Questions: Marriage & Weddings

I feel the need to create this question because I made the mistake of defending my wife's choice to be a home maker and housewife on a woman's forum.. And now not only am I getting hate from that, people are messaging her demanding she divorce me.. My wife finds it funny, and just blocks them, but I really feel the need to ask, is it really the same as slavery?

I've never, not once ordered her around, never told her what she can and cannot do, never controlled anything she does, and her choose to be a housewife was hers alone. So why do these women say it's slavery?

I have been looking for a future wife who will have our children and stay home to take care of them. I also want a wife who will notice when public schooling isn't educating our children properly and homeschool them if the need did arise. Is this unreasonable?