My boyfriend keeps condoms but we don't use & he verbally abusive when I find one & ask him? is he definitely cheating? is any chance he not lying?

[Lyndseylou38]

I've found condoms about 5 times now at my boyfriend's house but he doesn't use condoms with me! When I find one and ask him where it came from, he becomes extremely verbally and emotionally abusive to me and tells me to, "get the f@#$ out." His eyes look demon possessed but then a few minutes later, he'll completely calm down and very sweetly apologize and tell me that he doesn't know where they came from. Sometimes he'll get annoyed and frustrated that I won't drop it and he can't give me a straight answer. Often, the next day he'll be really sweet and is then able to tell me where they came from but he says he kept them bc there's no reason to throw them away when they're perfectly good! My stomach drops when I hear him say this. Even though he's extremely convincing when he reassures me that there's no one else and isn't cheating, does this mean he's definitely cheating on me? Is there any way he could be telling me the truth? There's been quite a few other red flags to this that I've noticed, found or seen but there's not enough room to list them here. I'm so confused! Should I listen to the stuff that I watch on Facebook from all the relationship advice and narcissism videos? Aren't those videos just catering to women? Is the reason why those kind of videos are so popular is bc they're just validating women and telling us, "yes you're right! All men are pigs, liars and cheaters and you deserve better and you don't need a man" and blah blah blah. What if I break up with him but he actually isn't cheating on me? It did make a ton of sense when he explained that a person who is lying is going to be the one who has a reason to be very nice and calm when being confronted so to ward off any suspicion but someone who's telling the truth is going to be the one with a reason to get angry and doesn't have to mind their reaction since they did nothing wrong! I'm so confused! Please help me!

[Hobobobo]

Seems like you have a problem. You have stated in your question that you caught him lying. He says he "doesn't know where the condoms came from".

But then somehow miraculously after he calms down he can tell you where they came from and why he keeps them.

So he has two different stories. That's an obvious lie you have observed. And it makes sense that he panics and then needs time to come up with a story to convince you.

But you already know that since you are the one who wrote the post.

I personally don't see the appeal of a relationship with the kind of dynamic you are describing. It doesn't seem very romantic to me.

Whatever you decide, stay safe. Don't be another one of those stories where a girl tries to leave a bad relationship and then gets killed by her crazy ex boyfriend or kidnapped and tied up in a basement. Be smart about your choices.

If you ever decide that you want a relationship where you can confront your man about something that bothers you and he DOESN'T lash out at you, then you know what to do.

[D_Bone_Steak]

It's important to keep condoms around for when you bang other chicks that aren't on birth control.

[Nikki1989]

There is no smoke without fire. He is more than likely cheating.

[Kabluie]

Lord knows I have condoms spread all over the house despite my relationships not using them. Can be for the hookup, threesome kind of thing. Its not uncommon to stock up before a hookup or even relationship despite them not getting used because of birth control. Still I wouldn't ever mad about finding condoms because they can be useful anytime.

[slatyb]

He is verbally abusive? Why are you still with him?

[Anonymous]

I would be upset if you accused me of cheating. He has a right to be angry when you falsely accuse him of an act he did not commit. Do not place your trust issues on him.

[HungTexan]

He’s a lying piece of shit! Dump him!

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Why are you with a POS like that?