What is your biggest insecurity?

[Anonymous]

Does or has this insecurity prevented you from being your best self?

I'll go first. I hate my teeth. I would say I have a crooked smile. But, people always tell me I have a beautiful smile. Ironically enough lol.

[Anonymous]

It used to be my weight, but I’ve lost 130 pounds through diet and exercise. I have a feminine lean toned build but it’s hiding under some extra skin. Not too much to the point where there’s just loose skin flaps, but left me with crepey skin on my stomach and thighs.


As a 24 year old, this sucks. I want to be able to show off my new body in a teensy tiny bikini but the skin is just something that I don’t want people to see. I’m trying to overcome it, and I have seen some of the skin shrink due to working out and building muscle, but overall, I hate looking at it. My boyfriend tells me every chance he gets that I’m sexy and that he loves how soft my skin is, that I’m beautiful and that he can’t get enough of me, which is helping alter the way I view myself. This is my skin currently:

[Asker]

Girllllllll. You look amazing! Good food you. I'm about your age and I've been struggling to commit and lose weight for the longest! What was your motivation? When I met my boyfriend, I weighed significantly less. We recently just got back together and I've gained weight. He still loves me. But, I'm not loving myself. If you have advice. I'd love to here it. From what I see you look amazing!!;

[Opinion Owner]

Damn, thank you for that! The skin is definitely hard to get over, but I’m trying to appreciate my body after all that I have put it through.

My motivation? I was tired of being the fat friend mainly; I’ve always had a beautiful face but I had been overweight since I was about 7. People said the most horrible things and it really affected the way that I viewed myself. I would eat my feelings and because I was so young, I didn’t know anything about proper nutrition or exercise. It didn’t help that my dad was on chemotherapy and lost a lot of weight, skin and bones, and we, my mom and myself, needed to make sure he gained weight in order to survive, leading to all of us eating high caloric meals.

Anyways, bullying sucked and boys were too afraid to date the fat girl, regardless of how they actually felt about me— I actually talked with some of them and they confirmed this— and ultimately I became really depressed. I wanted to be able to wear tiny clothes like my friends and have the confidence to pull them off, both literally and figuratively lol, go on dates, have fun at parties, and be seen as something other than fat for once in my life.

Obviously, looking back on it, these were not good reasons to lose the weight. I understand now that being a healthy weight is important for my overall health and wellbeing. Healthy body=healthy mind=healthy soul.

Feeding myself the right foods and the right amount of food became a priority, and exercising became easier, especially knowing there would be results that would help me reach my body and mind goals.

If you’re looking for help, I’m on a Reddit forum for weight loss and that was helpful in hearing people’s stories and specifics on how they were achieving their goals.

I also use the app MyFitnessPal, the free version allows you to set obtainable goals and how to reach them, giving you the exact macros and calories needed to reach your goal. Hope that helped!

[Alyssa11]

I used to hate my teeth too but I invested in them and got them fixed and I feel SOO GOOD. 10/10 recommend!!


I don’t really have a major physical insecurity. It’s more of me feeling not good enough to be loved and cared for by anyone on a friendship level as well as a romantic one.

[Asker]

That second one is a tough one to overcome!!!

As far as your teeth, what did you get done if you don't mind me asking?

[Alyssa11]

Yes definitely! But I’m determined to over come it.

Sure. I got the classics braces and it fixed everything. It also made my lips more plump. Definitely worth the money, wait and pain!

[Asker]

Lips more plump?; Say what! Had no idea that could happen. I might have to just invest in the dental work lol.

[Alyssa11]

Trust me it's worth it! lol

[AlexanderAnttila]

Most of the time I have good confidence and I like pretty much everything about myself. But some times a small insecurity about my height flares up. I don't think I have a bad height, I'm just under 6' feet at 181-182cm (5'11), but yeah, sometimes I feel like a few extra cm might have elevated me much in attraction.

[Asker]

You have the height that many men dream of. Relish in it!!! You have a beautiful smile!!!😊

[AlexanderAnttila]

Thank you. That's very kind! :) I guess it's just a symptom of living in Sweden where so many people are really tall lol.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if girls even find any men (physically) attractive. Let alone those, who are not part of the top 20% of men.

I'm not fat, my face isn't deformed and i care about my health and i groom myself. Still wondering. Girls don't look at me a lot.

[Asker]

Plenty of my friends have dated or married average guys. I think you might be being hard on yourself my friend! Personally, I'm not attracted to super hot guys or overly buff guys.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not into being ripped like a hulk either. That's just way too much work for not so worthwhile results.
But I do care about my appearance and looks because I like being beautiful. Not primarily to impress the opposite sex but it's still nice to do that while I'm at it (because why not?). I've been involuntarily ugly before when i was younger. So I prefer being beautiful.

You said you are not attracted to "super hot guys". Maybe - just maybe - that could also be the reason why women wouldn't scope me out?

[thatkendy]

I hate everything i make because it isn't perfect so i don't try at all. But i want to be a writer one day so i do have to start.

[Asker]

This resonates with me! We can be so afraid to fail that we don't even try. We are biggest worst enemy and critic. Don't let you get in the way of your happiness and success. I'm the same way!

[lilyanony1]

Flawed skin. My ex made a big deal out of it. Like he didn't want to be seen with me without makeup and stuff.
I found him to be rather disgusting actually.
And I don't know why I ever gave myself to him.

[Asker]

That's absolutely disgusting on his part! A guy who's with you should like you inside before the outside. And he doesn't eff him! He's not in it for the right reasons. We love and we learn. I'm glad you're no longer with him!

[lilyanony1]

Thanks. I'm learning to pick better. 😊👍🏾

[Anonymous]

You know you get 1 life as far as we know. You're really gonna let what you think others are thinking about your teeth stop you from expressing yourself fully? I want to see you be brave girl.

[Asker]

Thank youuuuu. It's not so much what others think. It's what I think. I'm my worst enemy.

[Anonymous]

My teeth. My ex punched me in the face and knocked my two front teeth out. I had to have a bridge fitted and i hate it. It's the wrong size for the gap.

[Asker]

Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I'm happy that you are alive and well today. Hopefully, it's possible to get a better fit one day.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you. I hope i can as well. I'm self-conscious about my teeth. I won't look at photos of myslf before i had the bridge fitted. Some people accuse me of being vain. If only they knew the truth

[Asker]

Well, unfortunately people judge us without knowing the full picture. Take your time to do what's best for you so you can recover and heal completely.

[Joeshamo]

Scared to talk to girls (not professional, but romantically).

[Asker]

Why? We're human too!

[Joeshamo]

I know I’m just a pussy lmao.

[Joeshamo]

I mean, would a girl really like me? People always told me no, so I just thought they were right about me.

[Asker]

I think you should challenge yourself to have light hearted and quick banter with the women you encounter. Just so you can build up confidence!

[Joeshamo]

I’ll try. I’ve been trying to get out of comfort zone recently. Been trying to be more humble. But Its hard because I’m alway embarrassed and shy.

[Asker]

Have you ever considered taking a public speaking class at a community college? That helped me be less shy!

[Asker]

Or improv acting!!!

[Joeshamo]

I was going try karaoke 1st so that way I don’t have to think about articulating my thoughts. Just being I front of people.

[Joeshamo]

I’m in college now.

[Asker]

That's a good place to start! As long as you're comfortable!

[Anonymous]

Just me being insecure with my man. We live apart and I get insecure sometimes. Other than that, I am okay.

[Asker]

That's a good one. I totally get it. No one wants to feel out of sight and out of mind.

[scott04sa22]

Someone eyeing my crush and planning on stealing her from me.

[Asker]

Wooo. Has your partner given you reasons to be insecure? It takes two to tango.

[scott04sa22]

She’s prettier then their wives Because she’s Latina/Mexican

[Asker]

So, is she your woman or nah?

[scott04sa22]

Pending…

[Asker]

Welp, you don't have a right to what's not yours. Shoot your shot and be okay with whatever response you get.

[scott04sa22]

Where are at the process of getting to know each other. She’s trying to decide if I’m worth a shot or not. This stage of the relationship happens to everybody. Also lots of things to happen especially her status and her circumstances

[scott04sa22]

She has the looks but I don’t lol

[Tabasco25]

Being bald and having a big scar on my head from surgery when I was nine , my big jaw , how i may smell to others. 🤷

[Megakvnhanma]

Ha baldy

[Asker]

Smell totally something you can change. What happened when you were a kid?

[Tabasco25]

Just a cyst I was born with in between the brain and skull that was removed a week be fore my ninth birthday. As for the smell easy to change. Just take showers every day , deodorant, brush teeth , foot powder , body spray. More like I don't have sense of smell so I'm at everyone's mercy , Wich I tell them to let me know.

[Tabasco25]

Almost would have been put down if the doctors didn't give in to a CT scan after a year of migraines and flu like symptoms but it was worth going through.

[Megakvnhanma]

It was waste if you ask me

[Tabasco25]

Your jealous -pats your head- there there it ok first step of recovery is to admit you have a problem with the green eyed monster

[Megakvnhanma]

Whatever helps you sleep at night

[Tabasco25]

You do 😍😍🤗

[Asker]

Thank God it was removable!!! And even better that you're alive today! How does it feel to not have a sense of smell?

[Tabasco25]

I was born with out that sense so I really don't know any better. Just means if I bump a gas stove I won't know its on , or smell a skunk, or anything good smelling too.

[Asker]

I've never considered not having the sense of smell... Unless I'm sick of course. Do many memories are tired to smells. I'm so curious. I could bore you with questions. Thanks for sharing!!!

[Tabasco25]

I'm fine with questions , not sure if my answers will always make sense. No pun intended.

[Charliefretz329]

My sex drive is too high… I worry I can’t control it

[Charliefretz329]

I also worry about what lover’s would say if they knew I wanted to get my penis cut off

[Asker]

Are you like a nympho lol? I swear my guy has a high sex drive and he keeps me on my toes.🤣

[t-8900]

I'm too ugly and not enough man for a woman

[Asker]

Why do you think you're not man enough?

[t-8900]

Another guy always enters the picture at some point

[Megakvnhanma]

Ha, uggo

[Asker]

Speak positive vibes into the air.

[pickedcrisps]

Probably my teeth and jaw too.

[Asker]

I wish braces didn't cost so much or that adult Ortho was covered on most insurances. I'm seriously considering getting them.

[Recurrence]

My d is too curved and I’m really skinny

[Asker]

You'd be surprised, a lot of the ladies love a curved d. Don't be worried captain hook!

[Anonymous]

My teeth used to be not having boobs

[Asker]

Teeth seems to be a common one!

[ChefPapiChulo]

i dont have insecurities. I'm perfect in everyway.

[Asker]

Good for you Papi!

[Rachel794]

That I’m a virgin

[bananathunder]

that's actually pretty cool

[Rachel794]

@bananathunder Yeah I guess. Men who are virgins, society looks down on that.

[bananathunder]

are you a man?

[Rachel794]

@bananathunder No

[bananathunder]

ok just checking...

[Rachel794]

@bananathunder Ok

[bananathunder]

@Rachel794 how's it going girl?

[Rachel794]

@bananathunder Good.

[Asker]

There is no reason for you to be insecure about that! That is something that I would be proud of if I were you. That demonstrates that you have a lot of self control, self respect, and can't be pressured by society!

[Rachel794]

True! And thank you!

[Anonymous]

Too many things to enlist here.

[Asker]

We're in the same age bracket. So I feel you. I just chose my number one.

[Subarugirl]

My height

[WowwGirl]

You tall?

[Subarugirl]

@WowwGirl 6ft

[Asker]

I can see why that might be an insecurity. I've had some female friends like that, and they were some of the most gorgeous women ever!

[WowwGirl]

@Subarugirl don't be it's a blessing I'm 5'9 . Those are good genes not bad

[WowwGirl]

We would survive longer in cave man days because we could reach higher to pick food

[_no_one_]

Shitty past

[Asker]

Does anyone know your past? Are you striving to become a better version of yourself each day?

[_no_one_]

Yeah, most people do. I am not really trying to be a better version of myself it's just most people dont even know the real version of me and there are some habits that i need to get rid of coz those are the main reason of such insecurities.

[Asker]

Change starts with you. Work towards your goals and dreams. Define who you are.

[Danny_dan92]

My height

[Asker]

If you don't mind me asking, how tall are you?

[Danny_dan92]

5’6.

[Asker]

In our society, I could see why that might make you a bit insecure.

[Danny_dan92]

Yes.

[Alyssa11]

I used to like this guy the same height as u. I liked him for 2 years and I’m 5”7. His personality and face and body was very appealing to me lol.

[Danny_dan92]

Used to**

[Asker]

@danny_dan92 it might be his character that was the problem!

[Danny_dan92]

Ahh ok. So he ended up being a piece of shit that was 5’6 tall

[Iron_Man]

Death…

[Asker]

Whoooooa. That's deep.

[Iron_Man]

Yes it is