might want to cause a break up.

Usually people start stupid fights when there's some deeper issue that they aren't ready or willing to acknowledge.

[MicahRaine]

Possible reasons:

• Stresses from outside your relationship (work, friends, etc)
• Ego
• Stress from you
• Feeling unvalued/unheard (can play into ego)
• etc etc

[itsannalee]

You are the one who know him, you know hid situation, so u know what he wants more than us. I’m sure in your heart you know the answer.

[rienna888]

how does he start the fights? whats the reason

[V_Injector]

I would have to hear the fights. I've seen too many men trying to get some much needed changes and she's there just turning his issues with what she's doing on him... simply because she wants to keep doing the thing.

So flirting for instance. He's going to get told he's just jealous, being possessive, or that her ex is just a friend... basically so gaslighted that he could explode if someone lit a match. Even though she wouldn't like it if he starts texting girls in the bathroom and comparing her to other chicks, her solipsism doesn't even allow her to see his POV.

It's doesn't need to be something like talking to an ex or random guys that any of us know is just trying to fuck while she tells us he's just a really nice guy and only a friend. It's could be something like shopping habits...

With all that said, I'm not going to just join you on coming down on this guy for starting fights when I don't even know what the fights are about, if you're doing anything to solve what's causing the fights, and if this is really because you're being a piece of shit and deserve to have a fight started with you.

I've been married for over 20 years and have plenty of side-chicks... the problem is usually the woman. <--See what I did there? You're generally speaking that all men start fights and I just flip that shit around. Naw... you actually start the fights. Take the gender bullshit out of it and then we'd start to see what the problem really is. People don't just start fights for no reason... you're doing something to aggravate that man, so what are you doing?

Or we can just throw shade at the genders like a couple of retards and get nothing done.

[Summeroflove]

Someone whose starting fights without any legitimate cause many times come from deeper problems. It could be insecurities, resentments, among other things, as well as a mixture of things.

It could be all of the above that you mentioned or none of the above I just cannot read his mind all I can do is make a estimated guess that it’s probably a mix of things.

You need to determine for yourself if this relationship is really worth it or not. If you’re not a toxic person you don’t deserve to be with someone toxic. Maybe he wooed you at first but now you’re seeing him for who he really is.

Yeah, he may be going through things but if you don’t have control over that then you don’t deserve to have it taken out on you especially if you have been nothing but supportive.

Is he who you want to marry? Because if you don’t see yourself living this on a daily basis…. Then maybe it’s time to break things off before it gets worse.

[Billlewis]

'Cause they know they're gonna win, and oftentimes are rewarded for their machismo in the sweetest, most appropriate manner possible -- by fucking the gorgeous woman whom I just picked up from her apartment an hour ago... I was super excited about having the opportunity to fuck her tonight, for the very first time, but now, the penis that has been deemed the most deserving of being wriggled and gushed on belongs to another guy, and if I want to be completely honest, I'm secretly thrilled that this is going to happen, and happen without any participation from me whatsoever, and that's how it should be.

[VIVANT]

I’d love some examples.

and, in that situation I think I’d explain I can’t solve a problem if I don’t know what it is. He may not want to discuss it which is fair but I also do not want to be dragged into a random dispute. He can choose conflict resolution or we can part ways.

he may be angry for any number of reasons but as @Summeroflove pointed out, you’re not responsible for things beyond your control. If he will not work with you but rather just get mad at you, sorry to say but then you are not really together anyhow.

[Finchie40]

Mainly because you both aren’t agreeing on things , for a relationship to work you both need to compromise with each other , if you can’t compromise , then your relationship is doomed. What are things he is arguing with you about? Most times selfishness is the number 1 reason why partners’ argue with each other and end up breaking up. So really ask yourself are you being selfish , without realizing you are? Just because you think something is alright , it might not be alright to your partner , we tend to play victims when really we aren’t the victim. We tend to point fingers at our partner before pointing fingers at ourselves first. So that may be the reason you both are having issues in your relationship.

[lanelle116]

If its stupid things that he's causing a argument over its either one of to things or both. They are overstimulated from something that has nothing to do with you or it does and they haven't communicated. Or, They are doing it on purpose to drive you away from them because they are no longer in desire of wanting to be with you. Neither makes it okay tho because both lack in proper communication.

[Gauoda_]

@kareenakapur Your boyfriend fights because you don't give this to him 😊😂

[NathanDavis]

a fight only can happen if you fight back, and forth, and so on...

couples should work towards solutions, together... not against

[Lynx122]

I never start a fight unless there's a big reason and then I'll say that reason clearly.

[Shy_Steve]

He is Probably just sick of doing the things that you like doing all the time.

Just try and ask him to to suggest something to do and try to enjoy doing it with him.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I don't know the reason but it surely doesn't sound healthy

[TallAnon]

Begging the question.
What are the fights about?

[beefcakebradybatson]

They feel a need to prove their masculinity, though I've never started a fight and can recall only three boyhood bouts.

[LiamJHayden]

Unless he's passive-aggressive he is not starting them to force a breakup. Likely stress.

[noohair]

Creating chaos is a form of control. You are smarter than him and he knows it.

[robocop666]

I spoke to a bouncer and he said 70% of the time when men start fights its woman related

[ManInChains]

Why do women allow fights to persist?

[Jennz6]

Toxic masculinity behavior

[FlamingLass]

could be both or neither

[John_Cobretti]

With you or with others?

[Anonymous]

what's his side of the story?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why girls start fights

[eagle1951]

someone said something wrong

[TheCaller]

Men are tough and that's natural

[Ladsin2]

Lol as if.

[Jmmmfi4]

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