Is it normal to want your partner who works second shift up early and wake up when you do with no naps and running your marriage like boot camp ?

[Uranusgirl]

I went to a military reform school and basic training but I never made it passed private. I applied to be a drill Sargent several times but I didn't get the job.

My husband said it's not fair that I refuse to be quiet and if he says anything I throw tantrums like a three year old.

He should sleep when I sleep and get up when I decide no matter how tired he is. Naps are for lazy people. He said he's going to lose his job if I keep doing this.

Our marriage counselor said I need to be more considerate. If hubby doesn't like it he can leave.

But he won't leave. the cars are in my name and I control the finances. He said that since taking over the finances I act like a dictator and he wants separate finances or he is done. I found out he had his own secret checking account. I am angry he has been secretly getting Starbucks sometimes to get Christmas flavors before they run out. I forbade him for going there because the waitresses are very attractive and extra flirty with him there. He said I sound ridiculous.

Like they have this thing in basic training called the snake pit where they watch you eat and scream at you for eating wrong or eating too much. I have been implementing it in my marriage. He has been getting uncharistically mouthy. He was like what are you going to do next make me do role call?

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1 y

He would never make it in the military. He said he's not and I need help for my control issues. it hurts his soul when I scream at him like he's in boot camp. It helped shape who I am. Why should it bother him so much. He shouldn't blow this out of proportion. He just has to follow orders and everything will be fine.

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1 y

He was very upset that my mother accidentally took our car keys ignored his texts and took her sweet time bringing them back and he missed seeing his family and Christmas dinner at his favorite restaurant. They could come here but they don't like me.

[Caroline91]

I have trouble believing this post is serious... I don't know about "normal" but I do think it's unreasonable and, perhaps, more than a bit callous. People who love each other make the other's well-being a high priority.

[exitseven]

I had an uncle who was a cop. He used to say that the sadists always find the masochists.
This sounds like a marriage made in heaven

[Uranusgirl]

Not really. my husband seems to not want to be around me. He moved out of our bedroom when I quit having sex with him. He keeps going fishing.

[exitseven]

@uranusgirll Fishing for what?

[Uranusgirl]

He holes up in his office and avoids me he goes fishing and hunting whenever he had a big fight

[exitseven]

@uranusgirl you know you can't do this forever?

[Uranusgirl]

What

[exitseven]

you need to either fix it or end it.

[exitseven]

sorry if this is a little harsh,

[Uranusgirl]

I am not trolling I just want to shape into popa soldier

[Uranusgirl]

He is very lazy and doesn't make enough money and I resent that. I don't want him eating too much food so I have to yell. I am trying to mold him into a disciplined soldier like they do in basic training because marriage is war. I don't think I am that loud I guess I woke him up screaming at Alexa to repeat what she said. But I told him he lives in a fantasy world and his fault he woke up so it's cool

[Uranusgirl]

I want to stay married forever so we have to be miserable

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Anonymous]

It's good to see this troll has deactivated her GAG account.

[DryGermanGuy]

Learn to troll better. Boring.

[Uranusgirl]

Why can't he just live like we are in basic training. Why can't he block out me screaming at Alexa. if he doesn't like it he can leave. I don't think I am loud he should sleep through it.