Do you find self-deprecation annoying?

[beebella]

Yes, it gets old.

No, I'm fine with it.

You self-deprecate, don't you?

[Chiral]

It's a compensating strategy. We know that the way we see ourselves is not how others see us. We know also that generally we tend towards biases that give us inflated views of our own abilities. Most people believe they are better than average drivers for example. So we make a conscious effort to compensate but not knowing how much compensation is necessary we judge it's safer in lots of ways to overdo it rather than underdo it.

But yeah, I don't know what happened to Americans; maybe you can explain which bit of that doesn't make sense in the states?

[AndrewMG]

It's my only quality... Sh! t even that is self deprecating lol

[AndrewMG]

@beebella Thanks for MHO!

[Anonymous]

Sometimes you can tell the person is insecure and looking for validation lol

[lekiofogu]

Everyone's like "if it's all the time it's annoying" but it works the same as everything, if you met someone who only told jokes it would be so annoying, someone serious and down to hearth all the time is so annoying, someone complimenting everyone all the time is so annoying etc, though it's true self-deprication gets tiring quicker than other jokes, compliments or seriousness, to answer the question, when it's as everybody I know use it, it doesn't bother me at all

[InfoBot]

It's okay for the occasional bit of dry humour but it does grate if it is constant. Nobody really likes someone who walks around under a cloud.

[Cosytoasty]

British so it's literally part of our national identity :P.

Self-deprecating humour that is.

[LegateLanius]

Depends humor always gets me to laugh but if someone does it just became they feel bad or depressed, it is not something I like. I'd have to discuss it with her.

[H2OHydrox]

Sometimes the hardest thing in the world to accept is a compliment.

[Chiral]

I find its usually easy enough to say "thank you".

[H2OHydrox]

@Chiral same. I don’t know if it comes with age, but a lot of people struggle with compliments, hence the self-deprecating behavior.

[sidvt]

Yes because if u r confident then only anyone can be fulfilled with u either luv sex or friendship if u self deprecate people can't believe u in relationship job sex anywhere u need to get over on it

[Pluto4prez]

It gets annoying if it's all a person does, but I wouldn't want to hang out with someone who can't laugh at themselves once in a while either.

[TheUglyMonk]

It can get annoying especially when someone does it after complimenting them.

[wastedaway]

I think your partner should know how you feel about yourself and if he doesn't make you feel like you are special then you should find someone that can or does

[ASEXY]

It's annoying when it gets out of hand...

[Greaver]

What is self deprecation

[Chiral]

Putting yourself down. Not as in an animal though. That's called suicide.

[Greaver]

Ok I don’t like girls to put them self down it’s not cool I like girls who are confident and I’m the type of guy who can help a girl believe in her self

[Chiral]

See, you're American right?

[Greaver]

Yes I am but I’m not entirely American I’m part German and Russian

[Chiral]

Well it's obviously enough

[Greaver]

Yes so why does me being American matter

[Toad-1]

If it's all the time it can be 😛

[BleepRawrsaurus_Rex]

I mean I do it sometimes

[disgustingweebtrash]

You self-deprecate, don't you?

[michaelg12]

What is self-deprecation?

[winterfox10]

It's where you make jokes at your own expense. It's usually a thinly veiled attempt to fish for compliments. It's the humor equivalent of the hottest girl you've ever met posting a picture with a caption saying "OMG my ass looks so flat in those jeans!"

[Tohru]

Only if its all the fuck they do

[AlwaysBelieving]

Yes I do.

[Lumberman53]

Yeah

[Anonymous]

I am fine with it

[SpeshalK]

Ita no problem