Do Western men really want a housewife?

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In my country, guys prefer girls with the same profession. This is the biggest reason I chose my job, even though I hate having to constantly prove my competence. I remember telling my parents as a teenager that I wanted to be a housewife, and they told me to forget about marrying an urban guy. I’m surprised to read that some men from other parts of the world say they want a homemaker.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I don't know about all "western men".
I'm sure that some do.

I never had an interested in being tied down with kids, and I didn't even start thinking about settling down until I was in my early 30s.
At that point, I wanted a wife; a life partner. But I didn't need a housewife to keep house and take care of me. I wanted a partner.

My wife and I both worked and brought home income. We share many interests but also have our own interests. We share house and gardening chores. We spend time together, chat about all kinds of things, and make financial and home improvement decisions mutually. And we both enjoy sex.

But ours isn't the "traditional" kind of marriage with a stay at home housewife.

Tarifa · Accepted Answer

No, it all depends on one's individual situation. As a couple, each of us have always had our own jobs, until the birth of our daughter. She decided to quit her job to take care of her full time. That was a conscious choice, there were other alternatives but that was what she wanted.

I fully supported her in that choice, and I also supported her when she wanted to get back to work when the time was right. It's a decision that primarily affects my wife, but it ultimately affects both of us or the family unit as a whole. Living in a big city can force one to need two incomes. I wouldn't want my wife to stay home if that means she's giving up her job or interferes with her professional career.

Smashingdoozy · Accepted Answer

I think that that's what they think they want. But they don't realize their paychecks don't allow for that and what they actually want is a maid crossed with a sex slave crossed with a nanny. Not a wife, not a life partner, not a mother to their children because that would mean that they would have to play the other half if that role.

itsannalee · Accepted Answer

It depends on the person.
Some yes and some not, my ex wants his partner to works and makes money. But my boyfriend doesn’t really care, if i want to be housewife he is okay, he supports me. But if i want to work and run a bussines, he still supports me.

V_Injector · Answer

Allow me to state my case...

ProbablyClueless · Answer

The ideal is always a bit different from what we'd accept, right? I think most people, men and women, would agree that the most desirable situation is one where the dominant partner (whether regardless of whether that's actually the man or the woman) makes enough money to support the house while the more submissive partner has the freedom to choose whether they want to work or not.

Unfortunately, life is hard. And most men simply don't earn that kind of money... they can't. So how are you going to ask your wife to not work a job if you don't make enough money to pay the bills she needs you to pay?

MisterWack · Answer

“Western men” like myself are open minded.
Women can be a lawyer, a nurse, a doctor, a pilot, a stewardess, anything she wants to be is up to her and her alone including being a housewife. She can even work remotely at home. The fact is, being a mother is an important job and women know that in the world their importance to their families though they also are open to their own mental & physical & desire needs so…. Yeah women can forge their own path and I’m happy for them.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Traditional western men:  Maybe Modern western men:  Maybe not Pick your side lol, although you can't really pick a side because you don't live in an area that could be qualified as Western? That being said I'd like to read your thoughts about  India as it is not a country I am informed of .

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

Yeah, I have a livestock farm. The school is fat away and homeschooling is better. The type of work is more geared towards men, either way there are aspects dads typically starting teaching their sons and daughters how to do from the time they can walk.

A stay at home home is crucial to the success of a ranch family way out-rurally located.

LiamJHayden · Answer

If I could have children and the laws were not so skewed, I would be happy with a housewife. As I cannot father children, not on my priority list. But she could be a student, or an artist who never quite makes it for all I care as long as she adores me.

madgoat · Answer

Some, yes. Others, absolutely not. And a set in the middle that just want a loving, loyal and kind woman that reciprocates and may earn a lot of money or may earn very little.

VIVANT · Answer

Most just want a partner to share their company, a dual income home and to just get on with their lives.. The ones who want a house wife are often indignant & very loud about it,

LazerBean · Answer

Some do, but generally men today do not want to be the only one bringing in money.

Agape93 · Answer

Plenty do, yeah. Issue is most can't afford to be the sole breadwinner

SixFootSexy · Answer

Not really, in this economy that's impossible to afford for most men. Women and children are quite expensive.

msc545 · Answer

Not necessarily but we really also do not want to live with a monster and go through the hassle of getting rid of her as she tries to kill us or just ruin our lives.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Wanting and affording are two different things.  The immense majority of men can afford a housewife plus kids and all the other bills etc to take care of.

thearchjoker · Answer

Many do, probably the majority too yet they just can't afford it with the current economy.

StevenMcGarrett · Answer

My wife is a homemaker. She loves it and I love that she always takes care of me and the children.

paledreams · Answer

Yes however offspring ain't my expectation :) I for one would just want a monogamous woman ♀️👠

fuqufaqqot · Answer

Yes. This is why western men are looking for Eastern women

ManInChains · Answer

Far better than the bitchy alternative

Gwendoline · Answer

Depends what you define as a housewife.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Some do, some don't.

Light_beam · Answer

No, girls in the west like to work

noohair · Answer

They want a girl that is only a slut with them.

TheCaller · Answer

Where is your country?

MrGSpotHer · Answer

It all depends who you ask

Titus_of_Ultramar · Answer

Yes, we do

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes we do

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