Polls: Guy's Behavior

I'm away for one week field work. After a tiring day, he called me at 9:00pm.

Him: "How was your day?"

Me :Exhausting. I'm lying on the bed already.

Him: Sorry about that. Rest okay? I'll give you a treat when you're back.

Me: Yay. I can't wait.

Him:Love u. Sweet dreams.

Me:Love u. Oh my God, I hear music from the bar. My colleagues are sitting out. I hear their voices.

Him:So?

Me: I'll join them for a few minutes before bed.

Him:That's a great idea babe, except I'll be calling you soon.

Me:I'm not going with my phone.

Him:I advice you do. Because you need to rest. So I will be calling in about five minutes And when I do, I want to hear that you're on your bed, ready to fall asleep. Are we clear?"

Me: But...

He ends call. I ended up not stepping out and rested.

Was he being caring or controlling?

3 different male neighbors all older than me and married have something against me and don’t know me at all. I can confirm that out of the 3 1 is definitely mentally ill (the other 2 might be actually) and I don’t get it. I’ll never give a fuck about them but to have so much hatred towards someone you don’t know seems weird/sick. They’re all non black men and seem very obsessed with me. I wouldn’t give any of them the time of day. I feel like as a black woman nobody has respect for us.

This guy who I asked out a couple back said that he's not intimidated when a girl asks him out. That, instead, he perceives her as confident. A guy associate said the same thing to me. He told me how attractive it is! What are your povs?

I’m in my 30’s but probably look younger because I’m happier than them, into my looks and only have 1 kid. My neighbors are in their 40’s with 2 kids and tired of bills I’m assuming or their lives. Anyway what’s up with a married man disliking a single mom who stays to herself? I’m not gonna say I’m a 10 but I’m decent and I guess attractive to some people.

The coworker is 15 years older than me, is married, and have kids. He’s friendly and works out a lot. There is no attraction and we’re just coworkers who share interests in working out.

Appologies for the long read!

Backstory:
I walked into the drugstore barefaced, hair in a bun, wearing birkenstock sandals, black running leggings, & black graphic t-shirt with joker on it. I went in to purchace some eyebrow pencils- (I have pretty thick eyebrows already, but as the perfectionist I am, I must shape them so that they're EXACTLY even. Kind of like how Death The Kid is obsessed with symmetry, I too get triggerd when things aren't perfectly symmetrical. I used to use eyeshadow to shape them, but I hate how scruffy the lines come out & clean up w makeup wipes I have to do, due to fall out. So, I wanted to test if pencils would come out looking better.)

Context:
Anways, as I stand infront of the register while the cashier rings up my items, he lifts up one of the pencils then looks at me... then the pensils... and then me again.. 😐 And our conversation went like this:

Cashier- Is this for you?
Me- Yes
Cashier- Can I be honest with you-
Me- uh.. sure?
Cashier- Makeup is made for a specific type of woman. [continues anti-makup rant] natural always trumps it
Me- It's just for fun
Cashier- In todays society nothing is done for fun
Me- *awkward smile* ... ok

(My dad was with me aswell) As we leave the establishment my dad says that cashier was "hitting" on me bc he thought I was "beautiful." (A toxic lie dads always tell their daughters)🤦🏽‍♀️ Nevertheless, I've never been more confused in my life by a conversation. I don't know & idc if he was trying to flirt bc It sounded more a lot more like patranizing & scolding than it did flirting. Sounded more like a: 'you're too ugly/it's deception' or a 'your eyebrows are too big' kind of speach. All I know is that as a cashier, don't lecture costumers about what THEY buy with THEIR money. Just ring up our shit & shut up.

But do any of you understand his point he was trying to make? I wish I could remember the rest of his one-sided rant.