Do you think its good to admit what insecurities you have or should you keep that stuff private?

[Still-alive]

Like i freely admit i still get a little insecure when people dont reply to me especially in the beginning when getting to know a person.

I have a few other insecurities too but do you think its a good idea to admit what they are? Or how do you generally feel about acknowledging your insecurities generally?

Yeah its good to identify your insecurities

No you should keep that stuff private

Its neither good nor bad in my opinion

I have a different opinion (say what)

[1GoldTwins]

You should share them if you think we can help you with them!

What's more important is that you don't keep quiet about those insecurities TO YOURSELF! Swallow that pride, admit them, recognize that you have it, and take it on!

[Still-alive]

grrr i like that attitude!

[Lyndsielee666]

I let people know so they know wtf they’re getting into Lmfao

[Still-alive]

Exactly lol. its just informing them of something they gotta know

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

It's good to communicate but I've learned to keep some stuff to myself until I trust them enough. Which takes awhile because I've been crapped on way too many times. My guard is damn near impossible to get through.

[Still-alive]

I noticed :)

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Noticed what 🤔

[Still-alive]

Your guard is up often

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Ah ok.

[Sorrento-Sun]

I don't believe in disclosing insecurities early on, during the early stages of dating. You can be judged harshly for it. A potential partner is more likely to be turned off before they get to know you on a deeper level.

For example, if a guy told right away he feels insecure if I don't text him right back , I'd worry in case he became too clingy or controlling. I'd probably back off him.

But if I knew him on a deeper level first , I wouldn't assume that because I'd have already gotten to know his personality. So I'd know if he was controlling or clingy.

[Still-alive]

Eh if a woman actually stops talking to me after I mention it its her loss. Im a human being they need to realize that

[Sorrento-Sun]

Most people are like that though. It's easy to misjudge people if you don't know them. I'd never disclose my insecurities to someone I hardlly know.

[Still-alive]

That'll just thin out the heard in my opinion. separates all the good from the bad to me

[Sorrento-Sun]

Everyone is different I guess.

[19magic]

At the moment I'm not dating I've got a lot of shit to sort through -though I've been saying that since I was 19 so apparently I don't do that great of a job lol.
But I think there needs to be a balance and depending on what type of insecurity it is you need to check yourself and hold back on it. Like myself I think I deserve shit, that I don't deserve anything good, if someone is really nice to me I'm thinking what is it they want. If it's a positive remark on myself I rarely if ever believe it. And if someone good comes along I try to sabotage it somehow. Its why I've gone for more broken guys nowadays, the more put together guys are too good for me.

And then this is why I don't tell people my insecurities because all it does is speak damaged.

[Maybe_1day]

I've thought about this a lot.
In some case it's ok, or rather it should be ok. After all when we trust our SO don't we wanna be straight and direct without any hide and seek?
Yes. We think this way, but then again on the other hand we are seen as weak. For example if we have insecurity towards our SO having too many male friends, and that we are somehow jealous, then think twice. Get ready to be accused of scared, jealous, control freek whatsoever.. and most importantly "Don't you trust me"!
And if we do not share our insecurities, which we believe our SO should at least understand us better than anyone else... Then where is the honesty?
It's a two way road my friend.
1. You share, be prepared for anything that comes up.
2. Don't share, then it just kills you more and more.
Try to find a way to communicate and express your insecurities without being or looking weak, or just be blunt. It's ok for our SO's to know our flaws.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

It can be a double edged sword, but I also find being vulnerable is a good way to subtly find out if a woman is a "keeper" or not. If I admit to some vulnerability and she becomes immediately distant or even disgusted, that's an 'honest signal' telling me she's not capable of an emotionally reciprocal relationship. If she responds by being nurturing, or in a gently inquisitive way that invites further open discussion, then it tells me she's someone I can place emotional stock in. I wouldn't pile on all mt insecurities all at once though, coz that can be tpo much for even the most kind and sensitive woman to take in.

[Blackcosmo]

It's really helpful to share your insecurities but I feel like you should trust the person enough first.

[Still-alive]

Indeed. Sometimes i just get a good vibe from someone from the get go though. And usually im right. And if anyone really does actually use them against me i just drop em

[Blackcosmo]

Definitely. Sometimes insecurities get worse if someone uses them against you though.

[Still-alive]

It used to affect me but im at a point where i have enough confidence built up to withstand most attacks like that

[Blackcosmo]

That's great to hear :)

[Qdbrown]

First off, never listen to women on this subject. They will tell you that they love a guy to bare all, and be in touch with his feelings.

A moment later she is trying to be with the most sociopathic guy that can talk her out of all her standards and rules, not to mention panties, and never look back to the the sad little emotional man.

[PinkCloud7]

I think it's important to know your own insecurities and it IS important to share them but not to combat them, necessarily.

I feel like if I'm feeling vulnerable about something, it's a good idea to share it with my SO and see if they catch/support me. It creates this warm feeling of trust and connection for me. Naturally, it's not every little thing, but in general it's a way for me to feel cared for and grateful:)

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I think it's a good thing, but with the right people, and not everyone.

To give you an example - there's a reason I always wear long-sleeved shirts and never bare my chest. My wife and a few other people know this and accept and love me for who I am. I posted a shirtless picture of myself here once as an anon - post got deleted and my account got frozen for three days.

[menina]

I think it's ok to admit your insecurities but only to people who you really trust. If you're just trying to get to know someone that's not a good idea. If they're not trustworthy they might use your insecurities against you.

Plus, we all have our insecurities. No one is 100% confident.

[RACSKC0B]

You keep saying that when people use your insecurities against that you "... just drop them...". Do you mean your insecurities, the person from your life, or do you mean you start swinging?

[Still-alive]

Stop talking to them

[RACSKC0B]

Fair enough.

[ChrisMaster69]

I’m fairly open with how I am

admittedly for 3-4 days this week I’ve been drunk and also off my head.

[Still-alive]

yikes. were you with friends while drunk?

[ChrisMaster69]

Nah
Just me and what was a lot of whisky
Expensive and lovely whisky tbh.

[Marshymallow]

Be careful sharing lol. Some people may use it against you. Depends on how comfortable you are

[Still-alive]

Pretty comfortable

[Screenwriter]

IT depends on who and when you're telling this stuff. Minor insecurities, sure. Major ones: Save them for later in a relationship or with close friends.

[ShadezMcgee]

Figure out insecurities and learn to deal with them yourself. Never spill them to those you don't trust much less know little about.

Be selective with that.

[UdosUNDERDEVELOPMENT]

In ideal existences we would be able to talk about anything we have on our minds , but due to there being so much chaos in compatibilities we are often mis alligned for the conversations that take place with others.

[Pink2000]

People will use it against you. It’s best to keep it to yourself.

[Still-alive]

ehh if they do thats when i drop them

[Adam1978]

No reason to communicate your flaws, focus on fixing them instead. Aslong as you are aware of them, you can work on them.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Insecurities are pretty obvious to me so no need to tell I’ll figure it out

[Still-alive]

What do you do when you figure them out? are they ever a deal breaker?

[whiskeyontherocks]

Everyone got them
If I’m friend or significant other than I’m going to try and protect you from your own insecurities until you take them out on me than I’m out

[Cherry234]

I don't think it's good or bad. Everyone has insecurities so they're nothing to be ashamed of.

[Plinko]

I don't know man. I keep my personal bullshit out of other people's previews until I can at least discover the root of my insecurities.

[Plinko]

Lmao, previews? Really phone?
Purviews*

[sweeeetestt]

It depends who you are telling. It’s good to admit to a well trusted person who is willing to help

[Grl2live_nlearn4u]

I think it's a good thing to do. Some of my insecurities secrets I share anon though.

[CallmeTheKnight]

It actually is. It takes courage to admit how you feel and be open about certain things. That's confidence

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yeah it's good to identify your insecurities

[Luopio27]

Keep them with those in the closest friendzones but not in dates. Thats how I have been. Girls love confidence and hate insecurities.

[Blueeyes81]

People often pick up on others insecurities by simple observation. So no need to talk about ig.

[Guardian45]

I think its good to admit them to an SO, but NOT in the courting phase. After you become better acquainted, trusting and accepting.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

It's good to be aware of our insecurities. But we can only share them with the ones close to us.

[VaasMontenegro]

You should keep it to yourself when it comes to wahmen because they will use it against you later on. A man might do the same but it's more unlikely

[pizzalovershouse]

Some stuff should be said or else you get depression

[llorando]

Yeah its good to identify your insecurities and to share them with your SO.

[Deathraider]

Only if you feel like admitting it. No pressure.

[Apulu_Imback]

Depends on the insecurity.

[Still-alive]

Whats an insecurity you shouldn't admit?

[Apulu_Imback]

Something which is personal and shows your weak point. Otherwise others may use that for their advantage. Simple insecurities like one you said is okay to share.

Let's say you are insecure about your relationship. Don't tell it to anyone rather than people you can trust otherwise others with bad intentions may take the advantage.

[Drumlin2001]

You should be open about it. It's not a weakness, and hiding it will just chew you up

[Chthou95]

If you're a dude, keep that shit to yourself

[Still-alive]

Why?

[Chthou95]

Because those that preach men should open up their insecurities are usually full of shit

[Bellafioref]

No need to say it.

[Still-alive]

how come?

[Bellafioref]

As much as I think it's nice to be open about your feelings, people will only respect this when you say it, but as soon as you turn your back or they get mad at you, they will use absolutely everything you said against you because now they know your fragility. It's what people do. I made the mistake of being too open about my insecurities and have had someone tell me I deserved to be raped and that I wanted it. Bottom line, work on yourself and on being aware of your insecurities to improve, but don't let anyone use them to put you down.

[Still-alive]

i do understand this yes. but i do choose carefully who to really tell my insecurities to. if they actually do use them against me thats when i drop them.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Private

[Slim57]

It's good