Is marrying an Indian guy living outside India a good idea for an Indian woman born and raised in India?

[Anonymous]

He is able to work while I won't be able to have a job out there.

[PrettyPriya]

Sure. Much more about him than where he was born. Does he treat you well? Good personality? Do you love him? Etc.

It really has little to do with where a person is from. Heck, I’m engaged to an Australian man. He lives it India for work. Why should that matter? I love him. He is good to me.

I think your placing the wrong values on what is worthy of marriage.

[Asker]

I am afraid he will leave me or cheat on me. It is an arranged marriage mostly.

[PrettyPriya]

Uh oh. Okay so this gets a bit deeper now. May I ask why you believe he will cheat?

[Asker]

Because it's pretty common for NRIs to do that.

[Asker]

Don't you know the stories of Punjabi women left by their husbands?

[PrettyPriya]

I am VERY familiar. I’m guessing we don’t live all that far a distance from each other.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah it’s fine @PrettyPriya covered it all really lol.

it’s really common in the UK.

Jobs are really down to how much effort you put into learning language and the country moving to and it’s opinion of women working and availability of work.

[Asker]

I am afraid he will leave me or cheat on me since many of them are notorious for doing that.

[ChrisMaster69]

Well a relationship is based on trust, if you do not have that trust then their is no relationship

[Asker]

So it's a bad idea?

[ChrisMaster69]

If you cannot trust the person you are in a relationship, then do not be in the relationship.

However, everyone is different, because one or two cheat, does not mean everyone does.

You need to learn to trust each other, this is part of dating and relationship before marriage.

[Asker]

It's an arranged marriage. I don't know much about him. His lifestyle doesn't seem okay as he drinks and smokes. I just love the way he looks a lot and he is a doctor.

[ChrisMaster69]

@ Pink Anon, thanks for MHG, most appreciated

[jshm2]

Don't do it. Firstly there will be cultural issues and he will always have a chip on his shoulder.

Indian men tend to be very caste orientated and disloyal.

[In_Trance]

sure