OlderAndWiser

You have been dating for four months. In the beginning, you thought that he was Mr. Wonderful. You thought she was Ms. Right. You felt excited, alive, electric, and you were on top of the world. You went to really cool places for dates and it was everything that you always thought romance...

He broke up with you.  You knew it was going to happen.  He wasn’t being unfaithful to you and you weren't being faithful to him.  The sex was still good but that wasn’t enough to keep the relationship together.  You just didn’t seem to be on the same page and you knew he was unhappy.  You kept...

Recently, my girlfriend has been needy.  She is not a dependent or helpless female and she is not usually needy, but recently, circumstances have made her needy. She bought a house recently and moved in about 2 1/2 months ago.  I have been helping her to get settled in (we do not live together)...

Let’s establish one thing right away:  I’m biased.  I don’t think that cheaters deserve a second chance.  I have had a spouse cheat on me.  I have never cheated on a spouse and I have never cheated on a girlfriend to whom I had promised exclusivity.  I think it is inexcusable. Cheaters don’t...

Some breakups occur suddenly.  You make a surprise visit to his apartment and find him in bed with the girl who you thought was your best friend.  You scream and tell him, "Return to Hell, demon!"  You use every four-letter word you know to tell him about his character and then you turn and...

I recently saw a myTake in which a younger user (actually, 99% of you are younger users) said "I don't know what love is."  I was sad to hear that comment and I fear that too many young people today are disillusioned about romance, love, and marriage.  Hollywood issues movies about people...

My friend, Icyfire101, asked me for some advice about how to get over a girl.  I promised him that I would think about it.  Icyfire101, my good man, here are my thoughts and suggestions for you and everyone else who ever felt their heart break. You break up with someobody you dated two or three...

One of my younger friends, Icyfire101, requested some advice on flirting and I promised to respond.  A man should always keep his promises, so here are my thoughts on that subject. When I was a younger man, I was a big loser with women.  I was a shy, high IQ nerd who was overweight,...

I have made a study of women for the past 60 years.  It's not my job but it has occupied much of my otherwise available time.  After 60 years, I have learned only two things that I think are infallible, and today I will share both of them with you.  If you implement these two handy bits of...

I commonly hear people making comments like, "I put much more into my relationship than what I'm getting out."  I understand why someone would say that.  I have had that feeling in some of the relationships that I've survived.  But I also think that such statements reflect a fundamental flaw in...

You're sitting at a wedding and the preacher starts to talk about that common topic for wedding sermons: The Two Become One.  That's when you start daydreaming, thinking about that waitress at the taco joint who you'd really like to bang, or that cute guy in your biology lab who you'd really...

Far too often, guys propose to the first girl who comes along who the guy thinks might actually agree to marry him.  Certainly not every guy acts out of desperation but many get married without having much dating experience.  Not every marriage that begins in that fashion is doomed;  my brother...

We all know somebody like Bob.  He's 32 years old now.  Bob married Amber when he was 22 years old.  He had just graduated college and he had lived with Amber during their senior year of college.  After the marriage, they waited a few years and everything seemed wonderful, so they had two...