Have you ever regretted not confessing your crush?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever regretted not confessing your crush? Why didn't you?

[markwiering]

I would regret it if I did.

I have considered a few times to tell the girl I am in love with how I feel about her. This has happened to me three times when I felt desperate and insecure. In the end, I always have been glad that I had decided not to do this. Just think about the horrible things that would happen if I did:

1. Immediate rejection. There is no doubt about this, because she already has a boyfriend, and it isn't me.
2. This would damage or even kill our social interaction. She will probably try to avoid me and stop socializing with me if I would ever be stupid enough to inform her about this.
3. Other people will get to know this. This would give the other girls who might be in love with me the impression: "Let's give up on Mark Wiering. He is already in love with ".

Imagine if the girl I am in love with is also in love with me, despite of the fact that she already has a boyfriend. Imagine that she is in love with both me and her current boyfriend. This would make things even worse. If I would tell her that I am in love with her in THIS particular situation, it will make her feel bad since she knows that our love feelings are mutual, but she is already stuck with her current boyfriend. If she decides to break up with her current boyfriend and start a relationship with me because she loves me (a little bit) more than her previous boyfriend, this will make her previous boyfriend feel very bad.

No matter how I look at it; I must keep this a secret.

[Anonymous]

i haven't regretted because i recently told my crush that i liked her. crafted a letter for her and wrote how i felt , painted a Christmas tree with her name on it and gave her a charm bracelet right before Christmas of last year. even thought it ended in a no, i don't regret it because i'm sure i would had regretted even more had i stayed shut. it stills hurt and i still wonder if there was something i could've done differently but i know that just my feelings for her talking because i still haven't gotten over her. to bad she wasn't the one. i rarely don't go for her type but what capture me was her inner beauty the most, i'm not saying she's ugly because she not. she's the type not to wear make up/wear sweatpants/messy hair. but i honestly thought she was the one. time to get over her.

[Stacyzee]

In the past when I was a teenager I regretted it tons.
It sucked to see your friends dating your crush all because
you were too shy to confess your feelings for that person.

Although rejection is very possible, its a hard reality
to live and to not know.
I say go for it, the only thing that can happen is a "No".
Then you move on, and try with someone else.

[Asker]

No offense but you had some bad friends if they went after your crush..

[rvagirly]

Yeah I do because our convos have been going for so long I wish I would have said something before he started talking about another lady he likes, but still don't think I would have been able to because of the fear or rejection and awkwardness it might cause and him talk to me less if I did confess and he didn't feel the same way back.

[edsheeran]

Well maybe not confess my love to him cause i still won't do it now, but i probably regret being mean and distant to him even though i liked him because now he probably lost interest

[Asker]

Aww why were you mean if you liked him?

[edsheeran]

because i'm a really shy person and i didn't know how to react around him. I didn't want him to know i liked him so i kinda acted like i wasn't interested in him but i regret it now

[lightbulb27]

sure, never expressed myself, just wasn't confident then.

[Anonymous]

All the time. And then another guy asks them out. But recently I grew a pair and am now in a relationship :) No more regrets.

[Asker]

Did regretting not asking out the girls you had a crush on inspire you to chase after what you want?

[Anonymous]

I don't really bother confessing cause it's not like we'll be dating/I'm not gonna date.

[Rogue2]

Heck yes. But at that time, it may have been for the best.

[blunttalker]

No, because i realized he was an idiot

[zombiebabe]

yes but at that time i was too insecure:(

[Anonymous]

Yup, all the time.