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Look at my picture. I'm fat. I'm about 330 pounds when for my height and bone structure I should be between 155 and 185. Do I think it's okay to be this fat? Absolutely not. There are no benefits to being fat, and lots of disadvantages.
1. Attractive members of the opposite sex won't date you, or sleep with you or even make out with you unless you pay them money, in which case, they may do one of the three. But it won't be satisfying and you'll be out $200 bucks.
2. I'm going to die a lot sooner unless I get in shape.
3. If the zombie apocalypse happens, I won't be one of the survivors. I can't run fast enough, and I'll probably stop for a milkshake in a zombie-infested McDonalds along the way.
4. Even if you can do something well, people don't care when your fat. I'm a great singer when it comes to country music. I live in Nashville. I can get up at karaoke and NAIL a song and the only people that will care is the married couples in the back. But if Hunky Muscles gets up and WRECKS a song, the girls go wild for him.
5. No matter what you order, unless its like a carrot stick and a diet cola, you feel like everyone's judging you when you eat in public places. And they probably are.
There are many more, but my point is, my fellow fatties - stop making being fat an "okay" thing to be!
We're not curvy, we're &^%$ing fat!
I'm not a Big Beautiful Man, I'm a fat guy.
Guess what, I'm still way awesome in every other way, but I know I need to lose weight and I know that until I do, certain things in life are off limits to me, like dating girls that are attractive to me, getting a record deal and outrunning a nuclear blast like Harrison Ford in that last Indiana Jones movie.
One of these days, I'm going to figure out how to lose weight consistently and get in shape. Until then, I'm going to enjoy this cheeseburger.
This is like the coolest post and pretty funny too. I get that we live in a shallow society but on a biological level when looking for a mate we go for the fitter more capable provider on a subconscious level. I can understand that being larger can cause many angst in your life and it's not always easy to change as we all have our demons. I can see you are half way there to changing and being a happier you because you admit you have a problem and you are able to change it. I really wish you the best of luck for the future!
excellent post. if you are on your way to loosing weight just remember it takes time and the body can bounce up and down in run of a week. I wanted to loose some weight a few years ago but I'm too lazy to lift weights or anything so I took it one day at a time and lost about 20lbs in 1 year, and that's with minimal effort.
I'm sure if you put your mind to it and did some research on healthy ways to loose weight you can reach a reasonable goal. good luck :)
Glad you’re owning it! That’s the first step.
For a long time there has been a trend to make unacceptable things acceptable, in various degrees. Homosexuality was a "bad thing" in the mid 1900's and before. Now it is perfectly okay. About the same time, girls would value virginity much more than now, and would certainly not have such a multitude of sexual partners as they do now, While most women still are against having nude/sexual photos/videos of themselves on the internet for all to see, there is a trend that many are jumping on to accept it and post there own. I realize those are all sexual issues, but I chose them because they are well known to most people.
Now there is a trend to "normalize" fat. I agree with the part about not making fun of fat people, I do not agree with trying to say it is a good thing. Ask most any doctor and they will tell you that the more overweight a person is, the more damage they are doing to their health. And if one is honest, it is not appealing except to those with a fetish for that.
@muspelhem_3 had a valid point that guilt worsens self control. But he is wrong to say that the first step is to stop hating yourself if you are fat. The first step is to admit that you are fat. You are not going to do anything to change your weight/body if you believe there is nothing wrong with it. So the idea that fat/obese people are curvy is strange and counter productive.
Peter Paul Rubens painted images in which women had more fat than is currently defined as beautiful, but they were women that actually had healthy fat levels.
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I would call those women curvy.
According to the research, guilt makes people shy away from honestly examining what they are guilty about. It makes them less likely to admit to themselves that they have a problem.
Well said and I would call them curvy also. I just don't think normalising fat is acceptable and healthy on any level
I would agree with that statement about he guilt thing.. Makes sense
@muspelhem_3 If one does not recognize that something applies to them, in this case being fat, regardless of whether you call that admission guilt or not, they will do nothing to change it because they do not see that anything is wrong. THAT makes them less likely to admit to a problem because they don't believe it is a problem.
Well obviously. All I'm saying is that apparently guilt leads to denial leads to inaction.
People say it to be polite as it's nicer to say curvy instead of big/fat/obese/overweight. Overweight people claim they're curvy because they're in denial or don't realise just how big they are. In most programmes about overweight people, they often blame other things apart from themselves for their weight, get annoyed if anyone brings it up and expects people to change their view of overweight people instead of improving their health. They basically resort to re-labelling themselves as curvy when they've given up trying to do anything about their weight and expect people to re-label them too, then get angry when people still view them as overweight.
This is curvy to me
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This isn't.
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Yh the first two are curvy and sexy the last one is sloppy and not curvy at all
Wait. How isn't the last one curvy? Just curious.
Yes I do agree that there's a diffrence between being curvy and being a bigger size. I just really think we're not taking into consideration there feelings. I feel the word "FAT" is so disrespectful and there should be a better word to desctibe bigger and more plumpt people. So many people have been commenting calling these people fatties and blobs and anyone can be reading these things of a person whose a bigger size and feel so low and insecure. I do think there is a difference, but I feel that we should be more respsctful in commenting and watch what we say because comments like these even make me sad for the bigger girls seeing this.
Very mature statement which u highly respect. Perhaps something like obese? That's a medical term so can't go wrong with that.
I agree, and before People start going batshit crazy on the asker, i have put a lot of weight on, i am currently fat. I have rejoined the gym in order to lose weight. I do not wish to try and justify being fat by calling myself curvy. And if wokalne close to me tells me i have put weight on, it doesn't bother me because they are saying it for the benefit of my health
Bat shit crazy lool that made me laugh and I have once been slightly larger than my normal or preferred size and I worked my ass off to lose the weighg and changed my diet and not once did I sit on the curvy claim. Best of luck with your weight loss x
*someone
And well done (Y) its difficult but achievable. Thanks for the well wishes
You're welcome
Well that's why I wrote SOME in the headline and description. Reading isn't something you're good at I take it, or no attention to detail. I'm not talking about all larger people but some SOME
These fatties are ruining the word "curvy" for us girls who actually have curves. Like if you're on a dating website and someone asks what you look like and you say you're curvy, they'll assume you're just a fatty trying to cover up the fact that "curvy" actually means "massive fat rolls".
That's true because most guys I know when they hear curvy they just think it's fat
If you've seen me around GAG, you know I have no chill lol
Lol that's what's up
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I agree to a point until I thought about the beauty is in the eye of the beholder stand point. You can be curvy to all the true definition and still be flabby and disgusting to some and drop dead gorgeous to others... My thoughts are that some people are too judgmental on others for reasons that they shouldn't because even if that person was fit enough to be approved as a sexual partner by the judge-r, the jugs would still be to vain that they prolly wouldn't lower they're standards to be with the curvy anyhow... So the opinion of other people trying to politely describe their physical appearance as curvy rather than fat or like harsh terminology doesn't promote a high personal ego. Who wants to talk bad about themselves in that sense. It's not healthy and until they do decide with shaping up to someone else's liking they have to operate with what they've got... I don't know.
This is a fair respectable statement. I just think as someone stated earlier that on dating sites if a women says she's curvy on her profile the guy automatically thinks she's fat. Misusing a title does more harm than good for some people. Yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder but that doesn't excuse that person misusing the word curvy when no curves exist
Agreed, but ultimately anyone who is gonna post an ad for booty or dating etc on a classifieds list or dating site SHOULD ALWAYS: post a full body selfie or not post at all... ITS SIMPLE... That pic is your 1,000 word description for all to behold! ;)
I know, but showing off yor body on a dating site could be taken the wrong way
Not if ur being polite with it
Could still be taken the wrong way by most of the type of guys who trawl dating sites
because of dumb and damaging people who tell them theyre not fat and fine the way they are... so they say you're curvy. if they were told the truth, theyd live longer better quality lives being accepted by way more people and way more option as their lovers whod be genuinely sexually saticefied.
all this possiblity is stolen once people start telling them theyre fine and theyre beautiful. fat is opposite of beauty in terms on physical beauty. i dont care people can down me, i doubt even the chubby chasers won't go past their phase.
I agree with you. Who's doing more damage, us who are honest about it or the people who sugar coat it for them?
right? people are just too damn thin skinned and in a state of denial. diabetes, heat disease, cancer and their degenerating self esteem literally rotting their soul from the inside out over the years is sad to watch since its super preventable.
overweight and obesity is often a manifastation of an inner problem. people need to eat to fuel their bodies not to feel good. @Asker
I just think people in wider society are to blame for obesity just as much as the eater are. I don't care about the abuse I'm getting from some people I actually find it amusing to say the least because they are defending bad habits of the very people they claim to care about
there are a few people who have been "abusing" the word curvy to mean fat. that or are so much in denial they don't realize how fat they actually are.
according to the poll most people seem to agree with us though.
Because it's more or less the truth. Some people are missing the point I said SOME fat people and jumping in and saying I'm condemning all larger people.. Like I said the poll reflects what people really think
That's true, obese might have been the correct term to comfort people easily offended. Yh but the whole round thing just doesn't cut the mustard when it's claimed as curvy.
"Like I said the poll reflects what people really think..." The poll reflects what people decide to click on. No control whatsoever, no way can the poll reflect what people "really" think.
The poll provide people with options and they clearly show that they are also disagreeing with the way the term curvy is being used
I think you're reading too much into it. Never in my life have I Heard someone who wasn't fat agree that someone fat was curvy. They just talk behind their backs and not to their face because try don't want to hurt feelings
I do agree with you on the miss use of the word but some of these people may be confused with themselves, because although they don't have much or no defined curves in their waists, they may have wide hips and/or juicy, shapely thighs. I just don't understand why a large bust and backside gets mentioned as curvy since it's not part of bone structure. As for what you said about losing weight, yes for the ones that do have a lot of waist definition, yeah, they did eat their curves away and are in denial about it.
On the contrary, others that are not fat but just plus size with no waist definition may have the other assets, or they are looking at how they're frame in a whole is more horizontal than vertical overall. Compared to a thin framed person they will be seen as wider automatically, so maybe that's what they're working with to define themselves as curvy.
That's a possibility. I'm just saying that curvy implies that you have shape to your body. If you're just one round ball or are full of fatty roles there is no way that you are curvy.
Yes, I 100% agree with you. I'm just telling you what I've heard and seen many of them say along with hearing the whole "Kate Upton is so curvy" praise, which always confused me because although she's not fat it's fair to say that she doesn't have much of a defined waist to be deemed as curvaceous.
Kate upton isn't someone I would consider curvy either. She is mainly apple shaped and has no waist. Also skinny legs which looks odd. So great point! She's just much larger than most main stream models
Thanks and yes you're right she is larger than most models. Her shape is uniquely proportioned but instead of classifying her in the wrong category, her nicely shaped bust should be given credit to and her apple shape should be celebrated. The focus should be on being healthy, looking the best we can and embracing each other's best assets instead of lying to ourselves about them, because in the end nobody is ever really at peace with themselves when denial is at play and that's very sad.
I know what you mean. I personally don't fine kate attractive and don't understand how she got so famous. Health wise apple shapes are unhealtier than other body shapes but again yes celebrate your best assets that's true.
Glad you agree with the celebration. I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder but Kate's parents are very rich. Her dad is one of the cofounders of Whirlpool and her mom is a tennis champion from the 80s so her connections are already a bonus and head start to her fame.
I think that's want put her on the map because in comparison to larger models she is pretty average but still attractive
Personally, I agree with you but many others will either agree or disagree with both of us.
I know and that's life but deep down they know the truth
lol you are a very great debater. :)
Fantastic, now we can all get on with our lives
Curvy is having an hourglass figure. Overweight people use the word curvy as a way to empower themselves and take the blame off of their own bad eating habits.
Yh that's a good way of putting it
Well yes there are other reasons why people age over weighg. This isn't the issue here. I was addressing the fat people who call themselves curvy not the ones who are far for health reasons and know they are fat. But the ones who delude themselves into thinking they're something they're not to feel better about their poor lifestyle choices
Why are you all over my shit? Get off my dick! If you're so passionate about advocating for over weight people do something bigger than sit on gag arguing with me. Don't be that girl yh! And I know some people age fat because of certain reasons other that no motivation and eating shit but I have already said that. So go away Laura and do something better with your time
I'm not getting "pissy" at all lol I just don't see why you're on my dick. Stop being all over every post! It's annoying. Clearly you have nothing better to do then sit on gag. I see how you were like "don't be a fat phobe you're my friend" to another poster- what a loser lol
You're the one getting "pissy" you have told me to fuck off, called me a bitch amongst other things yet project onto me that I can't handle people opinions lol come on get real, who's really getting aggy here.
@Laura1995 Hi, I realize this post is more than a year old, but I just want to say that I am sorry if I sounded insensitive. Not only sounded, but I WAS insensitive in my post. I don't believe at all that all overweight people are overweight because of bad eating habits. I have friends and know many in general that find it hard to shed some pounds because of factors outside of their control. I want women (and men) to still feel empowered and confident about their bodies regardless of their shape and size. I apologize to you and anyone else I may have offended because of my thoughtless comment.
just a way to avoid the truth and therefore not have to do the work to fix it.
People does this all the time in order not to do work in order to get better.
I know and by the rest of us playing along we make it worse.
yes... that is they way it is with anything you play along with.
Rude people will say 'Well that is just how i am, i speak my mind... they can deal with it." NO you can learn how to get your point across without being rude. Fill in the blank...
I am not suggesting that we conform into soulless, mindless beings. I am suggesting that one become more introspective of oneself and not be afraid of having weaknesses but instead do something about it. It is when we fail to act on a weakness that eventually it comes to bite us in the ass.
Well I agree with what you're saying. I just don't think people are helping anyone with supporting these claims of curvy. In the media is either two extremes; a skinny bony ass chick or a fat girl who they claim being curvy. That's not giving a good image to anyone
I absolutely agree with you. Curvy is in fact a shape which means your waist are exceptionally smaller than your bust and hips. It is this shape ") (" . Curvy does not = overweight. Don't get me wrong... you can be fat and curvy, chubby and curvy, and skinny curvy, it's possible! but if I dont see a define waist... you're not curvy. Simple as that.
That's what I mean doesn't matter what size you are you can be curvy but if you don't have a waist and are just round you won't be curvy
That's their problem. I'm just saying what most people already think
yes exactly very true indeed
Curvy is not rolls of fat... a big fat women can be curvy but its needs to be just that
Most bigger women will use curvy in order to feel better internally and to project a more sexier outlook to others... You know that, no need to attack the fatties now
Lol yh it isn't right to attack them but hey I don't share in people's delusions
No Idea...
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Curvy = ) . (
Fat = ( . )
That's true
those girls on the left are still kinda overweight
I think it's to make the word "fat" seem lighter (better) in society. Curvy is your waist fat is your stomach, I don't understand why some people say that far is better because of their curves and im not saying that being fat is bad im just saying that theirs a difference in your hips and stomach
There Is a difference and fat is bad because too much is unhealthy especially around your stomach which means you have too much fat around your organs. So in short fat is bad, why sugar coat it with curvy? They're only doing harm to themselves
I think a lot of people think that having large breasts, and a large buttocks means they have curves. Even when they have a lot of fat around their stomach area. Now I don't agree with body shaming, but this is a cause for concern because being "curvy" insinutates to a degree having a healthy body type. Leading overweight women to believe they're curvy is leading them into a false sense of security, when in reality they are at risk of a variety of health issues.
Well said. I don't feel I am body shaming just because I'm speaking on it. Most people think this already so just because nobody says anything the issue isn't on people's minds? They will talk behind people's backs instead. I would rather be addressed in a way where I am able to help myself not someone deluding me- that's mockery
Of course, and I knew you weren't body shaming, lol. I think this new fad of "real" women having curves is damaging. Leading women to believe that their weight or body shape defines their femininity is wrong. Just leading them to think they're healthy when their BMI says otherwise.
I know. I mean, all shapes and sizes have their benefits and great flaunt it but don't be deluded with it.
What other people think has never proven to be a particularly motivating factor.
Also, I don't much care how other people define themselves. I care if they are nice people. Telling someone who calls them self curvy " Um no actually you are just a big round blob" isn't particularly nice. Most people are fully aware of their good and bad qualities. It's unnecessary for a stranger to point them out to them.
I guess your right but still doesn't change the facts does it
What facts exactly are you trying to change? It's clear you don't like fat people are think they are lazy. Okay. And? How does this personally affect you?
Pretending that it somehow does and that you genuinely want all the fat people of the world to get healthier for altruistic reasons, and not simply because they disgust you, how do you propose being nasty does that?
Personally I'll take spending time with someone who is fat and a good person, than someone who works out daily, eats just right, and feels compelled to judge others.
No ones perfect so think long and hard about your flaws and then about how it would feel to have someone treat you with contempt for them and point them out. Some peoples flaws are more visible than others - doesn't mean we're not all flawed in some way.
Well still doesn't make them curvy does it? You can say what you like but doesn't change facts so outype yourself all night but again if you have loads of fat around your midsection you are not curvy but FAT FAT FaT
Once more, and?
The whole premise of your question is that if people stop supporting the use of curvy than wouldn't it make make them want to lose weight?
The answer is no it won't and since the only way to show you don't support it is to tell people they are just plain fat then all you would succeed in doing is being an ugly person.
As the saying goes, fat people can always lose weight, but people who are ugly on the inside tend to stay that way.
I'm not ugly inside I just say what everyone else is thinking it's as simple as that. Thing is maybe we should all be quiet and say nothing and watch our nation grow into obese folk who destroy the health system. Thankfully I live in the UK where majority people here are not as overweight as in the US
Well you certainly don't say what I'm thinking so that's at least one person you don't speak for.
Nor did I say you were ugly on the inside. I said that people who feel it necessary to say nasty things to other people are ugly on the inside. You made that jump all on your own.
I don't know what the solution to obesity it. I suspect it's a variety of things that will work for different people. However I do know that research has shown shaming people into anything, not just losing weight, is ineffective and in fact often has the opposite affect. Which to me is interesting. People who dislike fat people and justify telling them they're fat so they lose weight. When in reality, they're probably just helping them to gain.
If that's the case then fat people are not doing themselves any favours are they so that's nobody's problem but their own. That's whyni specifically said SOME fat people use the term curvy to describe themselves and they could use a medical term "obese"
Of course they could, anyone can refer to themselves in any number of ways. Most people are responsible for the way they are, not just those who are fat. I guess I really don't understand your point. As with most things, there's no way to make people do anything. Calling people out on it isn't helpful. I'm not sure why your highlighting your use of the word some as that doesn't really have any bearing on my comment. My answer stands. If not supporting the use of the word curvy means telling people they are not, then, no it will not motivate those people to lose weight and is not a kind thing to do.
It's not to motivate people into weight loss it's just that they are delusional and I don't share in peoples delusions at all. Would you go along with a skitophrenic persons delusion or would you talk them out of it? If you share the delusion then they will get worse, it's the same with obese people isn't jt
No it's not the same at all. Comparing mental illness induced delusions to someone referring to themselves in a manner you don't like is frankly, ridiculous.
From your question" If people didn't go along with supporting their "curvy" claims then perhaps they would be motivated to become curvy thus being less fat." Once more, no, telling people they are fat and not curvy will not motivate them to lose weight. Although your comments seem to indicate you really just want people to agree with you that it's okay to tell people they are fat and not curvy. It's not. It never will be unless you are that persons doctor. It honestly seems that what really bothers you is that some fat people might be okay with their weight - and even dare to like themselves. If someone unattractive calls themselves pretty, do you think you should relieve them of their delusions as well? I'm not going to continue to debate this with you as my answer remains the same and you continue to not like it.
People have to want to loose waight for them selves and their health. Take that extra effort to be healthy because it's acually easier than it seems.
Many people know they are obese but call themselves curvy to feel better even though they know they aren't.
society needs to stop looking at the cheapest way to make food over valuing the health of the consumers
There are a number of reasons for it I guess
I understand why they do it, fat just seems like such a harsh word. I think skinny is still harsh, but at least other people view it positively. Fat however has no positive connotation at all. I just try to call people who are fatter big, just because I knew a girl growing up who was bullied for being big and it was out of her control; so I try not to call people fat.
Would you call a duck a sheep? If the person is fat they're fat- hit the gym yo
The girl I knew had advise as as Achilles that caused her to take steroids. While she had herillness she was really weak and couldn't exercise. She was bullied for years and killed herself. so no I don't like to call people fat, because I don't want to be the one responsible for someone's death, mental disorders, or self harming
Well I wouldn't be responsible for someone killing themselves either. She's an exception that's why I said SOME fat people, are you BLIND or something lol she doesn't count in my quota clearly. Fat people with a choice are responsible for their own deaths not people who label them fat. If you're fat you are fat not curvy. Stop trying to turn this into something it isn't lol
If your the cause of someone killing themselves, then I view you as the reason or one responsible for their death. She's a certain instance but I can't know everything about everyone so I don't say things like that because I don't know them. I just don't want to say something that rude to someone without anything to back it up. I don't call fatter people fat so I call them big. I'm not doing arching in trying to be conscious of other peoples feelings, because I know what it's like to hate yourself
I agree.
Fat women should not call themselves curvy.
Thank you very much!
because of a lot of feministic effords "curves" now means "chubby" or even "fat" xD... people don´t understand their own language anymore!
It's just to be a little less harsh that's all. Which doesn't do anyone any favours
right... i mean what benefits does it bring to believe that you´re not "fat" if you are?
None what so ever
"Curvy" is a euphemism for obese that obese women like to use to feel better about their lack of attention to their own health.
I agree
I agree with you, but the reason behind this is because saying "I'm curvy" is far more kinder to yourself than saying "I'm fat". Telling yourself you're fat is just putting yourself down, whereas telling yourself you're curvy makes you feel less shitty about your body.
For me curcy is when a girl has a "S" shape like Jenifer love Hewit. Most blacks and Latinas havethat shape and is not bbecause we r fat is juts our shape. Not everyone can be skinny in every inch of their body
Yh so you're basically supporting what I am saying then.
No @asker she's basically saying that people of color will not equate to the white beauty standards that America has, because we all aren't the same. That's what she is trying to say.
Perhaps it has something to do with trying to make themselves feel better.. It's better to say things to keep you going even though it's not true than to be truthful but would put themselves down. Like a coping mechanism or perhaps words to motivate them to lose weight.
They're just using curvy as a euphemism for fat... which is a bit annoying because it undermines the real meaning of curvy. If I describe a girl as curvy it means she has nice, noticeable curves - not that she's an amorphous fatty. When fat girls call themselves curvy they're undermining the meaning of the term, we won't be able to use it as a compliment anymore if they keep it up.
Lolol
Yeah it's kinda stupid that they're mislabeling themselves, however this is due to the rudeness that some people project towards obese people. They're just creating a go-to comeback to prevent people from being jerks. But if they're fat, they're fat. As long as they are happy, they aren't hurting anyone other than themselves.
No offense but if they can call themselves whatever they want. Its not harming anyone and they feel good about themselves. Sure its not okay once it gets to a health issue point but still there is no need to make people feel bad about themselves just because YOU think there is a problem by a person calling themselves a certain body type. Its really none of your business. And this poll is nothing. I could go click the I agree button and still have a different opinion. Some people here press the wrong button on purpose. So it's really not accurate 100%. And people calling themselves curvy when they're not is NOT an issue any one really cares about. There's millions of important things and this isn't one of them. This is just judgmental garbage against a certain group of people. No one gives a flying chimp if you don't like what certain people call themselves. As long as they love themselves its not a problem and shouldn't be a problem.
Lol it is a problem because it's annoying and I think certain people should be aware of what they really look like. Fair isn't sexy but curvy is. Fat is just plain gross lol the poll does represent how people really feel about this because they had a choice on whag portion to pick
To you maybe. People shouldn't be so rude to others. Its not harming you so its not that important. If it is and you put others down then the only ugly person here is you. And I mean on the inside where, at the end of the day, it really matters. And I just told you people sometimes choose the wrong answer on purpose. Because this poll means nothing. Your judgmental garbage of a question will be forgotten in a few days. Everyone will continue doing whatever they want. And so, this poll means nothing. People should love themselves. Even if it makes people mad. I was called fat and was harassed/bullied for years in high school and wanted to die. It didn't motivate me to be what they thought was ideal. I wanted to die. And with these types of questions it puts people down and makes them feel like something is wrong with them when nothing is. Everyone can and should love themselves. Even if it "annoys" people.
Well yes this poll would be gone and forgotten and fat people will still be deluded- what's your point? Sorry to hear about your horrible childhood experiences that's horrible either way. I do believe that if people want to eat themselves into an early grave it's the same as self harm. Then they become deluded and claim being curvy, I don't share in people's delusions. I would be like "what would you consider curvy" and see what they say. I would politely share my opinion and if that person is hurt then that's not my problem is it? The problem will always be their weight and they should expect people to walk on egg shells around them because of it. I don't bully or taunt people, and call me ugly inside all you like but just like the poll isn't a regarded as significant data, this one questions doesn't mean I'm ugly inside. If you have weight issues then maybe you should do something about it. Problem solved
That's just it I do NOT have issues with how I look. I'm perfectly happy with how I am and who I am. And actually this question doesn't make you ugly its how you call people gross and disgusting. That's wrong.. If someone doesn't ASK for your opinion then keep it to yourself. Otherwise its considered rude. You don't HAVE to say they're fat or curvy if they don't ask YOU then its not your problem. And yes you have the freedom to speak how you want to but that doesn't mean its right or wrong. Rude is different than opinionated. And the term obese is still hurtful. Just like if you called someone with mental issues retarded. To some degree its hurtful. Its okay to have your opinion but no one asked for it and its kind of heartless to not care about others feelings. You don't have to sugar coat it but there's polite ways to get your point across. Which isn't "feeding their delusion" its being a nice person. But what's the big deal if someone bigger is feeling good about themselves?+
How does it affect you? Besides annoyance? Which could be avoided if you just mind your own business.
You can call me fat phobic all you like lol I don't care but like I said it still doesn't change the fact that they're fat and deluded so 👍
To me saying you're curvy when you're more... round is like saying you're fit when you're actually underweight.
That's true, I agree
I think fat people blame themselves (in private) plenty already. There is evidence that guilt worsens self-control, and leads to denial. So the first step is to stop hating on yourself if you're fat.
Abuse of the word, really. When I weighed more I never called myself curvy, so not all 'bigger' girls do that.
That being said, if they don't have a defined waist even if they lost weight they would not have one. When it comes to body shape, while they may get thinner and lose their stomach the body's fat stores would not change, hence their waist would still not be small compared to their hips.
Well yh but I don't hear smaller people with no curves call themselves curvy it's mainly from some people on the fat community who hijack this label.
Well if you have a massive fat accumulation on the stomach and no ass at all then you are severely misshaped and no curvy. Just look a hot mess
denial... not just a river in Egypt, but an emotion/feeling too...
Lol true
well i have curvy hips. i dont have a curvy wasit tho lol.. is that considered curvy? or do u neeed a curvy waist too to be considered curvy?
It's up to you how you label yourself but I would say curvy (doesn't matter how big or small you are) but should have a waist smaller than your bust and hips
If its up to us to how we label ourselves what's the point of this question? @asker.
It is but again I wouldn't consider you fat. The point is that I wanted to see how many people agree. Clearly you think you are fat because you are offended or felt the need to say it's up to "us" how we label ourselves.
Actually I just hate it when people pick on a certain group of people. I dont think I'm fat and I'm not offended. If its not harming you then its not a problem. Why don't you make a post about girls who are under weight and calling themselves skinny that's unhealthy? @asker. If you're really that concerned with health and stuff.
Because I don't come across underweight people at all. Perhaps if I did then it might be different. I'm going on experience. I not picking on certain groups of people, just a few who lie to themselves. You're worse for standing by and watching them kill themselves than someone whom says something. Silence is a killer isn't it so you're 100% worse than I am.
@asker I'm not letting them kill their selves. If you actually read what I typed I said "As long as its not hurting their health"... Being a tad overweight won't kill you. Being 600lbs will. Also I'm done arguing with you. Its pointless. You're just one of the mean people in the world who expects everyone to look how you think they should. And if you want to keep arguing you can message me. But I doubt you will because you can't even share opinions without being Anon. :) So byeeee.
Why would I message you anyway? What would that solve? And I wouldn't consider this an argument, a discussion maybe- yes. Well excess fat around the stomach puts people at risk of diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, stroke and heart attack. So keep talking people that being slightly over weight ok. Maybe for a pear shaped person but not an apple. Call me mean if you like I couldn't care any less
lmao omg why are u guys arguing? lol but okay & fat people are awesome :) lol stop hating
"Fat people are awesome" then they died of coronary heart disease lol yh Cool indeed
To feel better about themselves and justify their weight, I guess. I don't know, I shouldn't be talking because I recently gained a lot of weight.
I'm sure you're able to lose it. Too many risks of illness associated with extra fat not to
Oh for sure, I'm not dangerously obese or anything, just have gotten kinda flabby
Aww cool well we all gain and lose at some point in our lives
The problem isn't normal people reinforcing their view, but that they seek out others like them so they sirclejerk their ideas and beliefs
Could be possible
I mean, they seem to concentrate on places like tumblr and so on. And it's just basic instincts to seek similar people who accept you for who you is and share your ideas
Yh I know what you mean
So in short, they're hurdling together for themselves. And nobody will take them seriously
Exactly, I'm saying what most people are thinking. Just because nobody says anything doesn't make the issue nonexistent. The poll clearly indicates how people really feel
It's just reality-evasion, which is very widespread and manifests in many different ways.
The term “curvy” was hijacked with the advent of online dating apps. Curvy traditionally describes the transition from the hips inward to the waist and back out again to the upper torso and can be seen from the front and the back. And from the side, the buttocks into the tummy and lower back and back out again as you transition up to the chest. Not the other way around.
There is nothing good about obesity! Food can become an unhealthy addiction like any other addiction. So let’s stop pet naming it and letting people off the hook. We don’t do it for smokers or alcoholics.
I call myself curvy because I do have curves. They may not be where you think they should be but I have very defined curves. Most women have them and if you don't I feel sorry for you because that means you are shaped like a board.
Well like someone said curvy comes in sizes and in a figure 8, you have to have some form of waist to be curvy.
And I'm glad you're proud of your body and who you are, that's what makes you sexy
Because fat people are trying to convince themselves they're not gross and fat.
Why call people fat at all? It's really rude.
But I agree with you.
Because they are fat, we live in a society of lables. It's the same as them calling themselves curvy which is a much favourable label
It's disgusting how everyone bashes fat people, but when it comes to anorexic, stick figure girls, I hear no one complaining about them.
And on another note: Calling someone fat destroys their self-esteem. It's bad enough they feel bad about themselves... don't need anyone else making them feel bad.
I agree, but whatever makes them feel better, I guess. It won't change reality though.
This is actually funny
Lol How?
Because it is the truth
To some people having curves means being a blob.
A blob lol
Finally someone brings it up. It's been pissing me off
I know what you mean, it's very annoying
@NovemberJoseph whaa? I've said this on several questions. but, yea it's annoying.
@thewanderingme
really? Haven't seen lol my bad
Yeah it's super annoying, especially when a girl asks a guy if he likes curvy girls and they have different definitions of curvy
Yh they have hijacked the word and abuse the usage
Because they want an excuse for being fat =_=
Typically found on tumblr, act like they know what they're talking about, and have intense hatred for skinny girls.
dont be offended, this is true and i have dealt with it._.
Oh don't worry, that kind of shit goes two ways.
www.skinnygossip.com/.../
Lol that's fair enough
If your daily life is that interrupted by the way another person chooses to define the curves of their body then I think the bigger issue is with you not having much better things going on in your own life ;)
I can see why you would make that conclusion. I can assure you that I have a very eventful life anyway.. Why comment if you are not going to keep it relevant? Fair enough it seems as though I'm making this my business but it sort of is as I'm not helping in deluding some over weight people into thinking their behaviour is acceptable. If that is what you want to do you are doing more harm then good
You are acting as though you're doing some great humanitarian kindness to overweight people when really all you're doing is talking down to people and being a bully. How about you go get a personal trainer certification, become a licensed dietitian, or maybe even become a overweight counselor and actually help someone instead of being a self righteous ass on social media
Well said, I am working in fitness and most of is can't stand fat people lol
Not at all because I don't get many fat clients because no many visit the gym
You don't understand what personal trainers talk about I take it lol
I'm most requested and make up to £1000 a week so I must be pretty good at my job 😊
What do you mean how long do I work a week? I'm self employed, I pay rent to my location which is about £200 a week. I work about from 7am to 3pm or maybe 2 to 10pm depends on what is going on. Most people in the fitness industry approach larger people and they decline so we focus on people who are not overweight because the ignorance is less. My main clientele are women shifting baby weight, women who want to be at their best and guys who want to lose some weighg maybe a few stone here and there.
Time frame for what? For someone to reach their goals? If yes, everyone is different and everyone's lives are different
I work when I feel like it. I'm self employed and depends how many clients I have and I don't make $5 an hour that's shit money and I wouldn't work anywhere for that rate, that's below minimum wage in the UK.
I could get up to £50 an hour
I'm actually attractive lol why'd you keep thinking that I'm insecure or something like that or there must be something physically wrong with me? I am very far from ugly or average so maybe you're projecting
I didn't say I was rich lol who said I was rich? And yes I'm a personal trainer but I also work in fashion too soooo
You're so silly it's ridiculous and if I made anyone feel bad about themselves, that's not my fault. Maybe it's time to make a change and become who you want to be instead of sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. Nobody picked me up and dropped me where I'm at now, I worked hard for everything and now I'm very happy. Good day to you too
Wow I didn't grown ass women were capable to saying things like that. Well good luck to you and your cool self. I will enjoy my life as you will enjoy yours
It makes fat women feel better about themselves. I hate it because I am ACTUALLY CURVY.
Who cares? Let people define themselves how they want. Worry about your own body. Makes you look insecure
I'm in super good shape. My hips to waist ratio is 0.7 and I'm slim, not skinny or fat. Why? Because I eat right and go to the gym.
Being thin doesn't excuse 6ou from body insecurities. Often times people find it comforting to talk shit about overweight people because then they can say "At least I'm not that fat!" Which is kind of pathetic. Of you genuinely care about people's health, Youd actually do something instead of laughing about calling them a blob. Pretty shitty. Food addictions are real and sad
I'm not insecure or skinny lol so what are you talking about and I'm not mocking large folks I'm just wondering why they call themselves curvy as in don't they know what curvy means
Mocking people? I'm talking about fat people calling themselves curvy when they have no curves at all. Who's feeling mocked here? Are you over weight?
I didn't laugh in a way to mock anyone, it was more in a way like "wtf, that's deep" thing is with text talk you can't tell tone that's why I don't jump too conclusions. That's just me I guess and if you're over weight or larger than most then sorry if I offended you but maybe some lifestyle changes are what you need and not to be sitting on gag
Having a food addiction doesn't explain why people would call themselves curvy tho does it? You're missing the point. Like I said the poll reflects people true feelings regarding this issue. People think what I'm saying and I'm saying it, it's as simple as that.
Lol well it isn't really the point I was trying to make was it, you created some issue here I retaliate and you say "who cares" don't bring it up then. Stick to what this is all about. SOME fat people claiming to be CURVY when they are just FAT!!!
We do them no favors by playing along.
No we don't lol that's my point, it's worse playing along
Proooobably because everyone else already calls them that and treats them like they're the worst people on earth.
Or simply because they want to.
What is it with you women always feeling the need to trash talk other women? I mean seriously, get over it already.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a7339-women-are-more-judgmental-of-the-looks-of-other-women-here-s-why
I highly rate other women, but delusional women who are out of shape and in denial- nah!
More like you highly 'judge' other women. You women are incredibly judgmental and catty toward your sisters. But then you blame men for making women self conscious about their appearance. Too fucking funny!
I don't blame men for anything and never have done. I have never been out down or anything. I gained weight before, looked at myself, wasn't happy and worked it off 😊 perhaps you should say some women and not all. That way you might sound less like a dickhead
After your question here it's pretty fucking ironic that you would accuse anyone else of sounding like a dickhead. LMAO.
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Call me what you will but that doesn't change that fact that fat people are not curvy lol they're still fat and long after this post has died they still won't be curvy
What you said is true, but it doesn't change the fact that you are a nasty, catty bitch for saying it.
If I walked up to an overweight girl on the street and said "you're fat", the words would be true, but it would make me a complete asshole for saying it.
See what I mean? You are that complete asshole.
I am not waking up to fat people on the street. I'm seeing if people agree with this or if it's just me. If someone fat is offended then perhaps it's time for change? I don't care if it makes me look like an asshole, I might be an asshole but I'm not fat. So hey who gives a shit about what you have to say lol
It's sad that you would rather be a skinny asshole than a fat human being who cares about others. No surprise though... you already demonstrated that here.
Who said I was skinny? I am a healthy weight with a small waist lol my health isn't at risk. Are you fat or something or out of shape? Lol just because I appear to be getting on to fat people why does that mean I must me skinny? Lol I'm slim lol SLIM yes slim people exist
I am "slim" as well (9% body fat). But that's beside the point. You women are always complaining about how society puts so much pressure on women to look great and have great bodies, but the fact is it is YOU who do it to YOURSELVES. You're brutal to one another, and it's crystal clear that you do it because it makes you feel better about yourselves and you get satisfaction from making other women feel bad about themselves. That's horrible.
And that's what you're doing here. You're tried to disguise it as something else, but it's obvious that's what it is.
Why not be part of the solution rather than the problem? Why not stop making other women feel bad about themselves and instead make them feel loved and valued even if they are not curvy. Many women will never be curvy despite all their efforts.
Just be nice. It's contagious and it will actually make you feel better about yourself than making other women feel small.
Major Respect... MAJOR!!! 👏👏👏
Same way skinny girls think there fat. It goes both ways.
Yes and no
For skinny girls its a insecurity and for fat girls they just don't wanna accept the fact that their fat and wish they were smaller.
In that way yes
Who cares! Fat, curvy, whatever. Someone should like you for you! Not coz your fat or curvy.
But why should that other person have to deal with your illnesses which are related to your weight or your insecurities
Well that's why I said SOME fat people. And not about anything else but deluding themselves into thinking they are curvy and not fat. Yes it's people's choice who they wish to date but again this is a whole other topic
Read it again and it says SOME fat people
In the question and the description where it matters
Well you decided to comment on this question so I'm sure you read what was written above before deciding on a suitable response. If you need a director to be shown things like this then you shouldn't be on gag
Not at all, I just wonder how someone can comment on something without reading the criteria lol you can think I'm in a bad mood but that still doesn't cover the fact of your stupidity
"Oh, there's a fancy name for being like me" That's how that shit happens.
I love this hahah 😂😂😂
It was phrased poorly
the ones in your "curvy" photo are actually fat!
this is curvy
check out on YouTube a video called
CURVY IS NOT FAT !!! Fat girls stop calling yourself “Curvy”
Obviously because of their boobs and butt.
Haha. I'm a bit confused about all the female downvotes.
Lol over sensitive I'm guessing. Don't worry about it
I'm not really worrying, I'm just confused. I didn't expect to see so many pro-ana people around here.
Yh they definitely outweigh the rest of us. No pun intended
Somd people dont understand the definition of curvy
yeah it's kinda annoying. But what can you do
Nothing at all
They just want an excuse
Why do you care what other people call themselves if they are happy with it?
Cause fat people are using that to cover up the fact that there actually really lazy. Instead of doing something about it, they live in a fantasy world.
Preach
Well when you take the curvy word other people suffer for it
@promiscuous-petal @Asker so what? What makes it your responsibility to go around telling other girls what they are and what they aren't? Why does it matter to you if they're wrong when they use the word "curvy"? Why are you so emotionally invested in the proper use of this word that you're going to go around pooping on people who choose to use this word to describe themselves? Asker I fail to see how other people suffer from it. It doesn't really matter what words you describe yourself as, the reality speaks through your eyes. Fat girls calling themselves curvy isn't going to make you not-curvy.
It smells like some girls here just have an agenda.
Look at the poll dude
@FlyingTurtle I've met way too many overweight girls that take their insecurities out on other people and the world around them. They are rude to people that are skinnier than them. I literally went through hell on earth with a roommate who would scream at me if I didn't want to eat cookies and get fast food with her (haha, no joke). Plus she would harass me all day. I've realized that the girls who truly aren't happy about their bodies should do something about it, rather than trying to justify it and talk about it all the time. Have you noticed that overweight woman will talk about their bodies all the time? and post pictures naked explaining how much they LOVE their bodies? But when you meet those girls in real life they are just hell to be around. And I'm not saying that all overweight girls are bitter, just the ones that cover up their insecurities with an inflated-sense-of-self and rude comments to girls with slimmer bodies.
@FlyingTurtle, I'm referring to those overweight woman specifically. Curvy is not an appropriate word for rounder bodies. Women that are curvy usually work for that body, go to the gym and eat a healthy amount of food. That word is robbed now.
I agree 100, thing is some obese people make excuses for their weighg issues and petend they are happy with the way they look because they can't be bothered to make changes. Also, they will diss slimmer people and act like the don't give a damn because they're "curvy" sure a circle has curves you know but that's because it round but in reality curvy has a waist
I still fail to see how the way other people describe themselves, whether those ways are accurate or inaccurate, merits you jumping in and telling them "You're not curvy, you're just fat." And their health I between them and your doctor. You don't need to be a bitch and comment on it.
What's with the name calling? Are you unable to control yourself or express yourself in a mature way without getting silly? Emotionally unstable. Anyway.. I think that I can exercise my opinion just like you can yours and also I think that you need to chill out a little bit, don't you? Simple if your stomach is larger than your bust, hips and ass then you're just a ball.. Curvy is where your waist is somewhat smaller than your bust and hips.
Curvy implies multiple curves - not being a sphere.
That's rolls and lumps then not curvy
I absolutely agree with you. they're in denial.
It sounds nicer then fat?
Who likes to be lied to. I prefer the medical term "obses"
It's better than being called a chockerblock.
What's that? I have never heard that before.
i made that up
@LauraMarx I'm not! If curvy has to be used, so be it. But people all think Curvy belongs to bodies of J. Lo and Kim K
Made it up lol
asker if i tell you what the guys talk about behind girls.. you'll be shocked at their language.
Curvy doesn't belong to J lo and Kim. They are one side of curvy. You can be larger than life and still be curvy because you have wasig definition but if you're just a round ball with no waist at all, how's that curvy?
And what would I be so shocked about?
I think Curvy is a respectable term to use in order to be 'polite' to describing themselves in public
Asker , can't you just play along? do you really have to be politically correct? cut these big people some slack. If you were once fat, you would know better!
Well it sure is polite but doesn't to them any favours.
I was slim then got larger for various health reasons then now I'm sexy again because I went to the gym and stopped eating shit. Not once did I make excuses for my size or pretend to be happy. Soon as I gained the weight I hated it and was disgusted. My best friend has just be diagnosed with an illness which makes her gain weight but she's even started working out at home and changed her diet to slow the weighg gain- if not stop it altogether
ok if you have to tell it like it is... you will also open up a can of worms... with everything and anything around you. ARE you prepared?
I will eat those worms for breakfast and then hit the gym later and work those bad boys off
So what do you want to do? maybe you don't feel the pain of others... Do you want to go around telling every girl you see and say HEY YOU@RE FAT, LOSE SOME WEIGHT NOW? cos that i know lots of people are like that these days.
Well no. It's more or less me being realistic about what the differences are between the two. Larger people cogs more money and put strain on the health system. I think people should eat healthy and get help for their food addictions.
I feel like you're asking this question to MOCK fat people.
You sound controlling lol
I'm not controlling at all. I'm also not mocking fat people, they mock themselves when they call themselves curvy. Fair enough if they want to claim to be curvy then they can go for it but most people don't agree and I'd rather not lie to make someone feel better, where is the respect in that lol
They never asked for your oopinion, why would you spend caring for others how they should conduct themselves?
Sounds like a pointless mission
I'm focused on the people who can see that sharing this delusion only makes the problem worse but clearly you would rather watch people eat themselves to an early grave then say something. What an amazing friend you would be
Why would you continue in participating in my pointless mission? Just like you participate in the delusion of obese people..
There is different range of fatness. If you want to lump them all together, by all means. But you will never get rid of fat people. They will still continue to exist.
I'm not their friend and i don't get in the way of telling something they don't want to hear. Everyone has the choice to help themselves. If they don't. it's their problem. If they want help, they will find a way. Period.
You should really worry about your own health issues than dictating how others should manage their health or bodies. You don't get paid for doing what you do.. Unless you enjoy being Oprahing them.
Who wants to get rid of fat ppl? Stop trying to turn this into something it isn't.
I wonder who's going to win the fight in the ring. The fat one or the skinny conscious one.
I workout 6 days a week and eat according to my daily Intake my hips to waist ratio is stacked so I don't know what you're talking about
Fat people are strong.
Well why does there have to be fat people and skinny? What about the ones in the middle lol and fat people are slow when it comes to boxing. So both have their disadvantages.
This is getting silly now. Perhaps a fat person wouldn't have enough dicipline to train for an actual fight lol but that's a whole other story and I'm not playing with game with you. This conversation doesn't change the reality of things and what most people think.
You're the one complaining about fat people taking up space and other health facilities.
Taking up space? Lol what are you taking about. My point was some fat people beeline they are curvy and not fat. Let's draw the line here
Let me know when you start wrestling with a fat person in the ring.
Lol why would that even happen and why would you even come up with something like this lol this is getting plain weird
"I feel like you're asking this question to MOCK fat people" Amen! Its none of your business, asker, how people define themselves. Its not your business what someone's health is like. People have food addictions and you're laughing about them being a "blob". I really feel like people like you have no place in this obesity conversation because you add nothing productive to it
I just feel like you should get off my dick. Stick to one post and we can conversate. You're just all over this shit
Because they want to feel better about theirselves
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