I fail in online dating do you?

[Anonymous]

Like on tinder it’s hard to get any matches in a day. On bumble it’s even worse and he’s me thinking I’m an attractive guy with a very good profile and pics.

It’s all because I’m not white

I suck too on dating apps

I don’t I have success on them

[MrOracle]

Online dating is a scam. It's set up to encourage men (because only men are asked to pay) to subscribe, and to subscribe to higher and higher tiers, in the hope of getting more access to women. The same company, Match Group, owns all the dating apps, and they are all engineered to get men's money by selling them false hope.

A very small amount of men win, because they get to bang all of the women for free. Everyone else loses. The non-top-10% men largely continue to be ignored, even when they pay, and the women get used for sex but don't get the relationships they really want, PLUS it helps to skew their expectations so that they can never be happy with regular men that are any "less" than those top 10% men - even though the top 10% men will never take those women seriously.

If this was any other type of business, it wouldn't have lasted 6 months, because the results are so abysmal for the vast majority of the customers. But they've figured out how to sell false hope and inflated expectations, and most people are so desperate that they believe the lies and buy into the whole idea, despite their own real-world results, which are universally terrible.

[Guy13]

It is designed and implemented so that it is very difficult to succeed int…

[MoniqueTLC]

It's not all based on you. Keep in mind, online dating apps have an algorithm that will affect how your profile gets noticed. Certain profiles will be booted to the top for women to see if they're more selective in who they swipe yes to. If you just swiping yes to the majority of everyone's profile, it'll pick this up and move yours to the bottom.

The algorithm may have picked up what your 'type' is for who you swipe on, and if there's not many matches for you based on those characteristics, it can interfere with how well you profile gets seen.

The type of picture's you use may also effect your matches. Having a smiling picture is important. Pictures all with other people won't be good etc.

[Changiis07]

It takes a while to find someone worthy and what you are looking for. I've had 2 relationships come out of them and a few friendships. It works but sometime it takes months to find someone that interests you. OR just go on dates and you'd be surprise how much you have in common with someone you never would have thought of even given a chance to

[Asker]

How do you even get a date that’s what I want to know. I feel like you have to be extremely attractive to get that much interest from a girl

[Changiis07]

No not even! you get a date by asking them out etc

[Asker]

Never happened to me I want to find a girl that’s into me first

[Changiis07]

It can happen but you have to put yourself out there. Risk rejection there will be someone who will be attracted to you

[Asker]

Good advice it’s just rejection I can take it’s not a big deal. But I’d be lying if I said I didn’t take to heart as I have done in the past

[Changiis07]

I mean it sucks but otherwise you will not find someone if you don't risk it

[Avicenna]

Dating apps aren’t as good as meting women IRL. And that’s the case for everyone.

[SomeJokeTeeth]

No, I had plenty of success despite looking like a plain sort of dude

[Anonymous]

Depends what you define as success.