How do people do that aggressive posture thingy?

[lovelyautumtrees]

Well I’m at school and I’m noticing some students have an aggressive and intimidating type of posture, and I tend to get a little scared lol. I’m not really sure how they’re doing it. It doesn’t even matter if they have muscles or they’re very tall. How do they do this?

[Effably]

Body language is really fun!

If you have a mirror you can try standing normally. Then try to stand straight. Stretch out to your full height. It is not about being tall but about the messaging this act has.

Then, more space taken is generally more intimidating. Legs, arms, shoulders, let all of them claim some extra space. You're not a blowfish so stay in what is comfortable and a tiny bit more.

Beyond this, authority is often intimidating. An easy way to integrate that is to use symmetrical stances. If you are sitting with one arm forward and one leaning back, that is a relaxed pose. If both arms are spread out in a half circle, symmetrically, that is instead more in charge.

Of course most of us are not aware of our body language, or at least not details of it. But I think those are some small things you can try with a mirror to get a basic grasp on stuff. A theatre or body language class could be a very fun project to look into.

[lovelyautumtrees]

oh so straight body language usually looks aggressive?

[lovelyautumtrees]

it’s good to look confident but does straight look aggressive?

[Effably]

It looks more in charge. You could crouch in a "going to leap" pose as well. The defensive act is also potentially intimidating.

But yes. Grap a mirror and mess around with it. If nothing else you might gain a tad of respect for good actors as they must all learn this stuff. How to look any which way.

[Effably]

When interacting with dogs, leaning forward while stretched out is generally a threatening stance. I imagine you can attempt that.

I don't really know what scares you! But if you know any actors ask them to teach you.

[lovelyautumtrees]

Hmm how would I make myself look more intimidating at school?

[DaveJord]

Well to me it takes a degree of insecurity, where you unintentionally put people off as a defense mechanism to avoid having to deal with people or being messed with. It's not something you can truly master if you do not have the right personality or predisposed mentality.

But I would just leave them alone regardless, no need to poke the bear. But in life people are far more successful when they have a kind and open demeanor.

[lovelyautumtrees]

How would I be able to do this as a shy person? I know it’s wrong, but it’s only temporary

[DaveJord]

Don't talk to her, or avoid her all together. try to keep everything to yes or no questions and answers... if say anything about it just tell her you a shy person that doesn't like to talk that much. She will get the hint. Its not lying if you are shy and you do not like talking to bitches... its just the honest truth.

[Agape93]

Invading personal space, puffing chest or crossing their arms, leaning forward etc.

Just don't flinch away. Stand straight and tall, don't try and shrink yourself to be visually smaller or weaker.

[DryGermanGuy]

They picked it up in juvenile detention. Or watching the local pimp at work. 🤔🙃😬

[Fukaroo]

How long are their necks? Sounds like a bunch of pricks who need to put a hunch on their backs.

[jimmy2]

Lol it could be a lot of things

[lovelyautumtrees]

Like what?