Guys, How do you look at your crushes?

[Lalalove11]

Do you use more intense eye contact, stare a bit longer? I'm just curious as a guy I like I feel looks at me intensely when I talk. Like looking at my fringe when I was brushing it back, then staring deep into my eyes which made me feel quite self conscious. It just felt like he was paying extra attention to me , watching my reactions to stories, and definitely looked at my cleavage once but that's to be expected lol

[Anonymous]

I think depends on personalities.

For me, I'm someone who heavily relies on my eyes to seduce through. I did read a lot how to learn and do eye contact seduction and flirting.
Especially when just spotting a girl for the first time. Worked really well in different contexts. All girls I flirted in person with were firstly through my eyes.

I'd still even use to push forward with a girl I know already. But then comes more complicated and harder to master as it gets combined with words and actions and with timings.. etc.

He seems like so. Sending seducing energy and trying to rely naturally on building up the sexual tension. And looks he's good at it.

[Lalalove11]

Yes it definitely works. It's quite powerful actually:)

[Lalalove11]

So it sounds like that guy is being flirty with me?

[Opinion Owner]

He certainly is. Could be natural if he already knows and naturally uses his information well. Or could be intentional, and could be how much he's into you already and can't control it. Looks you're well-seducing and have a balanced personality too. Charming overall. As per the question in general: I think his looks are okay, even when being so powerful and intense. It is just not everyone is like him. But there are, such as me. So no worries.

[Lalalove11]

Yes and he is charming, I then wonder if he acts like that with everyone 😂but I guess I'll try go to his shop more and talk to him :)

[Lalalove11]

Yes also he told me about this medieval music festival saying I should go. The thing is I don't know if he is going and I'm not sure if I will go or not. I'm debating it

[Opinion Owner]

I see. Fair point to wonder if he does it with others. Yet, being charmed is another level. Certainly I do with different girls. Still, one who resonates with my ultimate goals and meanings.. and if steals my heart shall blind me towards others.

• Does he signal needing affection or quite overwhelmed feelings of craving/yearning, vulnerability, or shares personal matters, or cares and is interested about yours as you speak as in acts not just words, or initiates communication when you don't?
These shall be signs of his true love.

For the festival, tease him about it. A girl shall naturally tease when she loves, which also tests through.
Maybe try mocking it and see how he responds. I think other girls will know how to advise teasing him 😂😅

[Lalalove11]

Thanks so much for your help. I dont see him very often. But when I have seen him I remember him watching my emotional reaction to a sad story, he was staring at me to see how I'd react. It was, again, a small thing but it left an impression like he was trying to connect with me.
Unfortunately last time I saw him though it was with my sister, he is friends with her. So they were mostly talking and it was harder for me to join as I didn't know what they were talking about.
That's a really great idea also just to tease him a bit and see 😂it makes things light hearted as well.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

While I don't have any planned gestures at all, I'm sure there is something to catch from my attitude. What it is, I don't know, since I don't know what I do and don't, seen from the other side. I don't have enough information to provide lol

[Lalalove11]

Yes I guess everyone is different. I definitely become more shy , blushing and quieter. But whether they notice a difference or not, I don't know

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'd say the blushing part is very visible, you know that :) overall, it's a classic sign of interest spotted by all genders I think. But from my perspective, it was a difficult sign to deal with, because blushing can mean self-consciousness due to interest or self-consciousness because something feels wrong... I'm using past tense here because I quit relying on physical signs a long time ago, but in my very early twenties it still mattered

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I mean these signs ceased to matter to me because my interactions became more and more based on laid back conversations, and way less about trying to understand interest blindly like what preoccupies you right now