I am married for about a year now. My husband had been my boyfriend for 4 years and just a good friend for 3 years before that. During our relationship, we did not tell our families that we were dating for first 1 year. Once we told our respective parents and siblings, our parents happily agreed and fixed the marriage date and started planning our engagement party and marriage ceremonies. My husband has an elder brother who is married for 3 years now. His wife has a sister who wanted to marry my husband. My husband’s brother (bil) and his wife (my Sil now) told my husband, “It’s attraction you feel towards her but not love. You don’t know the meaning of love. It will fade with time” when he told them that he loves me. Well, I and my husband have been in different places and for the first 4 years of our friendship and 1 year of our relationship. But nothing changed our feelings towards each other. We have mutual respect, trust and love towards each other. He tried explaining it to them and they just brushed off his words. After our marriage, we lived together with everyone for the first few months and My sil told my mil that there are many possible brides for my husband including her own sister but that I trapped (in a rather rude way) him. My mil and fil don’t say much about this directly but my sil and her husband keep comparing me with all the possible women he could have ended up with including my sil’s sister and my husband’s other female friends who expressed interest in him. I feel anxious and hurt when I hear these things and I communicated it with my husband. He asked me not to care about their words as he chose me and has been in love with me since the beginning even when we were friends (He expressed his feelings towards me in the initial years of our friendship but I told him that I wasn’t looking for a relationship). Though I am that we chose each other, I sometimes feel unaccepted into his family. How to deal with this situation?
How to deal with certain words of sil?
