I have made a study of women for the past 60 years. It's not my job but it has occupied much of my otherwise available time. After 60 years, I have learned only two things that I think are infallible, and today I will share both of them with you. If you implement these two handy bits of knowledge, you are guaranteed to score more points with your lady.
1. Sending Her Flowers
Should you send her flowers? Yes! Did she say that she thinks flowers are a waste of money? It doesn't matter; send them anyway.
Flowers make her feel good: they send the message that you were thinking about her. You already knew that part. But flowers have another function for women. So here's the rule: send the flowers to her at work.
She'll get that call to come to the front desk for a delivery and she'll be excited. Then, she'll pick up the vase and carry it back to her work area. The other women will look up at her and the flowers. Then, she'll look back at the ladies and she won't say a word, but her expression will speak very clearly: "Oh, girls, look at what my man sent me!" Some of those women have never received flowers at work and you just gave your woman the opportunity to show everyone that she is a queen to someone special. There is nothing that comapres to that feeling for a woman. If you send those flowers to her at home, 90% of the points have been wasted!
Equally important is the timing. If the event or reason for the flowers falls on a Thursday or Friday, have the flowers delivered on Wednesday. She will want to bring those flowers home Friday afternoon, but the longer they sit on her desk, the more she gets to act like the queen bee.
Res roses are a cliche but it doesn't matter. If you are in a relationship where you have told her that you love her, or if you have been sexually intimate, red roses are what you should send. If the relationship is new and you want to impress her but don't want to scare her with too much too quick, send yellow roses and explain to her that in the old language of flowers, yellow roses symbolize friendship.
2. Ordering Dessert
When you take your lady to a restaurant, you have a wonderful meal and then the waiter asks if you would like to see the dessert menu. She will probably hesitate and then decline. Women are told that they should always act weight-conscious and ordering dessert after a fine meal would be like . . . acting like a cow! No woman wants to be thought of as a cow, so she will decline the invitation.
SHE WANTS A DESSERT! Trust me, most women will see some chocolate assemblage that piques their curiosity and calls them in the silent language of chocolate: "Eat me!" They wish they could have it, but . . . they must maintain that weight-conscious image.
Man to the rescue! You say to her, "You know, I'd kinda like to have a dessert, but I don't really want a whole dessert. Would you share one with me?" It doesn't matter whether it is your first date; she may have planned on not even kissing you on the first date, but sharing a desert and eating from the same plate: that would be okay! So she agrees to do you a big favor and share a dessert with you.
Now you say, "I'm not sure what I want. What looks good to you?" She won't hesitate to tell you that the triple chocolate fudge brownie mousse eclair pie look "interesting" but, of course, only if that sounds good to you, too. I don't care if you are allergic to chocolate; order the triple chocolate whatever.
When the dessert arrives, leave it in the middle of the table and eat it slowly. Get all the eye contact you can while you let the dessert melt in your mouth. You gave her exactly what she wanted and she got to indulge herself free of guilt. While you are enjoying the dessert, savor this: in her book, you just became a hero!