Which do you think is a better choice?

[Anonymous]

My significant other and I cannot have biological children (due to medical issues) and he wants to use a surrogate. I am not comfortable with the idea of surrogacy especially if using my own eggs, I've been through a lot of medical procedures in the last year and mentally, emotionally I cannot bear to go through anymore. We could use a donor egg but that makes the whole process so much more expensive and risky... whereas I would rather adopt (an older child even) as there are so many kids out there who already need loving homes. What are you thoughts? (Oh, we are both in our 40s so the health of my eggs and his sperm could also be a factor in creating a healthy baby anyway).

Using a surrogate

Adoption

[NamerOfStars]

I once saw a bumper sticker with the picture of paw imprint and the words "If you don't rescue, don't breed". It popped into my head how odd it would be if we applied the same sentiment to humans. Anyway, it seems to me that adoption would be the logical choice- there are already a LOT of kids out there who desperately want loving homes. And, bluntly, babies, especially new ones, are a LOT of work. The energy of youth that so many of us spend partying is actually to keep up with infants and small children, who need constant supervision, and keep VERY odd hours. Many kids who aren't babies any more would love to be adopted; I'd imagine they have an even harder time of it.

[D_Bone_Steak]

This is a female-female relationship? No wait he's a dude right? Correct me where I'm wrong. If he's a dude can't they just inject an egg and sort of just make it happen? I know it costs money and after making a bunch of kids myself I've not exactly ever thought about it myself.

If you adopt... give the kid a good existence. I got shoved into that system and basically, every parent figure treated me like a damn slave. Like those people take kids just to make them do work... it was fucked up.

[DarkWinterNights]

Adoption is always a great option. There are so many kids who need loving parents.

[Flower7]

Adoption because there are so many kids in the world already.

[BlaisePuma]

Adopt. Please. There are tons of kids who would benefit a ton if you adopt. Promote adoption.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I'd never adopt. It's either my kids or no kids.