Which is the better option? ?

[Anonymous]

Which would be the better option if you were approaching 40 and want to just start a family asap.

you have a part time job online and No time to meet others to get to know them, you have to just jump now or lose your only chance

None of these are ideal of course but that’s life we have to work with what we get.

which is the better option?

Person 1: is attractive, tall (182cm), fit, lives with his mom, poor, trying to find a job but doesn’t have one yet. He feels depressed and has anxiety because can’t find a job and doesn’t know how to get out of that situation fast. He wants a family but feels he can’t because of his situation.

Person 2: not so attractive but not super ugly, he’s overweight with big stomach, short (175cm) not rich but has his own flat, has a job, has mouth herpes, (you will have it too if you choose this one) and if you have children with this person likely your children will have it too he said. This person is not depressed but feels pressure and sadness that he has not found a partner yet to build a family.

if you’re a man imagine it was your situation it as if they are the women and you have to choose.

One is attractive, in face and body but poor and depressed about it.

the other one is not so attractive, overweight, has a job, own flat but has mouth herpes.

which would you choose if you just had no more time to meet others.

Option 1

Option 2

[RandomUser1000]

Out of those options, Person 1 seems to be the better choice.
It sounds like if you could somehow help him find/get a job, that could be a big part of solving most of the problems.

Intentionally having kids with someone with inherited diseases sounds like a last option.

[Asker]

Thank you. Well herpes is not inherited I don’t think so, burning very contagious and living with someone with that the odds of not getting it are very low, you will likely get it eventually and the baby too, he cleaned it to me. And well it scared me. But he said bodily dies from it, yet still it’s so scary to me.

[Asker]

Autocorrect killed my response there. Sorry

[ChicoFromThe305]

Choose whoever you think will have a more successful relationship and will be a good choice to raise a family

[Asker]

Thank you. I don’t know who would be better. I’ve never seen either with kids before

[Anonymous]

I'd rather the one that doesn't have herpes, isn't a slut, isn't fat and has issues like everyone else. I'd take a regular girl with problems over some loser who's been used up and is settled but gross.

[Anonymous]

Option 3 Don't do. The fact that you're getting old and just want to start a family is the worst reason to do this. Don't do this to him or yourself.

[Asker]

But if I don’t do it, I’ll stay alone. We have exactly one life. I want a family. Or at least try for one.

[Opinion Owner]

Better to be alone and unhappy then be in a relationship and miserable I always say.

Most people would choose to be Ina relationship. And most people in relationships are very unhappy.

Do what you want. I'm simply saying don't make a decision out of desperation. The devil you is typically better than the devil you don't.
I don't want or be single. But I'd rather be single than be in a relationship with a woman that didn't really care about me.
Just try to keep that thought in mind.

[Asker]

I understand what you mean but being the sad lonely aunt that everyone feels sorry for is 100x worse than any of the two options, I just don’t know which one of these is less bad. :/

I don’t want to be old alone. For sure.

[Opinion Owner]

What's so sad about being single. Notice I said SINGLE, not alone. I'm single, not alone. I can't think of anything more sad than being in a relationship just because you're afraid to be single. And I would say that to ANYONE who called you "sad". I'm not trying discourage you or ANYONE from being in a relationship. I'm simply saying, do it for the right reasons. Do it because you find a man you feel you absolutely want in your life forever. One that makes you a better person. Don't do it for some percieved silly societal expectation.

[Asker]

Single but not alone? Meaning you never have a love life only others like parents or cousins and friends? Yeah no, that’s horrible.

I don’t want to grow old without a life partner.
I want someone to hug and squeeze and share my funny and sad moments with, someone to kiss and cuddle with..

Single life sucks. And yes until a sad life. When all your friends and family have kids and those kids have kids but you’re still alone as ever the single uncle or aunt that never had anyone and they feel sorry for younger don’t say it.

Unfortunately I didn’t make the right decisions in my life where I am stuck in this situation, I don’t have time to search for someone better suitable, and while these two options are far from ideal, it beats getting old alone no matter what. I just want to choose the least awful one from the two which is why I asked for advice here.

[Opinion Owner]

Horrible to you I guess.

[Valdemort]

I'd rather stay single.

[Asker]

That’s awful. I can’t see myself old and alone hoping that someone will want to waste some time on me. Horrible. I don’t even wanna think it. I’ve seen the sad lonely aunts and uncles that everyone feels sorry for. I will not be that person. Scary hell.

[Valdemort]

That depends on who you're setting yourself up with. Not every person who's alone is lonely and sad.
But based on the options, I doubt I'd be happy either. 😅

[Asker]

Trust that every single person that grows old single is not happy regardless of what they say. They are sad inside and wish they had someone.

Just put in a facade and pretend like you’re happy cause what else is there to do.

Nobody actually wants that.

[Valdemort]

I got where you're coming from - but the wrong person won't change that.

[slatyb]

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[Anonymous]

Option 2.

[Asker]

Can you say why?