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so this is my first year at college I wanted to be unknown and not have drama with someone so I went and I met this guy who really treated me nice on text and I thought I finally found the one because my love life at high school was trash but we went out. He made out with me and I didn’t know how and he looked like he was disappointed and then after some days we stop texting and never talk again I felt really sad. It goes like how did he feel? Nothing for me when I told him that he was the first guy that I felt comfortable with and that he was my first kiss the first guy that hugged me the first guy that hold my hand after we made out in a view we went down he told me that he has only one neck but 12 make out and hook ups and that he doesn’t really date he just likes hooking up with people I got really sad when he said that and I know that probably we will never go out again together he brought me home and kissed me again, but after that nothing I learned that he made up some rumours about me that I was crazy stalker I confronted him about that, but he said he didn’t do that although he did I was so sad because for real he was the first guy that I gave a chance to because I thought that he was worth it and he turns out to be a player and now this week we just made some eye contact and he’s saw with another guy but he is my friend. But I've seen him flirt w a girl from his class too. what I felt about him was real and yesterday I found out that he blocked me on Instagram since then I’ve been feeling so bad and crying because it feels like he has a problem with me and like I did something wrong I don’t know. I’m just 18 no and I feel like I’m doing something wrong because he removed me after I had an argument with a girl that girl was from his class and he knows about me and him because she was my friend but she was a big liar that’s why we dropped her off the friend group I’m afraid she told him some lies because she’s a big liar. I've been crying bc i still like him
Why is this happening to me I am loosing myslef?
Anonymous
(18-24) 
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Ah man, that really sucks girl. I'm so sorry you're going through all that drama and heartbreak with this guy. It sounds like an absolute mess.
It's totally understandable that you're feeling so sad and confused right now. This dude really put you through the wringer - leading you on, making out with you, and then bailing and spreading rumors. That's super messed up, especially for your first real college experience.
I can see why you were so into him at first, though. The way he treated you in the beginning, with the hand-holding and stuff - that must have felt so special and validating, especially after your crappy high school dating life. I get why you really opened up to him and felt like he could be the one.
But it's clear now that he's just a total player who has no interest in anything serious. The fact that he's already hooking up with tons of other people and doesn't even really date - that says it all, girl. You dodged a bullet, even though it hurts like hell.
As for the rumor thing and the girl from his class... that's just classic manipulative, shady behavior. It sounds like she's trying to turn him against you, which is so unfair. But try not to let her get in your head. You know the truth about what happened between you and this guy.
The best thing you can do is just focus on yourself right now. Don't let this experience make you totally closed off to dating in the future. But for now, take the time to heal, refocus on your classes and hobbies, and surround yourself with the friends who truly have your back.
You're so young, with so much life ahead of you. This is just one tiny blip on the radar. One day, you're gonna look back on this and realize how much stronger it's made you. Keep your chin up, girl. You got this!
Thank you very much this helped me. I thought i did something wrong at the begging. But its just that he knew that he had to wait for me and that i was serious about it and he was just lusting
You're absolutely right, girl - this is not your fault at all. The problem is that this guy was just lusting after you, and he wasn't willing to put in the time and effort to have a real, meaningful relationship.
He knew from the beginning that you were serious about finding a connection, and he took advantage of that. Instead of respecting your feelings and boundaries, he just used you for his own selfish desires. That's a huge jerk move on his part.
You didn't do anything wrong by opening your heart to him and trusting that he was being genuine. That's a totally normal, healthy thing to do. The problem is that he was never on the same page as you. He just wanted to hook up, while you were looking for something real.
Don't beat yourself up over this. You're not the one who messed up here - he is. He's the one who misled you and then tried to spread nasty rumors about you. That shows his true colors as a player who can't handle a girl who wants more than just a physical relationship.
I know it hurts like hell right now, but try not to dwell on his shitty behavior. Focus on healing and moving forward. Surround yourself with supportive friends who can help lift you up. In time, you'll realize that this is a reflection on him, not you.
There are so many better guys out there who will appreciate you for who you are and treat you with the respect and care that you deserve. Don't lose hope, girl. This was just one jerk, and you're gonna find someone so much better when the time is right. You've got this!
I litteraly wanted the best for him and i still want and pray he finds happiness because i know he is just a broken insecure guy. I dont know if he even thinks of me and feels bad but i randomly feel him sometimes
Aw, I feel you. It's so admirable that even after all this crap, you still want the best for that guy and hope he finds happiness. That's a really mature and compassionate way to look at it, even though he clearly doesn't deserve that kind of kindness from you.
The fact that you can still feel him randomly and wonder if he feels bad just shows how much you cared. Even when someone treats us badly, it's hard to just shut those feelings off.
But you gotta remember - his issues and insecurities are not your responsibility to fix. As much as you want the best for him, you can't control his journey or make him feel things he doesn't. That's on him to work through, not you.
The best thing you can do now is focus on healing and taking care of yourself. Surround yourself with people who truly appreciate you. Pursue the things that make you feel happy and fulfilled. Show yourself the same compassion you have for him.
In time, those random feelings will fade, and you'll realize you deserve so much more than some broken dude who couldn't even give you the time and respect you needed. You've got so much amazing stuff ahead of you, girl. This is just a bump in the road.
Keep being your kind, caring self - just make sure you're directing that energy inward too. You're honestly inspiring for still wishing him well, but don't lose sight of your own worth and happiness in the process. You've got this! Sending you all the positive vibes.
This happens constantly in college! Sorry most guys want sex no strings and ghost you when you wanna wait!
Please wait next guy make him date you before kissing and emotional attachment! 💖
You will meet some one amazing worth spending your time with. Probably will be another woman but good luck!
Dating is awful like looking through the trash for a diamond! My rule was no sex 6 months but moved it to a year after 2 just waited 6 months for the challenge!
Just post on your dating site that your waiting to be married! And stick to it. Helps some but I have up just stayed lesbian.
I am straight , but he broke my heart he knew i am dating to marry etc. he still picked me tho to lust and now blocked me. He hasn't even blocked his previous kissed and his ex and he blocked me one time thing and he didn't like me because i didn't know how to make out bc he was my first one. I've been so sad
You should be he trampled your heart for kicks! Poeple sometimes do this so guard it your a treasure!
Concentrate on your college work and try to grow a thicker skin. There are enough assholes like this around, so don’t fall for the next one just like that.