Noticing this form of interracial dating has really picked up and became sort of a trend in some parts. Wanted to know opinions? Lol, personally the love of my life is white; he's From Britan. I'm African American. We got together because we just really liked each other, it wasn't a particular thing we sought for.
I find it becoming a trend, and I think it's having good and bad affects. Good because I mean diversity is nice and so is being open. However, sometimes it can be a little sad when I see it happening because people want mixed kids, a baby daddy, sugar daddy, money in general, or just because they like trying it out because it's cool at the moment. Not judging, to each their own lol. I just wish I saw a lot more ones solely based on really falling in love with the person instead like in a regular relationship.
Opinions About BWWM (Black Woman/ White Man Couples) Becoming A Trend?
I too think it is becoming a trend and most people are doing for the wrong reasons. I mean it's fine if you wanna experience it, but it's def bad for the reasons you listed above cuz that's just stupid and lame.
For some odd reason, I don't like it if it's the other way around (white women/black men couples), I don't know why it bothers though, but I don't give them a hard time for it cuz like you say, to each their own.
I like black girls too, I find them very attractive, I'm open to pursuing a relationship with one, I just don't know if I'd ever marry and settle down with one unless I really cared about her, but I'd rather settle down and marry a woman of my own race.
Trends are just trends, don't let it bother you when others are trending for the wrong reasons, just be glad you're doing what you're doing for the right reasons. You and your man seem very happy together and I hope it stays that way. He's a very lucky guy to have a woman as sweet and beautiful as you.
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That's understandable, I suppose it's easier to settle down someone similar to yourself, I can't dent that. And I know I shouldn't let it bother me, it's the emotional part of me that gets all into it. I'm very passionate I suppose, I'm learning to control it. I am happy that I'm doing it for good reasons as well. It feels more real to me. And thank you for your compliments haha I really appreciate it!
Its not trendy, the ones you see are because they actually care about each other (I think the reverse is true, that its trendy for black men white women relationships, this would explain why they have the highest divorce rate by a significant margin yet white men/black women have the lowest (about 5x lower then the average for same race relationships to be precise, which are more stable in general. Its actually the most secure, statistically speaking, marriage)). I think its becoming more accepted, I also think that both are feeling more comfortable with the idea of dating each other as well as the fact that since your in one you are more likely to notice it more often simply because your more aware then you where before.
I would not call it a trend. It is like any couple. True love does not see color, they just know within themselves that that person is the one and they act accordingly. Looks are artificial and race is a label that was meant to create division, but love ignores all these things and creates unity in the world.
Being a trend I don't know but i have seen these couples for a long time some even married and have kids so i don't think they kid around although i can't be 100% sure Honestly i also seem to be attracted more to people from other races maybe because they are different from me idk☺
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I'm attracted for the same reason, and I know they are a lot of legit and loving ones. They used to be rare to see and that's when it all started picking up a bit. But then social medias really stared promoting it but in weird ways. Like #SwirlGame#SugarDaddy like just weird stuff. And the commentary say the reasons I listed above as their motivation to get in one. Not hating just sad to see it's not for loving the person. But I guess that comes later.
if both parties know what they r giving and expecting in a sugqr daddy relationship then cool do u! i doubt race has anything to do with that anyway. but i dont see this as a trend AT ALL. I've never seen a couple like this outside of the internet. jus saying
Seems to me that there shouldn't be any barriers to two adults who want to be together, hence it's totally healthy to see more of these couples.
When I had black girlfriends as a teenager and young adult 25-30 years ago, there was a lot of negative energy directed at this particular type of interracial coupling, mostly from black males.
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I said it's great that it's spreading diversity and openness. But I'm talking about some of the reasoning the people are getting together. That's what's sad sometimes. I love interracial couples, I literally said I'm in one.
Mixed race couples are great, but relationship types shouldn’t be trends. Partners aren’t fashion accessories.
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That's what I'm trying to get across to people. They think I'm targeting the couple's as a bad thing. But in not, I'm saying some of the reasoning is a little messed up.
Cuz many white guys are generally pussies and wimps and black women are strong and independent Conversely, the vice versa is also true, black guys are macho and independent and white girls are submissive and attracted to them
(This is the propaganda being pushed by the media, when displaying such commercials and sitcoms)
It's not a trend. It's just becoming more visible as people hide less. There is still a LOT of hostility against it, particularly by women who aren't in such a relationship.
I love it, I'm black my husband is white. I think a lot of white guys like black women and vice versa but both sides are still skeptical over one another because society wants us to hate one another.
I almost date white men exclusively. I say that because I will still date all races, but am highly attracted to white men. It is gearing up, but I think it’s more so in a “social and public” sense.
It isn't a trend. It's branching out. Not even 5 years ago people were saying it was racist not to date outside their race. Now people are complaining about it...
I'm not saying all of them are doing it because it's trendy or what's hot. I know for some it's branching out. I'm speaking about the reasons I've heard a lot of people say they're doing it for. Not all of them are. And I'm not complaining. I love interracial relationships, I'm in one. All I'm saying is a lot of them are looking like they're getting together for some sad reasons and I wish it was more of the falling in love with the person factors in there
Everything should be available to us whites. It just sucks that most black women don't look like her or remotely close to her.
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I've heard a bunch of people say this before. Seriously, lol where do you guys live because most of them do lol. Unless you're talking about some of them who've been in the hood a long time and lived a hard life. They just look strung out sometimes. However, middle class and up all look like the women you see.
Most of us do.. Stop letting the media show you how view Black women. Not to mention there are plenty of non-Black women who aren't that pretty. Stop degrading Black women.
I don't mind it and I wouldn't mind it the other way around where the black guys are dating white girls IF it wasn't JUST a trend
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I dont see why it's a big deal.. everyone has a type and should be able to date whoever they want
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I'm not saying it's bad and I said for whatever reason they're doing it from to each their own. All I'm saying is I'm seeing a lot of them dating for the reasons I listed above. Not all of them. It's just a little sad to see.
Yeah, extremely amongst black women. However, it's not really exercised that much outside of the internet because people aren't sure if the other person is attracted to them.
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