Does masturbating while thinking about another girl and fantasizing about having sex with another girl warrant a break up?

[Anonymous]

If you found out your boyfriend masturbates to another girl he knows, would you break up with him? It's just one specific girl he knows. He doesn't flirt with her but he looks at her frequently at school. They rarely even talk to each other. At night he masturbates to her (using his mental picture of her/photographic memory) about 65% of the time and masturbates to you about 35% of the time. He never masturbates to her pictures, he just uses his mental pictures. He just fantasizes about having sex with her every week and thinks about what it would be like to fuck her but doesn't act on his urges.

Yes I would break up with him

No I would not break up with him

[Slavanna]

If he admitted it, yes. I'm not expecting to be on his mind 24/7, but for the love of all things holy, if he feels the need to tell me, then let him fuck the other girl and leave me be. If he's not running his mouth, how would I know? If he is, I'm clearly not enough for him, so why should I weigh the sucker down?

[Asker]

Noooo. If he tells his friends and word gets out. Its high school. You just happen to find out about his information.

[Slavanna]

Oh, even better. I simultaneously get to know that he's not satisfied with our sex life AND he runs his mouth about it to people whom it does not concern. Drives the point of him being a jerkass home.

[CommieDearest]

No, but him making it a point to tell me would be a reason to break up.

How the fuck does someone "find out" unless the dude is running his mouth about it. It would be humiliating.

[Asker]

If he tells his friends and word gets out. Its high school.

[CommieDearest]

Okay as I said... if he was running his mouth about it... it would be humiliating.

[Asker]

Why would you think thats humiliating? Just curious.

[CommieDearest]

How could it not be? When you're in a relationship with someone you don't go around saying you'd like to fuck someone else. Even if it's just in your head.

You can't help what's in your head but you can help what comes out of your mouth. I'm sure plenty of guys would have a bruised ego if their gf told all of her friends about a wet dream starring the quarterback of the high school football team.

[LadyPurpleheart]

I would totally break up with him! Him masturbating to another girl shows that he is interested in that girl. Plus he's not being loyal to the relationship. :)

[Asker]

He's not acting on his fantasy though.

[LadyPurpleheart]

Well it's weird

[poppunk]

I NEED someone who's head-over-heels tipsy turvy in love with me, if this is happening he's not demonstrating the kind of love I need. I'd break up with him

[TrueblueInfantry]

Yes it does. It shows that he has little to no interest in his girl, and would rather have the other girl. Sorry bro. Break up coming.

[Asker]

He's not acting on his fantasy or pursing the girl.

[TrueblueInfantry]

Doesn't matter. The fact that you aren't thinking or fantasizing about your girl, because it is you, shows that you aren't loyal. Long enough just thinking about her will cause you to physically pursue her.

[Asker]

I do fantasize about my girlfriend if you read what I wrote I said I think about both of them!

[TrueblueInfantry]

However. You are still thinking about fucking someone else. That is where the issue is. One time is wrong. Multiple times is even more so. That shows a habitual lack of concern or respect for your current girlfriend.

[JackKerouac77]

Keep your intimate thoughts in your head, lest they run about this Earth and cause havoc

[harakiri]

Yeah, that's nasty. I doubt you'd like it if your gf masturbated to another guy. If you desire her that much, you should be dating that girl.

[Asker]

What if he doesn't like her but just thinks she's hot?

[harakiri]

... not okay.

[Asker]

I'm not acting on my fantasy though.

[Asker]

He's not acting on his fantasy though.

[harakiri]

yea you are. you're getting off to another girl. that's acting on it.

[harakiri]

LOL. it's so about you. face it, you're a scuzzbucket. hope she breaks up with you.

[Asker]

I meant he's not pursuing her or trying to get close to another girl. He barely even talks to the girl unless necessary.

[harakiri]

rationalize it however you want. i gave you my opinion. nothing you say will change it.

[DumpliingPrincess]

I wouldn't even want to know this information from my bf...

[Asker]

If he tells his friends and word gets out. Its high school. You just happen to find out.

[DumpliingPrincess]

I would be extremely offended. I don't know about breaking up-that would have to depend how deep into the relationship I was and how much I actually liked the guy. But I would always remember that and be hurt by it. Whether he acts on it or not, no girl wants to know that she comes second to some random girl in her bf's mind. If I were more hot headed maybe I would dump him, then he could finally live out his fantasy.

[Anonymous]

No, but according to jesus you should cut your brain out and throw it away, you mental adulterer!

[LastGirlScout]

I would love to see where Jesus says that :)

[Slavanna]

Something about cutting away the hand that sinned being better than being fried for all eternitu in hell... Taken one step farther.

[Opinion Owner]

Matthew 5:27-32

27 "You have heard that it was said, `You shall not commit adultery.' 28 But I say to you that every one who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and throw it away; it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away; it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell. 31 "It was also said, `Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.' 32 But I say to you that every one who divorces his wife, except on the ground of unchastity, makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

[LunaMay]

Definitely, I would break up with him.

[Account]

Yeah, I'd break up with him.

[Always_horny]

Nope, we all do it at some stage