Is she too small for me?

[Anonymous]

There is a girl I like and she seems to like me also.

I went out with her a couple times.

But there is a small problem, I am more than three times bigger than her. She is 4'7" tall and very skinny (around 66 lbs), I am 6" tall and bulky/muscular (211 lbs).

Personally she is perfect for me, I love short girls, but she seems intimidate by my size, and the way others look at us when I'm next to her isn't helpfull.

How to make her confortable with me?

Also when the time comes, I do not see how to sleep with her without hurting her or crush her, she seems very fragile. Any advice?

[Tigerlily]

Totally agree with what FloppyBunny said! Though I'm not that petite, I sort of wish I was ha... I love the contrast between men and women and the way guys can make you feel so (physically) small. Having said that, when you're with a guy like that, you know that if anything did go wrong, you'd lose. For a small girl to be with a big guy, she needs to be able to trust him entirely. Think about it - she can't fight back. You really would crush her if you tried. It's a little different between couples who are say both 5' 9" and the same weight. If any kind of fight happened, neither would have to feel intimidated. With a size difference as great as yours, I wouldn't blame her for being scared; most people have raised a hand to someone in a moment of anger, and even if you're not actually abusive, if you pushed her or something it'd have a much bigger effect. Having said that, once you know you've gained her trust, it can work to your advantage - being with a guy who's strong enough to kill us but chooses to protect us is a big turn-on.

I'm going to have a guess and say people in the street are looking at you funny because they think you're a grown man with a child. I'm going to hope she isn't, so assuming that, there's no problem. Especially not if she dresses like a lady and carries ID! There are always going to be people looking at couples who don't quite fit the norm - as much as racism is largely disintegrating now, I still catch people looking at me oddly when I'm with my boyfriend because we're an interracial couple. It's not ideal, but we are, and that's what matters. The relationship is between two people, not everyone who looks!

As for sleeping with her, you'll get to know what she likes and doesn't like, same as with any other girl. She may like the feeling of your weight on her or she may not quite be able to take it, but you'll discover that. You could ask her outright, or you could stick to something simple first like having her in your lap. That way as long as you don't throw her around or anything you're fine. Be slow, be gentle, and be communicative. Watch for what she seems to like and dislike and you'll figure out what's best =]

[Asker]

So you like it when your men is able to kill you? Its weird but I like that ;-)

Do you think age differance can also intimidate her? because she's 18 years old and I am 23.

[Tigerlily]

Lol well we don't like it when he actually tries to kill us, that much is for sure! But I guess generally girls like guys who are bigger than them, thus you're probably able to kill us.

Depends on the girl with the age difference. I'm 19 and my guy's 26, and to me that's not a problem. Some people have rules on what age ranges they'll date but I don't think 5yrs is a big deal; you're both young adults so really the only way to find out is to ask!

[Asker]

Thanks ;-)

[FloppyBunny]

Just be sweet gentle and slow with her. Eventually she'll see that even though you're a large guy, you're not a dangerous guy at all. Although I'm not short, I'm extremely slender and small-boned. Men tell me I'm fragile-looking too and I'm also intimidated by extremely large men. However I also find myself attracted to large masculine guys...so it's sort of weird. I'm both intimidated and attracted to the guy. If after observing the guy for a while, he proves himself to be a kind person, I'll get over my initial fear response and that will leave just the attraction portion of my feelings for him. If he seems dangerous then I'll lose interest in him completely.

Just move slowly. One time, this buff guy kept freaking me out by standing too close and "rushing" at me. In actuality, he wasn't charging me but because he's fast moving and large, in my eyes, it looked like I was getting rushed by a bull.

[Necronometer]

I had a similar issue when I started dating my last boyfriend. He's 6'5" and I'm 5'5" and we both weigh the same. So... He is super skinny!

You just have to show her that you would never harm her and that you want to protect her. If she can feel safe with you, then she may even feel empowered to have such a big boyfriend by her side. Don't worry about breaking her when that time comes. I was scared of breaking my last boyfriend too, just because he is so skinny, you can count his vertebrae. But the human body is actually not as breakable as what you might think an as long as you don't ever put your full body weight on her, she should be just fine. :)

[JohnGPL]

Damn, that is tiny. But it's not something that should prevent a relationship.

Also, people invented the cowgirl position for a reason. Can't crush her if she's on top.

[bjs09]

Well I think if she likes you, she likes you and comfort will come in time.
When it comes to sex you're just going to have to extremely careful and delicate because there's a big chance it will hurt her. If its done properly though, you should be fine. :)

[ducuk1942]

WOOAAHHH a major size difference man! WOOAAH! but still size shouldn't take away your relationship.. even though I am surprised I still think you guys look cute

[CharlotteXO]

I think it's a cute image. And I bet the girl loves it. Most likely makes he feel safe.

[JCUcupcake]

She sounds like a 6th grader to me. Like is there something wrong with her? I don't mean that in a rude way it sounds odd.

[Asker]

Well she's just very short ans skinny lol (Skinny because she has thin bones, small hands, etc... not because she has a very low bodyfat, she don't look anorexic).

[JCUcupcake]

Lol o I see

[peace-love-couture]

Open up to her,eventually she'll do the same
Show her you can be gentle

[Anonymous]

Just keep being a good guy, & she'll get more comfortable. It probably turns her on as well because she feels safe with a bigger man...

[crystalmagick]

Size doesn't matter...in any context.

Just be gentle with her and take it slowly.

[ihatework]

66 pounds? I weighed that much when I was born.

[Just_A_Girl88]

LOL!!!

[Thiezz]

66 lbs?! Wow, she must be extremely skinny :/

[Anonymous]

Why would you even date such a midget...

[funkumar]

it is great here from that girl

[funkumar]

ok no problem