Story time/ Need guys perspective?

[Anonymous]

Okay I need a male perspective on this.

So I DM’d this guy I thought was cute. We had a light convo I asked about the cigars he posts, he answered, I teased him a little, he responded. The energy wasn’t dry. It was normal.

Then I complimented him literally just said it fit his aesthetic.

He never replied after that.

It’s been a week.

He eventually posted on his story, but never responded to my message.

So my question for men is:

If you were somewhat interested, why not just say you’re not interested instead of letting it sit? Or is this just low interest and I’m overthinking it?”

[Anonymous]

From a male perspective, this behavior usually indicates low interest or a lack of maturity rather than a specific mistake on your part

Men find direct rejection uncomfortable and choose ghosting as the easy way out to avoid an argument or a difficult conversation.

By not formally rejecting you, some men maintain passive access, keeping you as a potential option if their other interests fizzle out.

You are likely not overthinking the disinterest, but you might be overthinking the reason. In modern dating, if a man is truly interested, he will make it obvious through consistent effort and clear communication.

Good luck.

[firenine909]

Girls do this too but a lot of people especially online will lose interest after your initial conversation with them

[DryGermanGuy]

„Sometimes, a cigar is just a cigar.“
- Sigmund Freud

[Brady]

Sometimes people don't want u 2 feel bad so they don't answer bak. Or maybe he has a girl and didn't want 2 get caught.

[Sammy098]

He is not interested at all. It is 21st century, you don't need an actual answer if that person is not interested unless you both have been dating or been friends for a long time.

[MidnightRivers]

He lacks interest or a reason to respond with

[LC75LC71]

To put it into perspective.. You lost me at "The energy wasn’t dry"

[beefcakebradybatson]

He's got a babe.

[Ayaz122]

Let it go